womans views on bi guys [Archive]

gayle

Jun 28, 2005, 12:04 AM

Well, as many people at this site know, I am a straight woman and my bf is bi. I find my bf to be very sexy. I know he is bi and I have gotten to see him interacting on a somewhat limited basis with other men. To be honest, I am not turned on by watching him suck a cock, but I do enjoy the look of contentment on his face while he sucks a cock. I suppose some people would find it hard to understand that his look of contentment is what I like, and not so much what he's doing. I accept his bisexuality as being a fact of life, just as I accept he has green eyes, S&P hair and is 6 feet tall. His bisexuality is merely a detail. It does not, to me, sum up who he is any more than his hair or eye color do. I'll risk getting in trouble here by being honest and admitting that in some respects our relationship would be easier if he were straight, if only because I would not have faced as many jealousy issues and I wouldn't have had so many questions. At the same time, I will admit that by putting forth the effort to understand bisexuality, I have become more comfortable with my own sexuality and I believe I have become more open minded. Also, if he hadn't been bisexual, I wouldn't have started seeking answers to the questions his sexuality raised for me and I wouldn't have made the online friends that I have met through this site. :rolleyes:

bayou_boy_2003

Jun 28, 2005, 8:36 AM

Well, I'm new to the site and to this thread. I am bi and married. my wife is fine with my bisexuality as she is bi herself (that helps). I have been told by many of my female friends that the idea of seeing two guys together is a real turn on. :2cents:

tomboyea123

Jun 28, 2005, 12:43 PM

keep those replys comming! they are all great and appreciated.

chillddreamer

Jun 28, 2005, 1:14 PM

Hi I have thought about two males being together and I like the though of it it is not discusting to me at all :cool:

sexy couple

Jun 28, 2005, 10:27 PM

DareMe

Jun 29, 2005, 1:07 AM

I think we need more women like you around. Down to eearth honesty about what turns you on without the "socially accepted" standard. Ever noticed that it's kinda hip for a girl to have a girlfriend but the reverse is frown upon! More power to you. :tongue:

Nancyboy

Jun 29, 2005, 9:51 PM

As a poly bi gender blended woman, I am starting to think that my ideal partner would be a poly bi male who is into gender f*cking . . .

The idea of seeing men together is a turn-on but it goes beyond that. I like the idea that my partner would presumably be able to "get" me in a way that straight male partners haven't so far.

bigregory

Jun 29, 2005, 10:51 PM

Yes MM is not as cool as FF in this world.
but thats the reason for a site like this>
BI RULES

This a guys answer

leicsbimale

Jun 30, 2005, 5:23 PM

my wife is straight, and has no wish to join in with any other kind of sex apart from one to one with each other, but she knows i am bi, and go out to meet other bi/gay guys and have sex with them. she then gets a real turn on out of me giving her the details of what i have been up to, whether just oral or full sex with other guys, and that's when we have our best sex. she is 49 and i am 51. she does not want me to bring other guys home for sex, either threesomes or one to one, just for me to talk about it and get her in the mood.
does anyone else have this kind of wife?
john

mobicpl69

Jul 2, 2005, 9:18 PM

I am the female of this couple and I have to say that it definately turns me on to see my hubby enjoying himself with another man. I can just watch them for hours, but I get to excited to restrain myself. And the world is very accepting of two men making love......of course that is our world and that is the world we live in. :female:

Sparks

Aug 14, 2005, 8:05 AM

crashme

Aug 14, 2005, 1:35 PM

i found out recently that the guy i dated for 5 years is bicurious. he didn't revealed this to me while we were together, but we did talk about his 'hetero-crush' on johnny depp. after being with him and talking about attractive males and females, i don't think i could go out with a straight male again. there is something comforting about dating someone with a similar sexual orientation.

i agree with the other women who have posted comments: seeing two males together is a big turn on :bigrin:

jo69guy

Aug 15, 2005, 9:51 AM

BiCpl69

Aug 15, 2005, 10:17 PM

My husband is very bi, loves m/m, and it really turns me on. We have been married for 36 years and had many wonderful MMF 3somes & even a few friendships with gay men where I played the voyeur. I enjoyed every minute of what we have done.

BiCajun

Aug 15, 2005, 10:57 PM

When I first revealed my bisexuality to my ex-wife, it seriously aroused her. She even saw me give a blow-job or two, and then we would go fuck like rabbits. Later she disliked the whole idea, and we are no longer together. :2cents:

I wish my story had even a slight "silver lining" as yours did. I was forced into admitting my bisexuality to my wife and there was NOTHING positive to it. We never had sex again and we shall be divorced soon... :(

BiCpl69

Aug 15, 2005, 11:02 PM

I was forced into admitting my bisexuality to my wife and there was NOTHING positive to it. We never had sex again and we shall be divorced soon... :(

Sorry to hear that, but unfortunately many people do not understand bisexuality. :(

a_piuy

Aug 17, 2005, 7:25 PM

Well, it is obvious that MM is not as accepted as FF......it is just part of a taboo

Anozira

Aug 19, 2005, 5:37 PM

Well, it is obvious that MM is not as accepted as FF......it is just part of a taboo

Obvious to whom? I have known both women and men who were appalled by my bisexuality (for the lack of a better term). Taboos are constructed by people who have been conditioned to reject anything with which they are not comfortable. But to suggest that there is a prejudice more "obvious" toward MM than FF is a broad generalization.

