CountryLover
Jul 30, 2006, 10:17 PM
I know I've been least in sight the past several weeks, and I hope that friends like Belle, David and Richard will be understanding.
I met my fiance early this spring, and he asked me to marry him over the 4th of July holiday. We were going to "take it slow"...after all we will be blending our multigenerational families and wanted time for everyone to adjust.
Well, THAT didn't fly at all!
Tuesday, 10 days ago I came home to find my sweetie nearly dead from a killing fever. VA "Urgent Care" made a farce of his care and sent him home with no investigation as to why he would run such a deadly fever for nearly 24 hours. So Friday a week ago, he again went to the VA and this time got a doctor who cared enough to give him decent care.
The result was emergency major surgery that night to prevent him going into sepsis and dying of blood poisoning. The surgeon was quite adamant that my sweetie had walked entirely too close to that line!
The next morning, Saturday, while driving back across town to the VA, I prayed long and fervently for his pain relief and healing. Imagine my amazement when I stepped into his hospital room to find him back on his feet not even 12 hours post-op! He's only needed regular tylenol for discomfort since then!
The scare we had has only drawn us closer and we decided to go on and have a brief legal "JP" ceremony now and then have a church wedding sometime in the next few months.
Somehow, in three days time our "brief" legal ceremony morphed into a full scale wedding in the VA chapel last Wednesday night. Awesome angels pulled it together for me while I had my hands full of his post-op care, and the care of his invalid mother back at home 50 miles away.
So, we're married now, and so happy we're incandescent with it. When I looked around the chapel I was amazed to notice for the first time that my bi/gay family far outweighed the straight family members in attendance. They made our simple service incredibly beautiful with their time, talents and love.
He's home now, and even being only a week post-op we're having an incredible honeymoon. :tong:
Ken and I are so blessed and I wanted to share my joy with y'all.
I met my fiance early this spring, and he asked me to marry him over the 4th of July holiday. We were going to "take it slow"...after all we will be blending our multigenerational families and wanted time for everyone to adjust.
Well, THAT didn't fly at all!
Tuesday, 10 days ago I came home to find my sweetie nearly dead from a killing fever. VA "Urgent Care" made a farce of his care and sent him home with no investigation as to why he would run such a deadly fever for nearly 24 hours. So Friday a week ago, he again went to the VA and this time got a doctor who cared enough to give him decent care.
The result was emergency major surgery that night to prevent him going into sepsis and dying of blood poisoning. The surgeon was quite adamant that my sweetie had walked entirely too close to that line!
The next morning, Saturday, while driving back across town to the VA, I prayed long and fervently for his pain relief and healing. Imagine my amazement when I stepped into his hospital room to find him back on his feet not even 12 hours post-op! He's only needed regular tylenol for discomfort since then!
The scare we had has only drawn us closer and we decided to go on and have a brief legal "JP" ceremony now and then have a church wedding sometime in the next few months.
Somehow, in three days time our "brief" legal ceremony morphed into a full scale wedding in the VA chapel last Wednesday night. Awesome angels pulled it together for me while I had my hands full of his post-op care, and the care of his invalid mother back at home 50 miles away.
So, we're married now, and so happy we're incandescent with it. When I looked around the chapel I was amazed to notice for the first time that my bi/gay family far outweighed the straight family members in attendance. They made our simple service incredibly beautiful with their time, talents and love.
He's home now, and even being only a week post-op we're having an incredible honeymoon. :tong:
Ken and I are so blessed and I wanted to share my joy with y'all.