bi friend is upset he gave me head for 45+ mins and I didn't cum

[groove311]

First time I let him suck me for over 1 hour. Then second time for 45 mins but I couldn't cum both times.
Then he said he was upset I didn't cum. Now I ask him for head and he doesn't want to anymore.

Is this normal? I thought bi guys didn't mind sucking for hours. I never thought he would get upset if I didn't cum.
I enjoyed it though.

[hornyd0055]

He may feel that you're really not turned on. Sucking for a long time does take it's toll on the jaw muscles.

[pole_smoker]

It's normal a lot of men don't ejaculate from getting sucked off.

I can't ejaculate at all from getting sucked, even being sucked for hours. It doesn't matter if it's a woman or man sucking me off.

Since you don't cum from being sucked off by your fuck buddy you should tell him how you'll suck him off, or 69 with him.

[tenni]

Well, it seems to matter to this guy. Some guys want to see the other guy's cum. If this is usual for you, let any guy know that you tend not to cum too easily. Offer to finish yourself off if seeing cum shooting is his goal.

It can depend on the age of the man as well. Younger guys tend to shoot faster and have a problem delaying the orgasm. It probably has less to do with bisexuality than it has to do with male anatomy , dick sensitivity and aging.

[elian]

Part of the pleasure of doing what your friend was doing is knowing that you can pleasure someone so much it brings them to orgasm. If he tried twice for an hour each time consider yourself lucky.. His mouth was probably physically numb and sore both times from that amount of activity.

There are a laundry list of things that could have happened to prevent you from orgasming.

The one at the top of the list that I can think of is probably "nervous" - if you don't trust the guy or yourself, you can't relax and enjoy what is happening...this happens to me a lot if I try to force something to happen. (by force I don't mean "rape" - we were both more than willing - but the body does not respond on command to some things). I'm tired or I have a headache actually DOES make a difference.

Environment can make a difference too - some people are excited about getting away with sucking cocks on the floor of a urine soaked public toilet and other people are disgusted by it. There is a reason people like mood music and big comfy beds with lots of weirdly shaped pillows.

If expectations are high, that amount of pressure can mean you are actually trying TOO hard.

Some people prefer a certain pattern of stimulation - if you apply too much stimulation or not enough in just the right way then you could probably suck for an hour and it just isn't going to happen. I have had guys where it felt REALLY good, but the sensation was too intense and it was almost painful..and somehow they thought they were doing me a favor.

When was the last time you masturbated? How horny were you with him? Don't touch yourself for about two weeks, then try again.

Did you fantasize about the idea - the man's body - other things you could be doing besides sucking? (how turned on were you?) - I'm going to guess that at least half of "having a good time" is in the mind.

I don't know how familiar you are with this person, maybe try hanging out doing normal activities and get to know each other a little better to see if there is any chemistry. (Or maybe not if the attraction is purely physical and you have nothing else in common).

Chemicals can also interfere with the normal sexual response cycle - prescriptions, alcohol, drugs..

It can be extremely frustrating if the person you are playing with doesn't seem to be enjoying themselves (some people define that as able to cum) ..but you know like I said before - the body doesn't always respond on command. What turns me on is actually the idea that the person cares for me even if they CAN'T get me off. The more secure I feel with that person, the more relaxed I am and better able to be open to enjoying the experience.

If you want to be with that person then it's probably only a matter of time until something good finally happens but you probably can't just keep doing the exact same thing under the exact same circumstances and expect it to work.

If you are still interested in each other, why not switch to a different activity like mutual masturbation, there are certain ways people prefer being rubbed that way too - if you can't figure out how he likes to be masturbated let him show you..or stimulate him in other ways while he is jacking off. Not every man likes it, but if guys knew just how pleasurable prostate massage was I think more of them might try it.

I guess I've sort of learned the hard way that you have to be at least a little vocal during sex play about what you like or don't like. It can be amazing if a partner can pick up on non verbal cues but don't take it for granted that the other person will know what you want and what feels good to you.

[liberlib]

I just finished off with a friend after almost a solid hour of sucking with some brief breaks (mouth dried out and jaw started hurting). I could tell he was enjoying it and even started pulsing several times. I took his balls in my mouth and caressed them, tickled the side of his dick with my tongue, held just the glans with my lips while flicking the end with my tongue, and stroking his sensitive spots with a free hand. We even had him fuck me (with a condom on of course) and then, after taking the condom off, I tried to complete the task by cleaning him off with my tongue and sucking. I thought his head was going to blow but no cum. He finally stroked himself off with me licking and tickling his glans with my tongue and I was able to enjoy his cum.