Tryagain

Aug 22, 2005, 7:03 PM

mm is a beautiful act the physical realisation of so much pleasure is amazing to watch as is the love two men can have for each other. Huge turn on....

cplfun13

Aug 23, 2005, 6:26 AM

My husband is bicurious and we have recently began to search for the couple that will help us explore these feelings and desires. How do I feel. I am mainly turned on by the honesty that he has given me. I am turned on also by the aspect of his arousal and gratification that he will receive. We plan to play, explore, share, and learn together. We both want this to be an experience that we both our comfortable with. I could not go forward with this if I had any doubts or worries and I know that he would not want me to. Honesty is key... Be upfront with your spouse and make sure hes being the same with you.

gina42

Aug 28, 2005, 2:17 PM

hi tomboyea123,
you are right about society being a two sided..
my husband is a bisexual,and i am straight....to me it is a huge turn on to see him with another male..

Bicuriousity

Oct 18, 2005, 5:57 PM

Good to hear such positive viewpoints about it.

confusedandcute

Oct 19, 2005, 10:30 PM

Well, I'm really kinda neutral on the subject. It doesn't really turn me on, but I'm not disgusted by it either.
As for the ff being more accepted than mm, I think it may just be that female bodies are a little more pleasant to look at when nude. No offense to the boys! ;)

Mrs.F

Oct 20, 2005, 6:14 PM

Well, I have to agree with ConfusedandCute on this. I"m pretty neutral on the subject. Being straight, I didn't much think about ff or mm. In my world it's always been mf. Now that I find out my husband is bisexual, I've been forced to look at the world out a different window so I can see more. I can't say that it would totally turn me on but it would not disgust me either. :2cents:

Ratchick

Oct 20, 2005, 9:31 PM

Hmm this is a good one.
I think as a whole bisexual men are the best of both worlds. I can't say it ness. gets me off to see two men together...but I like the idea and the Bi men I have met have been wonderful.
Yeah for bi Guys!
-Ratchick ;)

binbi42

Oct 20, 2005, 11:18 PM

I find the responses to this thread interesting. It seems to reflect the way many people tend to look at bisexuality in general, some turned on by the ideal ,others accepting but not necessarily turned on, and others neutral not feeling one way or the other. Being the male half of a bi couple we enjoy sex period .It makes it more comfortable when playing with other couples if the other couple is bi as well. The combinations of what we’re able to explore as well as the pleasure doubles when everyone is bi. We are finally meeting other bi couple and have come to the conclusion that for us, it’s what we feels offers the most growth. What turns us both on is the freedom to explore without limitation to gender and the pleasure derived there of.

spiderden

Oct 21, 2005, 1:01 PM

Wow ! I wish you guys lived closer as we feel the same way you do ! We are both bi-curious and have yet to experience this. It's such a turn on to think about my husband with another guy and he would give his right arm to see me with a woman ! Know anyone like that in the Pa area ? :)

My husband is bicurious and we have recently began to search for the couple that will help us explore these feelings and desires. How do I feel. I am mainly turned on by the honesty that he has given me. I am turned on also by the aspect of his arousal and gratification that he will receive. We plan to play, explore, share, and learn together. We both want this to be an experience that we both our comfortable with. I could not go forward with this if I had any doubts or worries and I know that he would not want me to. Honesty is key... Be upfront with your spouse and make sure hes being the same with you.

Chelle_420

Oct 21, 2005, 4:26 PM

As a bi woman who is married to a bi man, I have to say that I find few things sexier than two men together. I know that most people I have discussed this with disagree but I for one think it is hot. My husband has a steady "friend" and I love to see them cuddle on the couch and just be together. I have never seen my husband do more than kiss another man but I find it very erotic and I know that I would feel the same if I saw them do more.

pooh6ny

Oct 21, 2005, 5:03 PM

well my hubby is bi and so am i i have not joined him and another man but i like to talk to him about him being with other men and ithink i would enjoy being apart of two men

sexy couple

Oct 22, 2005, 1:27 AM

We are both bi, and after having our first bi experiences with another wonderful bi couple, I have to say that I am even more turned on by watching my husband with another man than I thought I would be... We feel especially blessed to be with another couple that we feel totally comfortable and connected with, and we love being able to explore and enjoy one another without limitation. The thought of seeing him with another man has always been a fantasy of mine, but finally seeing it in person was amazing!! :tong:

davenavy1946

Oct 24, 2005, 5:18 PM

When I first revealed my bisexuality to my ex-wife, it seriously aroused her. She even saw me give a blow-job or two, and then we would go fuck like rabbits. Later she disliked the whole idea, and we are no longer together. :2cents:

Hi, Dave from N.J. here. It is too bad that we are so far apart. I would love to share cock sucking with you. Dave New Jersey.

davenavy1946

Oct 24, 2005, 5:21 PM

bibibaby

Oct 24, 2005, 11:58 PM

My hubby is bi, and I truly love watching him with another guy. It's such a turn-on, and I love to be involved as well. I think it's natural for guys to be completely hot together... they tend to be more passionate about sex and go for what makes them feel good. This in itself is utterly sexy... combine 2 guys drawn to each and I'm sent over the edge.

