Craigslist

[averageguy]

I see people posting that they found someone to play with on Craigslist. How does one find this kind of post, what category are these postings under? Also if these people are posting they must be regulars at this. With that being said is it safe to hook up with one of these guys? What's your experience with this?

[gunslinger13]

Look under personals/men for men

[Realist]

Average, just like in society, there are both good and not-so-good folks on Craigslist.

What they write will often tell a lot about them, but there are bullshit artists, too. Some who answer those ads and post them, are experts of deception. Think before you react! There are genuine, decent, people looking for the same thing you are, so all are not bad, devious, or opportunists.

If you submit an ad, you should be very specific about what you're searching for. Never give too much information about yourself and keep your early correspondence through Craigslist.......at least, for the 1st, or 2nd, contact. Only agree to meet in a public place, that is not a normal hang-out for you. When you meet, look into his eyes and be up-front and honest about your interests.

I don't want to scare you off, but be aware there's predators and evil people out there, as well as those who may be your dream lover!

Just be smart and don't let the little head dictate your actions!

good luck!

[tenni]

Realist has hit on many of the significant points about safety.
If you see repeated posts, it may mean a few possibilities.
1/ they are players but not necessarily
2/ they are not meeting the person that they want to and are repeating their ad.
3/ they are desperate and lost all their "kewl"..lol

The only way to figure this out (yes some lie ..a lot) is not to rush in to a sexual hook up without meeting at least once and as Realist writes,...in public

Despite being specific in your ad, some guys will read one aspect and ignore the other criteria. Read their responses carefully.

Remember that if you are on there and decent, there will be others like you. It can be difficult to find each other though.

[Hypersexual11]

I can add a couple ideas since I use CL exclusively here, as it's about the only choice. I've found guys for just me and guys for my wife and I. It's a long tedious hunt but worth it imo.

Start by reading the ads in men for men in both the main personal list as well as the men for men listed in the casual encounter list. Just read the ads for a couple weeks. You will be able to pick out the guys that are daily posters.

Realist had good points for posting an ad. In your ad, ask for a specific word to be used in the Subject line of replies. Ask for this word toward the end of the ad, but not at the very end. ANY replies that don't contain this word in the subject line should be deleted without opening, no matter how curious you are.
In your ad, you ask specific questions. When you read replies, keep your questions in mind and see if they are responding to your requests. Delete them if they don't. These guys may be real, but are probably looking for something you are not. Don't waste your time on them.

The reason for these things are based on the dude at his computer, looking at your ad. If he is serious, he will probably read it a few times before replying. He will be careful to word his ad in a manner that will get you to read it. Flakes don't usually take the time to follow rules. They are watching porn, jerking off, answering random ads because the thought of doing stuff excites them. They cum, they disappear.

You may get some one line replies that are ok to answer. Most one liners like "sure, you can suck my dick", don't need to be replied to but "can you host" or "are you 420 friendly" may be a guy who likes the ad but needs more info.

Plan on spending some time being very frustrated. When it gets too bad, I go to YouTube and watch a few vids of people doing awesome things, to renew my faith in this goofy race.

[cuttin2dachase]

I have used CL with moderate success. Most of the men I eventually met were married bi men who answered an ad I placed. They were more patient and willing to take the time to establish a mutual comfort/desire level before meeting. I have had less luck responding to other men's ads which interested me. Those posters were much more likely to not respond back to me at all or be impatient or pushy and rude. I look for well-worded ads and responses which are specific as to what kind of man they seek and which types of mm sexplay they like and desire. If there are many spelling, grammatical or punctuation errors other than a typo or two, it tells me the man is not very educated and/or literate and not my type. The ad should also state his age and his general stats, but need not have a photo for me to be interested. I never send photos nor ask for them until a mutual desire to meet is agreed upon. I placed an ad just last week which received responses from 8 men. I immediately rejected 6 of them with polite responses. I chatted with the other two via email and YIM for a day or two before one of them just stopped responding and disappeared. I am still chatting with my other "prospect" and it looks like we may meet for a beer or coffee one day next week. If it doesn't happen I will repost my ad and try again !

[TerrorTwilight]

I use CL too, as it's about the only viable option for me. Unfortunately there is a LOT of people who are more interested in sending emails than meeting and even more people who don't know how to read an ad. There are plenty of good people on there too, just gotta try to sort the good from the bad. I ended up hooking up with my high school history teacher through a CL ad, had a blast. Met up with another guy, who was a married guy in his early 70's, neither of us had a safe place so we ended up meeting in the parking lot of a huge shopping center and I sucked him off in his van while there was people all around us, that was pretty hot.

