We have BIG issues and big dreams

[2bi2Bboring]

We do, you know, have both.


I AM NOT ASHAMED OF BEING ME!
I CAN OWN IT!


#whatbilookslike


http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/08/16/whatbilookslike_n_5682347.html


SOME of us can do this.
Others obviously can't.
But we who can should stand up
for the sake of those who can't.


In the end that's what it's all about, HOPE! Hope that one day none of the labels will matter, hope that spouses will no longer feel then need to judge us, hope that society won't need to judge us. Our children's children will look at our generation and say, "why?" That's a day to live for, THAT someday. Normal is just a word, another word for boring. We are exceptional, why would we ever settle for normal? Living in hiding isn't normal, we aren't criminals or lepers. We are people with hopes and dreams, we have issues to resolve right now, but we'll get there.


"Some may say I'm a dreamer, but I'm nothing the only one. I hope some day you'll join us, and the world will live as one."

[tenni]

Thanks for posting the link.

As an artist, I have pondered how to show bisexuals. As a video artist, I do have an image that would show it. I think that the images in the article showing that bisexuals look like everyone else is good idea up to a point. Those that judge may look for similarity to the two poles of monosexuality. Let's confuse the hell out of them by showing us as diverse in our relationships.

I do think that one day labelling may be less significant. I am inclined to agree that showing bisexuals in images should not be really needed at this stage. It was needed for gays but I am less certain about the need for bisexuals to "out" themselves if the goal is to be that sexuality doesn't matter unless you are being invited to be a sexual partner of some form or other. I don't think that you are hiding if you do not put a sign on your chest that you are bisexual. If it comes up then say that you are while in a conversation. We are not criminals, keepers or creeps but hopefully a world where labels are less significant comes about by being bisexual. One time you may feel like one gender is a good lover for you and either soon after or some time in your life you publicly have a lover of a different gender. Or, maybe one of each at the same time.

Unfortunately, there are still bashers of same sex coupling. There are still homophobes who will physically attack a person who looks and behaves different from a heteromonosexual image stereotype. There are fewer gaymonosexuals who discriminate against bisexuals but they too still exist and will reject a bisexual as a partner or even at times a friend(think that is really rare these days though) There are biphobic people and some of them are bisexual and homosexual. Putting your portrait on a website with a sign saying you are bisexual does not change systemic discrimination against bisexuals. Identifying the issues for bisexuals and collectively working to remediate them will help.

[WebothBbi]

Both of you are spot on in our book. It's hard enough to "find ourself" during our teen years as an individual, then couple that with our sexual orientation and somehow we work on maintaining a semblance of "normalcy" all the while. I've long since thought normal =boring. And wow how awful the lives of those sheeple (people who follow the masses like sheep) must be. Some of my dearest friends have called me "edgy" or "trail blazing", while I just see myself as happy in my own skin.

[tenni]

Right now I am working on a video installation project showing Love/Kiss. It is hard enough finding a same sex couple willing to have their image street visible in a large window on a busy street. I can only imagine showing bisexual or a poly image more specifically if I was the centre of interest...Hey it is for a good cause..lol ;) It is not really going to happen because I am not a practicing bi poly guy. (strange as it contrast to much of my position on this site) I may one day but my plate is full with other projects presently.

[2bi2Bboring]

Tenni, As a fellow artist I get what you're saying, but I'm of the opinion that we as members of the LGBTQ community have political responsibilities that extend beyond the mere surface of the usual issues. If your sexuality is not of the hetero-monogamistic model of normality, it changes your political dynamic. I realize you're a Canadian, but here in the land of the free and the home of the brave, we are realizing free extends to those who are seen as normal, and the rest are marginalized. My sexuality has changed my political view of my country. I used to be of the conservative Republican school of thought 30 years ago, I grew up in a conservative, rural middle-class home. My family was steeped in god, guns and conservative values. Since then, I have had several epiphanies, my sexuality being one that changed my values and subsequently changed my politics. We here in America are not as cosmopolitan as Canadians, we still suffer the effects of fear and self-loathing. If your neighbor is different than you, they are to be feared, not accepted. I know Canada isn't yet the promised land either,but your are farther along the continuum than we are here in America. I can appreciate how you feel, but we have further to go in the journey yet than you do. We are less at home I our own skin here in America.

[Visexual]

I’m a writer and I’ve written in about every genre’.I even have a few teen novels published.

But what I enjoy writing most is erotica.OK, maybe it’s closer to being porn.LOL!

I’ve got lots of short stories posted on several sites but what I love most is writing bisexual stories.And I sincerely try to make all of the bisexual characters normal, fun, caring, considerate and loving men.

I just remembered something my wife once said about my swinging stories.“You make swinging sound sweeter than it really is.”

Well, maybe that’s a bit true about my bisexual men too. Not all men, bisexual or not, are sweet.But I’ve sure met a few who are and hope to meet more in the future.

[donlikesdicks2]

I am a writer, too, writing standard western "cowboy" fiction. Years ago I wrote a lot of pieces for the magazines Sir, Adam, and Mr. There were a couple of other magazine publications whose names I've forgotten. Most of the fiction then would be called soft porn today. The non-fiction pieces were advisory or explanatory, and some reportorial. Adam was a magazine devoted to swinging couples. I can remember writing and getting all heated up, and later having to edit those "heated up" sections because I got so wild. Ah, youth!'ve found

These days several "western" writers write western porn, which I have found to be offensive because it is often so violent. On the other hand, there is a readership for the books.