What's your thoughts on....

[WebothBbi]

So you've spent quite a bit of time getting to know someone. You've emailed, IM'd, chatted, all the while you've shared ideas, likes, dislikes, fantasies, etc. There's a great build up to meet each other, there is a true feeling of kinship, then suddenly the person just goes silent. Emails, IM's, everything just stops. You can see they've been online/on here, but no note to you saying "hey life got in the way" or what ever excuse.
Has this happened to you? What are your thoughts on this happening? :confused:

[Hypersexual11]

I see this so often that I now expect it. I think the thought of doing something excites people but when it comes down to it, they either chicken out or jack off and lose interest. Don't let it bother you. Just keep plugging along. Someone will show up one of these times.

[pole_smoker]

There are a lot of people who like to play games like this, or I guess they just want free amateur porn, or like the fantasy of meeting but then when it comes down to really meeting they get cold feet? Or maybe they are married or partnered and do not want to cheat on whoever they are with?

A gay male friend of mine has experienced this a lot on the internet. He says that it's best to just cut to the chase and only ask to meet up with local people not with visitors or tourists, talk to them on the phone, and then if you are both still interested meet up in a local public place for a date. He has also told me not to be surprised if the person who you meet looks nothing like the pics they exchanged with you, or if they give you a picture of themselves that is 5-10 years old.

One time something like that happened to me. I was waiting in a bar for a man I was dating, and this other guy came up to me, said my name, and started talking to me. I gave him a puzzled look and said, "OK I don't mean to be rude but who are you? How do you know me?" he said his name and I did not recognize him at all since I had met him on the same site where I'd met the man I was dating at the time, and I'd chatted with him. He looked nothing like his online picture and had aged, and gained more weight.

[Gearbox]

:bigrin: It's funny, coz........it's true.lol

I avoid planning a meet too much in advance, coz all kinds of things could happen in between. Within a week is best, and as a friend explained......it's usually a good sign that the other isn't overly excited in their messages: "fek I'm throbbing and precumming!", etc.:rolleyes:
When things genuinely go wrong and the meet can't happen, some find it hard to let the other down after lots of messaging. So they don't bother notifying them.

Pressure is a def meet/meat repellent too. It's ok to say you're looking forward to meeting 'Bob'. But not ok to hang your life's dreams on it! Nor is it ok to constantly drone on about how fantastic sex will be....when you haven't even met yet. Could be crap for all you know, and that should keep both out of FantasyLand where expectations are usually turn-offs at the last min.


There's a great build up to meet each other, there is a true feeling of kinship, then suddenly the person just goes silent.
This bit here is why it can all go to shit.;) Keep it casual and un-pressured.

[WebothBbi]

Oh the guy even cammed with my wife and I. Told us he was so excited, etc. Then POOF gone. Still on here, shows he's been on recently too. I almost wish there was a list for game players so those of us who are real know who to avoid.

[Cum1st]

Back when I was actively pursuing cock scoring waseasy and much safer. I tended to run hot and cold. The cycle could be months long. Toward the end of a cold stretchthe desire would build until I'd act on it. Then after a while I didn't have the urge (for a while) - even to the point of being a little freaked out about it sometimes.

Whilein a two-year, scheduled, once a week relationship there where a few times thatI was less into it, but when he arrived, and all the makin's of some hot sex was right there with no relationship hurdles to get over, IT WAS ON. He later (after he followed his career out of the state) mentioned he had the same ups and downs.

Somethoughts - No conclusions

[sysper]

So you've spent quite a bit of time getting to know someone. You've emailed, IM'd, chatted, all the while you've shared ideas, likes, dislikes, fantasies, etc. There's a great build up to meet each other, there is a true feeling of kinship, then suddenly the person just goes silent. Emails, IM's, everything just stops. You can see they've been online/on here, but no note to you saying "hey life got in the way" or what ever excuse.
Has this happened to you? What are your thoughts on this happening? :confused:

described my love life pretty accurately years ago.....over the years i've learned not to bother trying nemore cause it allways winds up the same way neways. why buildup my expectations when i know i will fail?