In contrast, I tend to blow within a few seconds of having my cock in a warm, moist mouth. I also find that waiting two weeks to ejaculate does not help me. I do better by masturbating or getting exercised almost daily. I am more likely to be a dry or at least light load if I abstain for a couple of weeks. The point is we are all different and you may be doing a great job but he may be a slow and difficult cummer. The previous comments about relaxing, just enjoying each other and not carrying an urgent need to get to the cum shot is actually more important. Sit back, talk, have a cup of (your choice), and then just gently start touching and teasing. Then don't try to get to the cum but just enjoy the journey.

[fpb09]

Had a friend who's meds did the same, seen him go over 4 hours ! Talk about all day sucker !I loved it & so did his wife !

[aLABiM75 & StrF51]

BJs do not usually get me off without extra stimulation....
Literotica or viewing Porn is a good external stimulus to give him a load to enjoy.
:tongue:

[cuttin2dachase]

I have been with a couple of men who could not even get close to cumming despite my best cocksucking efforts. In one case the guy told me sorry, it just isn't happening. He stopped me, and took it upon himself to jack off and cum on me. He and I still enjoyed the experience. In the other case, the guy was only semi hard and visibly frustrated after 30 minutes of my best effort, so I initiated the stoppage and suggested that I or he try jacking him off. He chose me, so I lubed his cock and stroked it and he responded almost immediately. I soon had him fully hard and he came within 3 minutes. Again, we both enjoyed the experience. I in no way felt inadequate and knew I'd done the best I could. In both cases they went home satisfied and their inability to get off orally was not an issue for them or me.

You were wrong in thinking that all cocksuckers can go or want to go hours sucking cock. There's a name for protracted cocksucking called edging and many cocksuckers enjoy it. I myself and most of the men I have sucked and who have sucked me usually want to finish in 15 to 30 minutes. You were also inconsiderate in not calling your friend off when his best effort was doing nothing for you. You stated that you enjoyed it and seem to be unconcerned that your friend didn't enjoy it, which indicates you only thought about yourself and your pleasure. With all that being said, it was wrong of him to become upset and pissed off at you just because he couldn't get you turned on enough. He could and should have just stopped sucking you when it became apparent to him you were not responding to his best efforts. Both of you should have been willing to try an alternate way to get you off. There's blame on both sides, but all in all, I'd say it is absolutely normal for him to not want to waste his time sucking you again.

[ohbimale]

The usual point of sucking cock is to get a mouth full of cum. If I were in his place I might try again but I would not keep sucking your cock without a load of cum.

[byeguy]

Antidepressants and other prescription drugs can drastically interfere with the ability to "finish". I was on Zoloft for a couple years and while it did not lower my sex drive, it did severely impair my ability to finish. It was a cruel form of torture. Good luck to you!

[dennisrichard]

Chat during sex often "stimulates"...learn to talk!

[secretasianman]

I'm the same way, I could get sucked on for hours (and love every minute of it), but I won't be able to cum from it. At least, I haven't met anyone who was able to. I either have to jerk myself off to finish (or if they're capable of jerking me off and finishing), or being inside another body part. :)

I don't mind sucking a guy for hours without him coming. I know how great it feels, so I keep going until he wants me to do something else (or he wants to do something else). I much prefer it than sucking for just 5-10 minutes.

The longest I've gone down on a girl was well over an hour (multiple orgasms, though). The longest I've gone down on a guy was well over two hours (he watched through an entire porn video). Then he fucked my ass for over two hours. I was sore everywhere, but felt so good, too.

[nudist_60187]

I had that problem also but when he inserted his finger in my ass and rub my prostate there was no turning back, the best I ever had.

[silvio]

My first wife didn't like me cuming in her mouth, so my body got used to it and it took me a long time (after we split) to loosen up and come on somebody's mouth, but yes, sex should be rewarded by semen! I'm a top, but nothing turns me on more than a guy "cuming" while I pounds his ass!

[playtoy70]

tell him to try it one more time watch porn or jack off while be blows you and maybe you will shoot a load in his throat. I have had to jack off while being sucked just so I cum in his mouth. I love to throat fuck that turns me on gagging a guy talking dirty to him forcing his head down on my cock making him take it all balls deep.

[tribi]

I have had a lot of blow jobs in my day but I too can not cum from sucking I have to finish myself off then let them suck the rest out

[kinkylittledick]

The usual point of sucking cock is to get a mouth full of cum. If I were in his place I might try again but I would not keep sucking your cock without a load of cum.
Well said. Some guys just cant cum getting sucked. If he's your friend you should be able to explain to him. I sucked a very good married friend a couple times a month for years and he Never was able to cum by me sucking him. When I suck cock or eat pussy I have 2 goals from the start. Most important is to do what ever it takes to get that person satisfied sexually. 2nd is to have my mouth filled as full as posible with Hot, Thick CUM. The more cum, the better. Both of those goals are very pleasing to me. Most times I get more pleasure from knowing I've pleased my partner sexually than I do from me cumming. I have Always from my first memory till today been a very fast cummer. A warm wet mouth with no teeth against the skin can get my cum in 2 or 3 minutes.