Question for Crossdressers

[ziggybabie]

I'm a smaller guy whose had some experience with women, but more with guys. Bottom, mainly. Usually fairly masculine in real everyday life, but have strong submissive crossdressing fantasies about watching straight porn while roleplaying as the female, and imitating the scenes. It seems some of my fantasies don't appeal to a lot of guys who are into crossdressing. They like to take it easier, slower or more "sensual" or different other reasons.

I'm not knocking that, but, I guess what I'm asking is how many CD guys like sex a bit rough or to be dominated? Or have at least fantasized about it? I mean, I don't even consider wanting to be dominated a little an issue of respect. I'm not talking about S&M level rough stuff, just hairpulling, trashtalking, ass-slapping, spitting, being ordered on my knees, gagging, type stuff. Just aggressive or fast n hard sex and that's it.

Who else gets off on this idea? Being a smaller skinnier guy, I have been told that I'm the perfect build for this type of fantasy. Just never met the right person/people who met the right qualifications to help me out with that. Besides, I'm kinda unsure how the real thing would play out compared to my fantasies. I've only been with 3 guys, it's been a long while since I've been with an aggressive top who could take charge. Anyway.....comments?

[ScifiBiJen]

Well to start off: I might not be exactly the audience you were looking for. I'm female and I'm not exactly sure that I'm a crossdresser. I've strongly considered going further into guy-wear from time to time. I wouldn't label myself a crossdresser at all, but that's because I have an altered view of the grey area between genders (PM me about "gender performance" if you want me to expand... it's a bit long for here) :tongue:

Anyway, I understand your comparison with body figure. I'm not a huge person in any way, but I am built to have a large body frame ("large" compared to the Caucasian American beauty standard) . Diet or not, my bone structure is what it's going to be... and that's not a size 3. So I'm not in keeping with my culture's images of female beauty (esp. when you add in my skin tone, hair quality, etc.) I'm never gonna be the delicate, fragile, blown over by a swift breeze girl I associate with submissive women.

But I do get turned on by images and fantasies of dominant women, something I could definitely hold my own in. Like you said, not S&M level stuff, but very "I'm calling the shots here" stuff. Is that because my body type puts me in more of a "masculine" role and in the powerful position, physically? Maybe.

Of course it is possible to have big, buff guys who want to be in the submissive role and tiny girls who want to be dominant. But I wonder how much of a factor comes from the association of our bodies to the "feminine - masculine" scale.


I'd def be interested to hear other people's perspectives...

[Driver 8]

I don't know how common it is as a percentage of crossdressers, but lots of submissive guys are interested in some kind of gender play.

And I think that what you've described would fit just fine in BDSM. It's not playing as heavy as some people go, but I've found that there are plenty of people in the community who don't feel like it's some kind of competition. Around here there are a fair number of CDs on the scene, and I'm sure they're not all into soft sensuality ;)

As for body type ... I think there are as many people playing against their type as with it. One of the first BDSM players I ever knew, a submissive, told me that she liked the way her larger body was an asset; tops considered it a larger canvas.

[DiamondDog]

my friend's husband is bi and a hardcore bottom/submissive and he enjoys the "forced feminization" that can accompany BDSM (i.e.-"forced" cross dressing). You'd never know it if you saw him since he is the macho Italian type and a big flirt. ;)

[brandie]

welome to the life girl.thats how we all begin.its always fun and sexual to start with and then you grow with it.so don't be afraid,explore a little and see what happens.

[becksbolero]

Personally i think crossdressers are hot,enjoy trying it at least once.