What should you call the couple you are having an affair with?

[obx-man]

This is sort of a funny question and doesn't really need an answer, but, what can I call the couple that I'm having an affair with?

We have an ongoing relationship and live together part time. They are married; I am single. They each call me their boyfriend, jokingly, sort of. However, while I have different and good friendship relationships with each, separately, we are only ever intimate all together. I would be uncomfortable calling them my boyfriend and girlfriend and definitely would not call them my lovers. They are romantically attached. I am just a very very good friend with benefits.

I doubt it will ever come up in conversation. People think we are roommates and I doubt I'll ever say "My couple and I went to the beach" or anything like that, but it would be nice to have a word to describe their part in my life.

Any suggestions?

Thanks

[Driver 8]

[...] what can I call the couple that I'm having an affair with?
Do they have names? ;)

"Partners" is a nice neutral word that doesn't sound as high-school (to me) as boyfriend/girlfriend.

And if it's not coming up in conversation ... are you connected at all with the poly community where you are? It's rough having relationships that are secret from everyone around you, IMO. :2cents:

[Long Duck Dong]

lol i would simply call them my close friends.....it all depends on the circles you travel in

[Lisa (va)]

How about just call them friends?

Lisa

hugs n kisses

[becksbolero]

I don't know what to call them but i think i'd call you "MR.LUCKY"!!!

[csrakate]

LOL Beck's Bolero...nice idea!

[littlerayofsunshine]

Sounds like you have the perfect situation for yourself with good people. How about they are your "plugin and outlet".. Just a joke.

Seriously though. Why don't you just call them your Friend and lover. It encompasses both relationships.

[Avocado]

"My sex partners" :bigrin:

[DGoncz]

Some of us poly folks would call such a couple our Other Significant OtherS, OSOS.

[smokey]

fun...a good time....again and again and again.

[FSJeepguy]

Mr & Mrs Horney :bigrin:

[obx-man]

Thanks for the replies! I agree with Bolero that I should call myself Mr. Lucky. I guess I meant, what should I refer to them as. When I'm talking to them or thinking about them I call them The Sex Gods. It would be nice to have a "label". Someday I'd really like to state in a general conversation ... "The couple I'm having an affair with and I..." just to see the reaction.

I'm considering troikaniks.

To Driver: As far as I know there is no Poly community where I live half the time and both the straight and gay communities would be horrified at our relationship where we live together.

[AnotherVoice]

I doubt I'll ever say "My couple and I went to the beach" or anything like that

LOL that was good. Call them your friends. It's probably your safest bet.

[Driver 8]

To Driver: As far as I know there is no Poly community where I live half the time and both the straight and gay communities would be horrified at our relationship where we live together.
There's a poly group in North Carolina (http://www.openweave.org/NCPoly/) that might meet near you.

Not trying to push a group at you - some people do groups and some people don't, and some groups are great and some aren't. If one works for you, though, it's nice to be able to hang out with people who you can tell about the important people in your life.