OPPOSITE SEX AND SAME SEX LOVE HAVE DIFFERENT FUNCTIONS AND PUPOSES

[tenni]

This thread is for bisexuals who are able to be emotionally /romantically attracted to both genders and physically sexually attracted to both genders. IT IS NOT FOR PEOPLE WHO ARE ONLY ATTRACTED PHYSICALLY TO BOTH GENDERS (not cockcentric guys). If you are not capable of an emotional attachment to both genders, this will probably not be an issue for you.

The idea comes from another source.

Opposite sex and same sex love have different functions and purposes.
It makes sense that you can love him (almost) as much as your woman. I'd say it makes sense that you love him just as much as you love her or more or less or whatever. It makes sense because the function your love for him and the function your love for her fulfill are two different functions.


You must differentiate between the two very clearly. something like this.
• Opposite sex love and intimacy, e.g. with your wife = bonding with the opposite sex, pairing up with a woman of your own, forming a household, starting a family, making a home
• Same sex love and intimacy, e.g. with your friend = bonding with the same sex, feeling fully connected with (an)other dude(s), building life-long rock-solid friendships with other guys, having a guy whose help you know you can rely in the rough times (and being a guy on whose help he knows he can rely)

If you are a bisexual that experiences emotional love for both genders what are your thoughts?

[elian]

Makes sense, although I know there are some guys who want to play house too..I used to like this idea, but any more I kind of like the idea of partners having a more or less equal role in the relationship...I'm not there to change anyone else to suit me, if I wanted to be with myself I could do that easily enough.

I have to admit, that is what I am seeking, a very strong bond with another male.

This is sort of a sad way to look at it but a lot of folks who have experienced same sex attraction have been hurt, and I think sometimes we instinctively are drawn toward what we know, someone like us - in order to heal?

[pole_smoker]

Both myself and my husband are bisexual men who are both sexually and romantically attracted to both sexes.

Romance and love are all the same to the both of us no matter who the person is or what their sex/gender is.

[charles-smythe]

This thread is for bisexuals who are able to be emotionally /romantically attracted to both genders and physically sexually attracted to both genders. IT IS NOT FOR PEOPLE WHO ARE ONLY ATTRACTED PHYSICALLY TO BOTH GENDERS (not cockcentric guys). If you are not capable of an emotional attachment to both genders, this will probably not be an issue for you.

The idea comes from another source.

Opposite sex and same sex love have different functions and purposes.
It makes sense that you can love him (almost) as much as your woman. I'd say it makes sense that you love him just as much as you love her or more or less or whatever. It makes sense because the function your love for him and the function your love for her fulfill are two different functions.


You must differentiate between the two very clearly. something like this.
• Opposite sex love and intimacy, e.g. with your wife = bonding with the opposite sex, pairing up with a woman of your own, forming a household, starting a family, making a home
• Same sex love and intimacy, e.g. with your friend = bonding with the same sex, feeling fully connected with (an)other dude(s), building life-long rock-solid friendships with other guys, having a guy whose help you know you can rely in the rough times (and being a guy on whose help he knows he can rely)

If you are a bisexual that experiences emotional love for both genders what are your thoughts? …do you think because a cocksucker doesn’t kiss & cuddle that he can’t develop a friendship & bond with another male?…a bond doesn’t require kissing & cuddling…only mutual liking & respect…

[tenni]

Charles
The way that I understand what the writer is stating is this. If you have love and emotional attachment without kissing and hugging it doesn't matter about the personal physical interaction used. The emotional attraction goes beyond liking and respect if it is an emotional attraction but it may grow out of those feelings. Those are good ways of treating other men though. The writer refers to feeling connected to the other man and life long solid male friendship regardless about how you physically demonstrate your emotional connection. The writer refers to a different purpose in same sex relationships compared to opposite sex relationship. Both gender relationships fullfil an emotional need beyond a physical sex act. Male bonding is different than male female bonding in the writer's mind.

Elian
I don't think that many bisexual men turn to thinking about shared living but that may happen if they don't feel the need to bond emotionally with both genders. I do think that there are some/many bisexual men who want the bonding emotional aspect with another man. They don't know how to get it to work and still have a relationship with a woman as well. They want to bond emotionally in some format with both genders. Sometimes, it may be with a best male friend or some guy that they meet at work that they begin to feel emotionally close to. They move beyond platonic friendship feelings.