I also have other female friends who agree with me 100%. I think a lot of it depends on regional boundaries and expectations of bisexuality. Living in NYC, it's very ok to be bi.

rayosytruenos

Oct 25, 2005, 2:48 PM

When I first revealed my bisexuality to my ex-wife, it seriously aroused her. She even saw me give a blow-job or two, and then we would go fuck like rabbits. Later she disliked the whole idea, and we are no longer together. :2cents:

Hi!

Sorry for what happened to you.

For what I've read in this thread, it seems that when women are bisexual themselves, they are more understanding about men being bisexuals too.

Second, they seem to be not only more understanding but also more turned on by watching their hubbies engaged in male to male sex than straight women.

Of course, I'm generalizing from all what has being said in the posts of this thread, and also we have to keep in mind that this is a bisexual site, so people coming here have a more open mind that others, as they are bisexuals themselves or are straights trying to understand their partners' bisexuality.

But Jo's post is unique as he described how his wife was first really aroused by her husband's bisexuality, but later on, she changed her mind to the point of being disgusted by the same that turned her on before... Not sure if that was the reason of their divorce or not...

That also shows how sexuality can change with time, even from being straight to bisexual to gay or the other way around. I've always thought that sexuality is not fixed and that our likes can change from one day to the following, from one minute to the next.

All the best,

ray

dewuwannaknwme

Dec 12, 2005, 6:57 PM

hello I am a bi woman who is seekin a bi male that i can see interact with another male. It's a turn on for me most definetly. It s very taboo in our culture in usa esp. I am very openminded and has had experience with it b4.Looking for someone professional,like myself. So if anyone is in the pa or surrounding area , definitley send me a note, so we can connect. ;)

Diddybidaddy

Dec 12, 2005, 9:44 PM

I've been reading this thread and I've found it very interesting. I wanted to post because I of course also think that there is a double standard with regards to the acceptance of bisexual females in society and bisexual men. Why is this? I attribute it to a number of things, but mainly to sexual politics and the dynamic and hierarchy within society.

So, for example, the porn industry, which was mostly founded and dominated by str8 males and arose to its glory in the 70's with DEEP THROAT and other classic porn gems, as well as Playboy, Penthouse and other porn mags put out the concept or idea of two women having sex while being watched by or joined in by a man. Men (and women) were TOLD what was sexy by the various media. And they swallowed it, just like today people are TOLD what is visually appealing in a man or a woman usually by fashion magazines and they swallow it, wholesale. Even the beautiful European classic Emmanuelle and all of its sequels was lesbiphilic and homophobic. If back in those days of early porn, we had been exposed to images of two men having fun with each other and/or the woman the world today would be a different place.
I'm going to continue this post.

Diddybidaddy

Dec 12, 2005, 10:07 PM

So I just want to further this a bit. With regards to sexual politics, for almost all of the FFM pornography I have seen, there is a power dynamic between the man and the two women. Usually they are there "performing" for him at his request. And then perhaps later turn their attention to him both.

This implies that the fellow is in control and calling the shots. Were a woman to be in the same position, it would be a different story. Then she would be in a position of power, telling her "boys" what to do. Some men may not object to this, some especially submissives might even welcome it.

But the other problem with the MMF/FFM switch dynamic is, I believe, is at some level the str8 guy knows his woman will have fun with a woman, but will ultimately return to him. In situations where I have read that the woman chooses to forsake men altogether, the man gets really threatened. He doesn't want his woman to leave but at the same time he knows he can't possible compete with a woman. Only she knows how to pleasure another woman. This may be what frightens some women with bisexual men. Will he just give up women altogether?

And the last piece has to do with sexual politics. Somehow a woman with another woman, according to a number of lesbian feminist studies can be trivialized as irrelevant, because, in a Freudian sense, there is no penis --- therefore it can't be REAL sex. But 2 penises, that's for sure REAL sex, and two men. The hierarchy of men within society doesn't allow for men to be soft, yielding, vulnerable, crying, able to moan (whether in pleasure or pain) and to be fucked in the ass -- the ultimate insult of being a FAG is to place one's self in the position of being the "woman" and therefore weaker and irrelevant. The fear is that once a man queers himself down with another man, whether sucking his cock or having his cock sucked, he is just a hop, skip and ajump away from being ass-fucked and therefore made into a woman and therefore made weaker and less powerful. And no man, no person wants to be made weak or powerless.
I have one last thought.

Diddybidaddy

Dec 12, 2005, 10:13 PM

MM sex or MMF sex could also be seen as a powerful reaffirmation of the two males masculinity, rather than it diminishing them both it could augment them both. Also when the power dynamic within society generally is more balanced and more women hold positions of power. So far to date there has been no major female political figure in the States for example, the most powerful country on the planet. When that gender imbalance is cured, more women will feel empowered enough to entertain the fantasy of 2 men in her bed for her disposal and men will feel the freedom to being the willing sexual serfs, without feeling emasculated or castrated.

BisexualCouple4U

Dec 12, 2005, 11:00 PM

I am female and love the idea of my boyfriend being with another guy. I think it is such a turn on. Just thought I would throw in my 2 cents. But there are girls out there who love two men together...