So yeah, CL does work, just gotta use your head.

[Coastocoast]

I have dealt with Craigslist many times and do a few things when you find a promising ad you are considering respoding to. The above advice is spot on but there is more. If the person that seems interesting to you posted in Men looking for Men and it says they are 40, from XYZ town, looking for a top and has a picture in the add, use the filters to search to see what is going on. If you do in this case you and you look at Men search age 40 minimum 40 Maximum and with picture you will find the same photo posted 30 times in 2 days. You know they are looking for email adresses or are picture hunting and not looking for something you are and you eliminate them. Also search an unusual term that one used and see if you come up with a ton of similar ads. When you post one there are so many times you will get the one line... send pictures.. and you know you have a picture hunter and you delete it. You may find a 1000 or several 1000 ads depending on your town and not find one ad with someone looking for the same thing you are looking for who has taken the time to write enough for you to see they may be a match. In short there are people there but there are 1000's of frogs to sift through to find what you might be looking for. Good luck and be careful.

[Visexual]

I've made a couple of good contacts there but I've had many that just didn't pan out. But then, I'm patient and one who will wait until we've gotten to really know each other well through emails. Silverdaddies.com is good too.

[bikurinpa]

I used CL, with no luck, Lots of gamers, pic collectors! first thing I do to weed out waste replies is to mention putting a key word in the subject line like, " serious only" so I know they read the ad and know u mean serious only to respond, which weeds out the ones who can not read. then even with that, you get 10 replies and 9 will still only email back once or twice and then they gone. Seems like this area here in central Pa, odds are about 1 out of 1000 and hope the one is not 50 miles on the other side of the boonies! A lot of the postings on there, you can tell what they are by just reading their topic line!

[cuttin2dachase]

I don't really worry about getting on a spammer's list, as my spam filter works great and I can delete dozens of spam mails with 2 clicks. Whenever I post an ad, I am not looking for "right now", but for a few days ahead of the date I will be free to play. As I said b4, I do not post pics or send pics unless I feel a comfortable after a few emails. My ads always state this, but 6 or 8 out of every 10 responses I get ask for a pic and/or want to meet immediately. I cross these d*ckheads off my list of prospects and do not reply back. The more you use CL, the more you learn. When you begin succeeding in meeting nice sane guys, you realize that CL is worth the time if you are patient and cautious and street-smart.

[dm330]

I've found in my area that when looking for a guy or couples, the Casual Encounters section works best, because not many guys post in the m4m section. I've had some success with it, even met a semi regular buddy in my own town for some occasional dl fun. I personally drastically cut back on my craigslist usage because a relative of mine hit me up for fun, though he doesn't know it was me as I don't use my face in any of my pics, but I still like to check out the ads once in a while. Just be careful if you decide to meet anyone, be it male or female. Lately, news articles have been published about murders and/or robberies taking place when meeting people based on craigslist ads of any kind, sexual and non-sexual related. This bothers me a lot and is another reason I chose to not use CL as much.

[libiguy02]

I'm kinda new to using Craigslist and I had the similar results that you guys have had. How often do you posted? Is once a month toe little? How long have you been looking on Craigslist? I have only tried it for 4 months.

[dm330]

I look often, but it's been about a month since I hooked up, actually it was with a buddy of mine, so it was all great. I honestly don't respond to many ads, but like to check out all the eye candy lol. I say, post as often as you like to get the results you're looking for. Do it most when you have some free time. You can post in advance and someone may see your ad and be able to plan accordingly as well when they hit you up, just keep in mind that your ad moves down the list as new ads are placed. Better to include pics of yourself, but for privacy reasons I always recommend against using face pics. Photos obviously yield better results than most non-photo ads. Have fun with it, good luck, but please be careful too.

[maestrogreen]

I've tried craiglist twice two years ago and it was okay. You must be very careful in choosing. Good luck!

[loves oral]

Sounds like my experiences on Craigslist are common. I've just learned to be cautious and go slow.A lot of talkers, picture collectors and no shows are not unusual. I post hj/bj not into anal and I'm surprised by the number of guys who respond and think I should try it, and get pushy about it.
I've had a friend respond to adds a couple times and he doesn't know its me. He's not my type so I'm not interested, but when he responds to the add we drops his age down 15 years and weight 40 lbs, lol. Always wondered what guys thought when they met him.