Where to start - possible first bisexual experience

[CuriousBi2015]

Hi all

new member from the UK to the site. After some advice on what might be my first bisexual experience, I'm a member on AFF and have been chatting with a couple for a while and things have developed to the meet up stage.

I'm embarrassed that I am still a virgin at 36, it's not for any reason just the way my life has gone so far with work, moving locations resulting in no social life etc, it just has never happened. I'd like to think I was relatively normal otherwise, but my virgin status is becoming a bigger problem every year and a huge embarrassment.

Anyway, the last few years I have definitely become very curious on the bisexual side of things. I particularly enjoy gay and bisexual porn and decided to do something about my virgin status this year. I'm hoping that the meet up will proceed, it will be me and a couple, with the action just between the guy and myself with the woman watching. I'm fine with this and find the prospect exciting but extremely nerve wracking.

I'd welcome any tips on how to proceed as I've never done anything like this before.

[sysper]

well congratulations on having the courage to decide to try something new! totally understandable that ur nervous. it's a new thing for u so ur not completely use to the idea. but hopefully ur curiosity & enthusiasm will overcome ne jitters u might have in bed. i assume u have been upfront about ur sexual history with this couple. they should be aware. to be honest it might be alot of pressure on some people if they are somebody's 1st. but then there are some people who wanna say "let's finally give this poor guy the pleasure he has been hungering for :) the only question i have about this couple is why u wouldn't want nething directly to do with her? maybe it's cause u don't wanna mix sexes in the same experiance. i know i kinda feel that way. although 1 of my fantasies is to fool around with him & puton a show for her! or maybe that's how they want it. as long as u are all in agreement i don't see ne reason why u shouldn't go for it! the only advise i can really give is keep communicating with the couple. let them be aware of ur feelings & make sure ur aware of there's. keep talking & meeting up. don't plan on something ur not ready for. besides i think if u keep talking the right time will just come & u will know it. also don't be disappointed if they stop responding. i have placed add's & responded to them. i kept in contact with people & all seemed to be going fine but then 1 day they stop responding. it doesn't bother me too much i just keep on trying & hope the right guy or right couple comes along & we make it to bed :) make sure u try a few sites too & don't be afraid to look for add's allready out there u might find the people u like that way too. goodluck & keep us posted!!!!!

[CuriousBi2015]

Thanks for the reply sysper. :)

To answer a couple of your questions, the couple know my sexual status, I am a very honest person so came out with that very early on. Secondly it was the couple that mentioned that it would be just myself and the guy with her watching to start with, I'm more than happy to play with both of them!

They did stop responding for about two months after our initial chats but then last week started again and a hotel has been mentioned so I'm hoping things will develop. I'll update here if they do!

[sysper]

then u have got better luck than me.........if they have started contact again i hope it goes far :)

[pole_smoker]

When you say you're a virgin does that mean you've never had sex with either a woman or a man?

Don't put all your eggs into one basket with a couple that does major red flags and very flaky things like pretending to be serious about actually meeting and having sex, and then backing off and not contacting you at all for months at a time.

Instead find a single bi or gay guy either inexperienced, or experienced and have sex with a man and do whatever it is you want to do for sex.

[Melody Dean]

Thanks for the reply sysper. :)

To answer a couple of your questions, the couple know my sexual status, I am a very honest person so came out with that very early on. Secondly it was the couple that mentioned that it would be just myself and the guy with her watching to start with, I'm more than happy to play with both of them!

They did stop responding for about two months after our initial chats but then last week started again and a hotel has been mentioned so I'm hoping things will develop. I'll update here if they do!

Some women just prefer to watch at first. *raises hand* Also, they could be doing it for you, giving you just one step at a time. A threesome for your first time would be pretty intense.

I have to agree with Pole though, the lack of communication is a red flag, unless you know why you got the radio silence there for a while.

[cuttin2dachase]

I discovered I was orally bi because of my 1st ex-wife who wanted to do WAY more than just watch LOL. She had a longtime fantasy from before we even met to watch AND help two men do each other orally. Swinging for us came naturally due to our adventurous, push-the-envelope natures. She kept hinting at and coaxing me to open up to the possibility of oral sex with men during 4somes with couples and 3somes with men. I finally did try it during a hot 4some with a bi couple. Although I was not a virgin, my mouth was a virgin to fellatio and I loved it ! It came naturally to me (no pun intended). I felt liberated and knew that a whole 'nother kind of fun and pleasurable sex had just been revealed to me. Not to mention that I also felt very comfortable having a man pleasure me and that my wife and his wife got off on watching and helping.

I wish you well for your 1st time with either or both genders. It's all about the comfort level among the 3 of you. As Mel said, you must communicate. Set the ground rules and limits for the encounter before you meet or do it at the meet before anyone takes off their clothes. If you are all relaxed and comfortable and there's no undue pressure, I am sure you'll do just fine (and be done just fine too !) As happened with me, I believe that having a woman present to watch and encourage you and her man, it will come naturally for you, too. Also I hope it will work out that she does more than watch and also introduce you to the pleasures of cunnilingus and intercourse :) Please do inform all of us swinging bi pervs how it goes/went LOL