OralBradley

Dec 16, 2005, 1:39 PM

I am married and I would find it a HUGE turn on to see him with another man... :drool: We are built for pleasure and it's all good in my opinion. We watch str8, gay and bi movies together and find it all to be very erotic. In fact, I think mm interactions in movies are so much more genuine, because, well, it's a lot easier to tell just how turned on they are! :male: We share all of our fantasies and are finding that we are both equally bi. Thinking of him with another man drives me just as crazy as him wanting to see me with another woman!

:flag2: :male: I wish that my wife and I had a similar relationship. I am bisexual and for many years longed for another bisexual man to complete a stable triad where we shared a common bed and sexual activites. For a while we did search for on, but eventually gave up. Now, though she is still understanding, my wife is not longer interested in a polyamorous releationship. oralbradley@yahoo.com

OralBradley

Dec 16, 2005, 1:49 PM

Well, it is obvious that MM is not as accepted as FF......it is just part of a taboo

This was certainly true at swinging parties when we were going. My wife was expected to get it on with other women, but we were asked not to come back when I sucked a cock in an MFM 3-some in the group grope.

OralBradley

Dec 16, 2005, 2:09 PM

Hi!

For what I've read in this thread, it seems that when women are bisexual themselves, they are more understanding about men being bisexuals too.

Second, they seem to be not only more understanding but also more turned on by watching their hubbies engaged in male to male sex than straight women.

But Jo's post is unique as he described how his wife was first really aroused by her husband's bisexuality, but later on, she changed her mind to the point of being disgusted by the same that turned her on before... Not sure if that was the reason of their divorce or not...

ray

:flag3: :male: All of this seems to be true te life; at least my life. When we were going to swinging parties, my wife certainly enjoyed herself with other women. Although she never joined me while I had sex with another man, we did look for a bisexual guy to make a stable 3-some.
Later, she changed and now won't even watch sex-flix with me, and she used to get literally dripping at times. She is still generally supportive, but we are both very wary of the possibility of disease.

red_riding_hood_27

Dec 16, 2005, 5:09 PM

Sorry to say this but (and it might offend some) I find both offensive and not a turn on. Both mm and ff. I don't find either a turn on. (if some don't now married to a man who just came out to me) Actually I have watch porn of both and it does nothing for my sex drive. Even the mf does nothing for me.. Now give me a good romance novel with a little sex written in and that will turn me on. The written word with my Imagination does the trick for me. I am one not of visual stimulation but mental.

IndyBiFun

Dec 16, 2005, 6:39 PM

As a bi guy married to a very str8 woman that does not appreciate my sexuality, I just want to say I'd love it if my wife was OK with it. What a huge relief but also such a turn on for ME if I knew she got turned on in return by watching me with another guy. Wow! If only..............

Diddybidaddy

Dec 16, 2005, 10:50 PM

I have to say, having read some recent posts previous to this one, especially the one with Oral Bradley and the experience with swingers -- some of the biggest hypocrites -- that the fear around MMF or MM sex is all about politics. It's just sexual politics. When women DEMAND more power and DEMAND to be pleasured in the same way a str8 guy would demand 2 females to suck him off and then play with each other, the environment will be different. I'm positive of it.

JohnnyV

Dec 17, 2005, 2:00 PM

Diddy,

You bring up a lot of great points about politics and power. But Oral Bradley hit the nail on the head: disease.

For almost all types of sexually transmitted disease -- crabs, herpes, syphilis, gonnorhea, HIV, warts, mosculum, you name it -- male-male sex, especially anal sex (even with a condom), is many times more likely to result in transmission of disease than male-female sex. There are two reasons for the higher risk of MMF than FFM.

First, biology. The penis is uniquely capable of transmitting disease through semen and seminal fluid, because it literally shoots its semen out into another person's body (be it the mouth or anus). Put two penises together and you've got more biological scenarios of transmission. Also, anal sex is particularly bad because the rectal lining is delicate and breaks easily, meaning that the penis can secrete its fluids directly into the bottom's bloodstream, and the bottom's rectal secretions can more easily seep into abrasions in the top's penis. A condom helps, but -- here's the bad news -- some studies find that in anal sex condoms have a 10-15% failure rate, mostly because the anus is so tight and the friction is not anatomically accounted for in the way our bodies evolved. Lubricant could help, but lubricant can also irritate the sensitive mucous membranes in the rectum and the penis' meatus, and if mucous membrane is irritated, there are more porous openings for pathogens (viruses or bacteria) to pass through and infect.

Second, there's the difference in sexual culture. If you are able to find a man who'll have sex with your husband, the chances are that the other man has already been inducted into the world of gay sex. Gay and bisexual men, on average, have hundreds of times more partners during their lifetime than straight men; so even if a bi man has only had sex with two men in his lifetime, there is a high chance those two men have had a combined sexual history of 1,000 or more partners.

This translates into a daunting roster of diseases you have to worry about. Look at the statistics: Gay men and bisexual men with predominant gay leanings make up about 2.5% of the population but they account for 45% of all HIV cases in the US and a majority of sexually acquired HIV cases. About 9 in 10 adult males in the US are straight, but only about 1 in 9 HIV-positive men who acquired the virus through sex are straight. While 25% of the adult population has been exposed to genital herpes, about two thirds of adult gay males have genital herpes. And orally transmitted syphilis is so rare in the heterosexual population that it's impossible to measure, yet among gay men it is one of the most urgent health threats.

As a married bi man whose wife has been okay with the idea of getting it on with a guy, I have to say that the health risks are the only things that continue to hold me back. I don't know where I can find another man whom I trust enough to have potentially hazardous sex with.