[Gearbox]

I don't think I love my male partner any different that I loved my ex gf (mother of my child). Their 'functions' had no influence on my love.
The questions seem to imply that love & sexual attraction has goals. I don't think so!
What gender we go looking for to date & form bonds has goals as a motive. But who we are sexually attracted to and have the capacity to love has nothing to do with our 'life choices' or much to do with anything rational IMO.
In fact, where love is concerned you can forget rational!:rolleyes:

I decided to look for a male partner and not a female partner years ago. That was the only conscious decision I could make on that matter. I had a goal to explore m-m partnerships & love beyond just sex, get myself out of the closet, understand & accept myself etc etc. So yes, my m-m bonding attempts had specific functions.

Sadly, even tho I met a few 'ideal' men and dated them, I just didn't (or couldn't?) feel that love for them. It would have been so 'sensible' to.
My present male partner came along and I felt it almost instantly. Seeing as he lives 130m's away, I wouldn't say it was the makings of an ideal relationship.lol But there yu go....you don't get to pick the ones you can love. You just get lucky finding them.

[tenni]

Gear
I'm not sure if the writer was referring to picking just one partner. I think that what he proposes is that for some bisexuals they want both genders because they get different things from each gender. You seem to have chosen to select one gender and that gender functions for your needs. The emotional attraction is for both genders and emotionally are capable of loving more than one person and gender. It is a different kind of love depending on which gender the other people have.

[Melody Dean]

Interesting, because I was talking about this the other day about different types of relationships. Our conversation was only about opposite gender relationships though. And this is exactly what I was trying to explain. I'm not sure if it's really an opposite gender thing, but more of a romantic versus friendly sexual relationship. I'd change it to this:

• Romantic love and intimacy, e.g. with your husband/wife = bonding, pairing up with a partner, forming a household, starting a family, making a home
• Friendly love and intimacy, e.g. with your friend = bonding, feeling connected with another person, building rock-solid friendships, having a someone whose help you know you can rely in the rough times (and being a friend on whose help he knows he can rely)

Almost like the difference between making love, having sex, and fucking.

I have my husband, who I love dearly, who is my partner for life, who is the focus of my romantic feelings. He always comes first. When we make love, the residual emotional feelings stay with me for days.
I also have a FWB who I share a variety of interests with , enjoy conversing with, and will help out when I can. One of those interests happens to be sex. When we have sex, the next day, we're just friends again.

In this particular case, they are both male, but wouldn't have to be.

[charles-smythe]

Interesting, because I was talking about this the other day about different types of relationships. Our conversation was only about opposite gender relationships though. And this is exactly what I was trying to explain. I'm not sure if it's really an opposite gender thing, but more of a romantic versus friendly sexual relationship. I'd change it to this:

• Romantic love and intimacy, e.g. with your husband/wife = bonding, pairing up with a partner, forming a household, starting a family, making a home
• Friendly love and intimacy, e.g. with your friend = bonding, feeling connected with another person, building rock-solid friendships, having a someone whose help you know you can rely in the rough times (and being a friend on whose help he knows he can rely)

Almost like the difference between making love, having sex, and fucking.

I have my husband, who I love dearly, who is my partner for life, who is the focus of my romantic feelings. He always comes first. When we make love, the residual emotional feelings stay with me for days.
I also have a FWB who I share a variety of interests with , enjoy conversing with, and will help out when I can. One of those interests happens to be sex. When we have sex, the next day, we're just friends again.

In this particular case, they are both male, but wouldn't have to be. …just curious…does your husband know you have a FWB?...& that he’s male?...if he doesn’t don’t tell him…it will do no one any good…

[Melody Dean]

…just curious…does your husband know you have a FWB?...& that he’s male?...if he doesn’t don’t tell him…it will do no one any good…


Yes, my husband and I have an open marriage.

[charles-smythe]

Yes, my husband and I have an open marriage.

