Bisexual men and women who identify as "gay"

[pole_smoker]

Has anyone here ever met bisexual men, and women who identify as "gay" but to people who they trust they say how they're actually bisexual?

It's the opposite of gay men who are closeted or married and claim to be "bi" but they are really gay. Much like Elton John and lots of other gay men and lesbian women have done.

I have met bisexual men online, and in bars who at first identifed as "gay" but then once they knew I was bisexual told me things like, "OK I am really bisexual but I identify as gay because some gay men do not get it."

I met a male couple who both told me that they are bisexual but they only tell straight people this because they get it more than gay men do.

[jem_is_bi]

I wish I could identify as gay. I am mostly gay. But, there is that steadfast component of my being that loves women.

[pole_smoker]

I wish I could identify as gay. I am mostly gay. But, there is that steadfast component of my being that loves women.

Why would you want to be gay instead of bi?

"Mostly gay" is just another term for being bisexual, why not just identify as bi since you are turned on by women too? Are you ashamed of being bisexual?

[Ebonybifemme7]

At one point in my life I said I was gay online. But for the majority of my life I've always felt that I was bisexual.

[budgie]

Well my girlfriend every now and then talks matter of fact that she's gay but I'm her boyfriend! Hmmm that's a bit odd. She really does love sex with women more than men (sigh) but she's bi thankfully and she's the most important thing in my life. I hope to marry her one day. And if she meets a gay chick or bi girl she has the okay to have fun!

[darkeyes]

Trust me... I'm gay, tho there is apparently one dimwit at work who doesn't believe it:eek2:. Am told fact that I am married to Kate cuts no ice, but knew that 'bout him ne ways... Daft sod is not long off huge come down ..:tongue: Am gonna enjoy mesel next few weeks..;)

[Gearbox]

I know a few who are down as gay on hookup sites, but are really bi. it saves the hassle.
A few are down as bi-curious even tho they've had plenty to sate their curiosity too.:rolleyes:

[elian]

Because they don't want to be discriminated against, and unlike physical gender or skin color your sexual orientation is something is something that you can attempt to hide. I used to honestly believe I was gay, and then I would get so confused and frustrated when I saw a woman pleasuring herself. It was only until I found this site that are started to think there might be something to this "bisexuality" ..

On dating sites I am very open about it because I am looking for a long term relationship and it's just a lot easier to be honest up front and not waste another person's time. ..of course I have also had people date me who think that bisexuality is like Santa Claus or the Easter Bunny..and when I talk about my bisexuality they have to rethink their values.

[jem_is_bi]

Why would you want to be gay instead of bi?

"Mostly gay" is just another term for being bisexual, why not just identify as bi since you are turned on by women too? Are you ashamed of being bisexual? I am not ashamed of being bisexual. I have been bisexual all my life, but much more turned on by sex with men than women. Maybe I am wrong, but I believe I missed a lot of great adventures of sex, love and life with men that would have happened as a gay man. However, I am very comfortable with my life. I do not need everything perfect to be happy and pleased with who I am.

[Olivia920601]

I just got my bi gf from dating website like http://www.bi-sexualdating.com/

[elian]

I haven't met someone personally, but I can understand why they might try to do that. Bisexuals have a stigma of promiscuity that isn't necessarily deserved. Also, just like some of us perceive a world where -everyone- is "a little bit bi" I'm going to take a stab and say LG folks might have a hard time seeing the world beyond their perspectives too.

If a bisexual person can love both genders, I guess it's natural for a dating partner to wonder if they can satisfy a bisexual.

The other thing that really must torque LG people off is that they are trying to convince some straight people that being Lesbian or Gay is not a choice. Then here comes along a bisexual person who flirts with both sexes. Also some bi's want to have poly relationships, which conservative folks use as a slippery slope argument.

I guess I'll put it this way, like a line from one of my fav movies, "For the Bible Tells Me So" - "It's okay to have a sixth grade understanding of religion (sex?) as long as you are in the sixth grade."

..and I don't really mean to offend any Christians with that comment but I can see how some might be offended. I am also glad to see a few of the local denominations supporting non-descrimination bills for LGBT folks in this state. They may be on the fence about marriage but recognizing the right of all people to be treated equally under the law is admirable.

I walk a strange line between desiring sex but recognizing that a proper relationship involves loving commitment between partners.

This was interesting..

http://www.wikihow.com/Date-a-Bisexual-Person

[charles-smythe]

Has anyone here ever met bisexual men, and women who identify as "gay" but to people who they trust they say how they're actually bisexual?

It's the opposite of gay men who are closeted or married and claim to be "bi" but they are really gay. Much like Elton John and lots of other gay men and lesbian women have done.

I have met bisexual men online, and in bars who at first identifed as "gay" but then once they knew I was bisexual told me things like, "OK I am really bisexual but I identify as gay because some gay men do not get it."

I met a male couple who both told me that they are bisexual but they only tell straight people this because they get it more than gay men do.

…no…I’ve never met someone bi who identified as gay…

[darkeyes]

…no…I’ve never met someone bi who identified as gay…















No Chas? I know that I have.. but mostly I have, like most of us, met goodly numbers of people of both genders who are bisexual but identify as str8... btw when I thought of myself as bisexual a number were sure I was really gay... they were right. People on this site too and one in particular sensed it b4 ne1 and long before I did.

Now I consider myself lesbian, a few... not many I admit...but a few think I am going through denial and that really I am bisexual after all. Tosh of course, but there is nowt so funny as folk...