J

lbamm

Dec 18, 2005, 6:48 PM

Sorry Folks...I know I'm not a female, but had to comment. I really ejoyed all of your imput on the issue. My ex wife was the only person I exercised my bisexuality with or even admitted it to. Not only was it special to give her something I know most guys won't consider but she in turn made the whole thing complete ! we shared men and sometimes she watched,but whatever the situation it was the ULTIMATE intimacy a couple could share ! It's good to know so many are so supportive and approving. Before I located this website, I feared that she was a once in a lifetime opportunity and now I know that this does not have to be the closing of a newly opened chapter in my life. It was just starting to get interesting ! (wink ) Thanks Ladies ! & ROCK ON !

yaknowthatguy

Dec 19, 2005, 3:29 AM

Diddy,

You bring up a lot of great points about politics and power. But Oral Bradley hit the nail on the head: disease.

As a married bi man whose wife has been okay with the idea of getting it on with a guy, I have to say that the health risks are the only things that continue to hold me back. I don't know where I can find another man whom I trust enough to have potentially hazardous sex with.

J

GREAT perspective and statistics - sometimes a reality check is a good reminder.

I'm a very lucky guy - married to a mostly straight wife who is very understanding of my sexuality, and loves to watch too! An easy way to get her gushing. I rather wish she was bi too....but that's another story.

Thing is, both of us are in medicine, and understand the risks implicitly. We're very circumspect about our partners (and, to date, it's been 'partner'). We don't terribly like the idea of one-nighters, and prefer friendships - so we offer testing of ourselves up front, and want testing of people with whom we meet. This is arduous, and a bit of a buzzkill, but it does offer some measure of security for all parties (though not completely). Even with that, condoms are not negotiable - they are utilized, period. Sex should be enjoyable, not fatal.

Understanding straight women are out there - just have to look far enough.

alec50uk

Dec 19, 2005, 4:58 AM

csrakate

Dec 19, 2005, 5:13 AM

For what I've read in this thread, it seems that when women are bisexual themselves, they are more understanding about men being bisexuals too.

Second, they seem to be not only more understanding but also more turned on by watching their hubbies engaged in male to male sex than straight women.

Sorry Ray..but I must take exception to this just a bit. Straight women may not find male to male sex a turn on...but in many cases, it goes deeper than the fact that they are straight. It has to do with what they were raised to believe...what society has dictated as the norm.

As a "straight" woman married to a bisexual man, I very often consented to viewing same sex porn with my husband because I believed that it was the right thing for me to do for him. I "watched", but very often I did so with my eyes averted from the screen and my affect rather flat and non-responsive. Why??? At the time I just thought it was because i found it far too different for me to understand....but as I have grown a bit more in my understanding of myself, I realized it was because I didn't WANT to find it a turn on. I was afraid to watch because I didn't WANT to be aroused by it. I had been raised to believe that "nice" girls didn't get aroused by such things..."nice" girls grew up to be wives and mothers (and successful career women...don't think that I am THAT old fashioned!!) and to acknowledge their sexuality was to acknowledge a character flaw.

Lucky for me (and for my husband) I have had a change of heart. I can now acknowledge myself as a sexual being, a woman who may label herself as straight, but a woman who is now open to other possibilities as her kids grow more independant and as her focus shifts more inward. I no longer watch same sex porn with my fingers over my eyes...as a matter of fact, I often sit straight up in the bed and watch with great interest! I am no longer fenced in by those "societal norms". I am free to appreciate myself and my husband as well as us as a couple...two people who love sex and find that our imaginations can lead us to greater heights! I may not be speaking for the majority of straight women married to bi men, but I do want to let it be known that it is possible to have the best of both worlds...but that it takes good communication, active imaginations, and loving hearts to achieve this result. I am lucky that i married a man who was patient enough to allow me to arrive at that point at my own pace...one who didn't push or complain...and now one who is very happy and quite satisfied on all counts. Who knows what tomorrow may bring? All that I know is that I am no longer afraid to be me!

Hugs,
Kate

Driver 8

Dec 19, 2005, 1:53 PM

I've known bi women who told me they weren't comfortable dating bi guys; said they wanted monogamy and couldn't expect it from bi men. (Flame me not, I merely report this.)

As for me, I think bi men are hot, and there aren't nearly enough out ones, ah well.

DareMe

Dec 19, 2005, 3:15 PM

The question you ask is not ann asy one to answer to this arena as I believe that most of us who come here, have a natural disposition towards the acceptance of each other's sexual preference.

The str8 women I know even when approaching the subject all think that's not natural to see 2 men together. The reverse situation is not met with the same disdain.

I think that, this being a man's world, or at least until the 1970s before the pill and the woman`s lib movement came around, the society's accepted general sexual preferences had evolved from a very masculine point of vue. And let's face it, what is more macho than sharing your bed with 2 women.

Men admiting to having even a slight attraction to other men werre ostracized. Today, you may not necessarily be ostracized but you are subjected to walk around with the "gay" label over your head.

Women that accept male bisexualism is really not the norm, or at least not when I was dating in my 20s.

Just my opinion, I may be wrong as I have been wrong b4.