…cool…

[darkeyes]

No.. as best I can tell vested interests (not all str8 if I may say so) wish it to appear so and would prefer it to remain so, and by accepting their view, whether gay, str8, bi, trans, intersex or ne thing else we will remain divided and often bigoted...we will never accept each other as what we truly are... human beings who love and fall in love with other human beings and are loved in return... :)

[charles-smythe]

No.. as best I can tell vested interests (not all str8 if I may say so) wish it to appear so and would prefer it to remain so, and by accepting their view, whether gay, str8, bi, trans, intersex or ne thing else we will remain divided and often bigoted...we will never accept each other as what we truly are... human beings who love and fall in love with other human beings and are loved in return... :) …sounds good to me…

[tenni]

darkeyes
What post are you commenting on in post 12????

[charles-smythe]

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[pole_smoker]

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[charles-smythe]

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[darkeyes]

darkeyes
What post are you commenting on in post 12????
The premise posed...

...and a bit overcooked wiv the question marks, Tenni, me luffly...:tongue:;)

[tenni]

Post 16, 17 & 18 ? What do these posts have to do with the emotional love for both man and women as far as function and purpose?

Sorry darkeyes you have too many pronouns without noun antecedents clearly present to understand what you wrote. ie "we" Who are they?

vested interests (not all str8 if I may say so) wish it to appear so and would prefer it to remain so, and by accepting their view,

Who has vested interest?
"it" are you referring to emotional love having different functions and purposes based on whether the other person is same sex or opposite sex?

[charles-smythe]

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[darkeyes]

Post 16, 17 & 18 ? What do these posts have to do with the emotional love for both man and women as far as function and purpose?

Sorry darkeyes you have too many pronouns without noun antecedents clearly present to understand what you wrote. ie "we" Who are they?

vested interests (not all str8 if I may say so) wish it to appear so and would prefer it to remain so, and by accepting their view,

Who has vested interest?
"it" are you referring to emotional love having different functions and purposes based on whether the other person is same sex or opposite sex?
"We" is humanity... "vested interests" are whoever and whatever (individual, group and/or institution) wish to divide and oppress humanity for long known historical reasons.. it is quite simple, for such vested interests have only ever accepted love of any kind between people for any reason whatsoever on their terms.... so by "it" I mean love between same or different sex people... I really don't see ur difficulty, tenni darlin'.. :)

[tenni]

"We" is humanity... "vested interests" are whoever and whatever (individual, group and/or institution) wish to divide and oppress humanity for long known historical reasons.. it is quite simple, for such vested interests have only ever accepted love of any kind between people for any reason whatsoever on their terms.... I really don't see ur difficulty, tenni darlin'.. :)

Referring to humanity is not the same as bisexual experiencing same gender and opposite gender emotional love for both (at the same time). Add to this that bisexuals may have emotional love for different purposes for both genders.

Historically, I have not read such situation previously. I have read about a heterosexual feeling love emotions for more than one cross gender people. I've also read such person being question that can not be true. You may only love one. Add to the premise that for some bisexuals perceive the love for different genders as having a different purpose and function. The bisexual's need to be with a man is different than his need to be with a woman..emotionally.

Chuck seems very mature today...lol

[pole_smoker]

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[charles-smythe]

Post 16, 17 & 18 ? What do these posts have to do with the emotional love for both man and women as far as function and purpose?

Sorry darkeyes you have too many pronouns without noun antecedents clearly present to understand what you wrote. ie "we" Who are they?

vested interests (not all str8 if I may say so) wish it to appear so and would prefer it to remain so, and by accepting their view,

Who has vested interest?
"it" are you referring to emotional love having different functions and purposes based on whether the other person is same sex or opposite sex? …If we’re on ignore…how did you even see these posts?...I saw yours on darkeyes post…no one quoted those 3 so how did you see them?...perhaps you don’t really have us on ignore…when all is said & done…you can’t NOT read our posts…

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[pole_smoker]

…If we’re on ignore…how did you even see these posts?...I saw yours on darkeyes post…no one quoted those 3 so how did you see them?...perhaps you don’t really have us on ignore…when all is said & done…you can’t NOT read our posts…

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Exactly Tenni can't help but see what we post and then flame/attack claiming all the BS he usually does.

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[charles-smythe]

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[pole_smoker]

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[charles-smythe]

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[pole_smoker]

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