DM

isnt_so_sure

Dec 19, 2005, 11:26 PM

now i am a 26 yr old bisexual woman who is turned on by the idea of two men having sex.....if there are many of us out there we dont seem to be recognized....the only thing that i can state as a theory as to why it seems to be so is that according to society there are people out there that think anal sex is dirty and shouldnt be done at all....i guess the rest of it has to do with the way we are controlled by media which seem to be controlled by mostly men who are stuck in their ways but at least now there is a movie out that depicts two manly men in a sexual way thats mainstream...hope this helps

melmorg

Dec 20, 2005, 3:57 PM

"…sexuality can change with time, even from being straight to bisexual to gay or the other way around. I've always thought that sexuality is not fixed and that our likes can change from one day to the following, from one minute to the next."

The more I accept my bicuriosity and potential bisexuality the more I believe in the aforementioned statement. Growing up in a strict Christian environment, all aspects of sexuality were off limits to me, therefore causing a lot of discomfort with anything different than what was considered "normal." To be honest, I basically grew up feeling pretty asexual as sex was not discussed beyond what not to do.

As I got older and separated myself from that environment, my feelings changed considerably. I'm much more comfortable around people of different sexual persuasions and have begun opening up to my own sexuality. I believe that we're basically spiritual beings who connect to each other first and foremost on that level, regardless of gender.

It's a shame that people have to be labeled one thing or another, but unfortunately, society has deemed certain things acceptable and others not. The good thing is that society's views can—and do—change over time. Religion, on the other hand, is a whole 'nother story. :rolleyes:

To finally answer the question, I don't really know how I'd feel dealing with a bi- guy, as the whole MM thing is still growing on me. It sounds great in theory to be with someone who can relate on both levels, but since I'm still new at all this, I'll have to maintain a wait and see attitude.

morpheus2005

Dec 24, 2005, 2:20 PM

[QUOTE=. So far to date there has been no major female political figure in the States for example, the most powerful country on the planet.[/QUOTE]

I really dig everything else you've said, but I take issue with this quote. Hillary, Condaleeza? Barbara Boxer? While obviously no female has been president or been a Senator for decades, there are quite a few females who wield more power than most. :2cents:

wanderingrichard

Dec 24, 2005, 4:59 PM

at first, i passed this thread by becuase i figured it would raise my tendency to rant against my percieved slights by "normal" society agianst bisexuality.

then , i started carefully reading the responses, and i'm now glad i have.

as a single, a swinger, and a bisexual, i've run into a lot of the prejudices that have been stated here. yes, swingers , for the most part are the biggest hypocrites in the sexually free world. i too have been given the bums rush when engaging in MM play at a few orgies. but, as stated elsewhere, women are expected to engage in FF acts for the enjoyment of their male onlookers and partners. how skewed and pathetic these people are. it's also the reason that when i'm asked to reccomend a swingers group in my area i steer people away from the one "shining example of hedonism" in the area.. tho founded by a very bi man, and now run by a staff of political wannabes, it is now not at all tolerant of bisexuality in men, but expects it of all women members. and yes, sexual politics have come into play almost everywhere..it has literally taken me years to find several groups that are tolerant of alternative sexualities, and mean it, not just mouth the platitudes of tolerance, only to revile those who take them at thier word.

also, ever see an interesting profile that screams "NO SINGLE MEN? " or " NO BI MEN"? do you have that on yours? yet want wife or hubby to perform in same sex acts, with you as the 3rd member? isn't that a form of hypocrisy or predjudice too? [ see, i started ranting again and dialed it back]

what i think is the right form of answer here is an amalgam of diddy, johhnyv, kate and one or two others.. yes, it is an unjust and dangerous world. yes people are cruel to those whose lifestyles or ideals are not in line with theirs.. what we have to remember, and do, is to reinforce our understanding of others and their cultures.. not base our reactions on a narrow field of view that may have been driven into us in childhood and still holds sway in our adult ways of thinking.

MM or FF is and can be a beautiful and powerful thing. forcing someone into this situation is reprehensible, and should not be at all tolerated in our society. our applause and support should be given to those who have found themselves with a bi partner and have opened their minds enough to try and learn what it means not only to their partners, but to themselves as well, and turned it into a positive thing in their combined lives.

straightlady

Jan 17, 2006, 8:35 PM

bishavedmale4u

Jan 17, 2006, 10:18 PM

its so good to hear such good replys, i told my gf 2 weeks ago and it turned her on. we will see how it goes from here
:flag2:

bi.girlfag73

Jan 17, 2006, 10:43 PM

I am so absolutely turned on and attracted to bisexual and gay men, and I have been since my late teens. I have found it hard to meet bisexual men anywhere but on the internet. I have had sex with a few men I have met in gay bars, who were in transition to being gay, and i have met a few bi men in those bars, but it is very uncomfortable to want to hit on so many men in those places and yet, know that they probably won't be interested or may be completely offended (yikes!).
It can be tough for a girlfag to find the right partner!
Here's to those of us who are still out there looking for those elusive bisexual males! There is a great yahoo group for women who love bi men called Girlfags. Anyone interested is welcome.
:compuser:
:color:

straightlady

Jan 18, 2006, 12:07 AM

I checked out the group; that's a bit different from me. Can't quite explain it. I don't have any interest at all in cross-dressers or feminine men. I like my men very masculine and dominant and muscular and not swishy at all. I wouldn't mind using a strap-on on a man, but I would much rather have the man be getting the real thing while he also had sex with me. Also I need a rather alpha male man because the men I do have sex with tend to get weirdly attracted to me. But thank you for letting me know about the group! It's helping me to figure out what I want to figure out what I don't want.

huneypot

Jan 18, 2006, 4:47 AM

i think two men having sex is hot :tong:
but apart from the sex issue, the bisexual men i have met here are amoung the most decent blokes ive ever come across, :bigrin:

smokey

Jan 18, 2006, 8:08 AM

Well...I have been told by several women that they would love to watch two men make it in the flesh (not a porno movie) but it is not something I have ever discussed with a lover. I have always made a point of telling my partners that I was bi but that I only played the field when I was single and never brought up the possiblity of putting on a show for them. In fact the only threesomes and orgies I have attended was when I was single.

smokey

Jan 18, 2006, 8:11 AM

By the way...we bisexuals tend to make the best lovers. We are usually very open-minded about things and have a much larger sexual palate to work with than your average straight or gay and we know all about the pleasurable differences between being passive or not in bed and how it translates into how you are as a person.

Tastemybuds

Jan 18, 2006, 2:30 PM

I think that to some people the thought of two men together isnt exceptable because there is actual penatration as with two women there is not unless you use a toy. I dont see the difference. I think that two men together is a beautiful thing. I enjoy watching gay and bisexual porn and Im hoping to experience the real thing some day. Id love to suck on a hard cock while hes getting it good from behind. This is such a big turn on to me...... :bibounce:

moonlitwish

Jan 18, 2006, 4:52 PM

As a bisexual woman I have no probs with mm sex. Almost any kind of sex turns me on though :tong:
I have a good friend who is bisexual, and though she and her hubby have enjoyed many mff encounters, she finds the thought of 2 men together repulsive. I asked her why-from her answer, I'd swear she was a lesbian feminist. She told me men are gross. Well duh! (no offense, guys) I don't get it. I'd just as soon have a bi guy for myself...he'd understand my desire for women a little better. Unfortunately, my dude's str8 as an arrow.

FireRaven

Jan 31, 2006, 9:34 AM

I'm a married bi woman and my mate is het. I would still love him if he were bi, though I'm very glad he isn't. I wouldn't want to be included in any of his relationships. I'm not even a little bit turned on by two men being together.

:2cents:
Stay Amuzed!
Raven

Sweet59

Jan 31, 2006, 12:10 PM

I am very turned on by two men together. My husband is str8 but is not against role playing for me. Such as his licking and sucking a fake penis for my eye candy! I don't know if he would act on male love if the opportunity presented itself. We enjoy giving pleasure and watching each other being pleasured for the most part, so the possibilities are endless from my point of view. I think that male bodies are as beautiful as female bodies and any combination of the two is a turn on for me to watch. ;)

open2both

Jan 31, 2006, 6:02 PM

My experience (sadly) has been 95% of women I've dated, hung out with and just talked with were repulsed by just the thought of "picturing" 2 men making love. Women generally don't like sex as much as men and place a huge emotional connection with "intimacy" and want to be the center of attention and feel neglected/ alienated if not involved in the activities. And any "man on the street" survey will likely breakdown as 80% straight women abhor anything gay/lez/bi, 20% open to watching women together and 3% open to gay/bi men.
I'm waaaay glad 2 b in this group of openminded, kindred souls!

bityme

Feb 1, 2006, 4:21 AM

Let's face it. Society views men and women differently. 2 girls, Great eye candy! The guy can control the action. The other way around, very few women want to control the action. The man is supposed to run the show. They want a manly man who will pay the rent and Visa. If they picture their guy having a nice hard dick going in and out of his rear they equate it with feminity, and going down on a guy, well that is something you only do until you feel solid in the relationship and can start claiming a headache, Generally, they just do not understand the pleasure of MM contact. In fact, they generally view it as making them superior. Are there some that love MM action, Yes! But they are few and far between.

searchingbrian

Feb 3, 2006, 1:30 AM

Sorry Ray..but I must take exception to this just a bit. Straight women may not find male to male sex a turn on...but in many cases, it goes deeper than the fact that they are straight. It has to do with what they were raised to believe...what society has dictated as the norm.

As a "straight" woman married to a bisexual man, I very often consented to viewing same sex porn with my husband because I believed that it was the right thing for me to do for him. I "watched", but very often I did so with my eyes averted from the screen and my affect rather flat and non-responsive. Why??? At the time I just thought it was because i found it far too different for me to understand....but as I have grown a bit more in my understanding of myself, I realized it was because I didn't WANT to find it a turn on. I was afraid to watch because I didn't WANT to be aroused by it. I had been raised to believe that "nice" girls didn't get aroused by such things..."nice" girls grew up to be wives and mothers (and successful career women...don't think that I am THAT old fashioned!!) and to acknowledge their sexuality was to acknowledge a character flaw.

Lucky for me (and for my husband) I have had a change of heart. I can now acknowledge myself as a sexual being, a woman who may label herself as straight, but a woman who is now open to other possibilities as her kids grow more independant and as her focus shifts more inward. I no longer watch same sex porn with my fingers over my eyes...as a matter of fact, I often sit straight up in the bed and watch with great interest! I am no longer fenced in by those "societal norms". I am free to appreciate myself and my husband as well as us as a couple...two people who love sex and find that our imaginations can lead us to greater heights! I may not be speaking for the majority of straight women married to bi men, but I do want to let it be known that it is possible to have the best of both worlds...but that it takes good communication, active imaginations, and loving hearts to achieve this result. I am lucky that i married a man who was patient enough to allow me to arrive at that point at my own pace...one who didn't push or complain...and now one who is very happy and quite satisfied on all counts. Who knows what tomorrow may bring? All that I know is that I am no longer afraid to be me!

Hugs,
Kate

Thank you Kate!!
This exactly what goes on much of the time. The same type of thing happened to me initially. My X wanted me to watch and look at male porn and I refused because it was "disgusting". but I peeked past the wall that I put up and suddenly I found myself wanting those beautiful men. What a surprise. I really loved oral, anal and everything. How short-sighted I had been. Thank you for your openness and willingness to open up.

Brian

switch22

Feb 6, 2006, 12:08 PM

I spend most of my time in the "het world" and I just don't get the attraction of FF sex. Personally I'm just not turned on by two women having sex. If there's no guy in there then I just don't get it. I think most people think queer men are weak, no matter how butch or hot they look. One of them or both is a sissy. With two women, it doesn't matter. They can do what they want. I find that very demeaning.
The few men I have been with were gay or closeted so I don't know what they were. I think bi men are the hottest!

Mrs. Taz

Feb 6, 2006, 5:20 PM

some women may be afraid to say they are turned on by that. I for one will admit I am turned on by 2 guys.

dinojr692000

Feb 25, 2006, 2:39 AM

You know my answer........two men together....bringing plesure to each other.........nothing to say except WHAT A TURN ON! MMM MMM MMM
:2cents:

love ur answer if yiu need another bi male in philly to join ya's let me know.
on yahoo with same username
dinojr692000

Driver 8

Feb 25, 2006, 9:52 AM

love ur answer if yiu need another bi male in philly to join ya's let me know.
Y'know, dino, you might have better luck if you put a personal ad in your profile instead of just responding to folks on the threads ;)

Curious2knowmore

Feb 25, 2006, 3:28 PM

While most of the posts here are from Bi-women and very few straight women, I think it all boils down to “JEALOUSY” in relationships. While many Bi-women are open minded enough to accept Bi-men, there is less tendency for them to become jealous over their man exploring sexuality with other men. Straight women on the other hand, feel they should be the center of their partner’s attention at all times and will become jealous of the thought of their man with another woman. If she finds out that her man is Bi or even slightly curious, now she has to worry about her man cheating on her or leaving her for not only another woman, but now it could be for another man. The JEALOUSY grows and eventually those relationships falter anyway.

So that being said, my guess is that it works better for couples that have been open and honest with each other at the beginning of a relationship about sexual desires. I know it is harder for a person in the relationship to express their desires to a long-term partner for fear of the relationship ending abruptly (as many have). I see many profiles on the web of men whose wives don’t know or aren’t interested. Many of those men are in long-term relationships that have been closet BI’s or like me, have recently discovered the concept, have a harder time revealing it to the woman in their lives because they (being straight) don’t understand bisexuality. Being open and honest in the beginning gives the other person the option to pursue or run with out ruining a long-term relationship. It also gives the person an opportunity (should they decide to pursue) to understand and learn about bisexuality (as many straight women w/outed partners seem to be doing at this site).

Years ago homosexuality was the taboo in society because it wasn’t understood. This day in age it’s being forced down everyone’s throat in the media and becoming more acceptable though still frowned upon by many. Now the bisexual community is slowly coming out and seems to be frowned upon by both straight and gay communities. Things change with time and it won’t be long before bisexuality becomes more acceptable to society and homosexuality will be a thing of the past. I think the new term for both Bisexual and Homosexual should be something like “Sexually Free” and “Sexuality Freedom” as the new catch phrase.

:soapbox: Now I will get on a rocky subject…politics and the media. So if you are easily offended, you should stop reading this post. But if you want your eyes opened a little more keep reading.

As some other posters have stated, most people (or as I like to call them, “Sheeple”), have all been herded up into groups and made to conform to societies way of thinking by the media, religious beliefs, and good old fashion upbringing (family moral beliefs, for those who aren’t southern).

:offtopic: Here in the great US of A, our forefathers penned some documents we call the constitution. It states that we have the right to “Life, Liberty, and Pursuit of Happiness” and also gives us “Freedom of Choice”. This day and age these rights seem to have been over looked and forgotten about. Most people make their choice based on what others might think or say about ME if I don’t dress, look, drive, live, etc. the way society says I should. The media and our precious government feel they should “protect you from yourself”. They want to tell you how to live your life, what you should or shouldn’t do, what you can or can’t do on your own land, how you drive your car on so called “Public Roads” and how to spend your money. All in direct conflict with that very first law written in the Constitution.

How can you have Liberty if everyone is telling you how to live and is in your personal business all of the time? How can you have Pursuit of Happiness if you aren’t fulfilling your own hopes and dreams or making the choices you feel are right in your own heart? Bottom line… we have the right to do what ever the hell we want to do as long as it doesn’t cause physical injury to another person or other person’s property. Now we are in the era of “The Offended”. If you watch the news and those new, reality TV shows “Court TV”, you will often see someone that has been dragged into court for offending someone else. Being offended is the way you chose to react to someone else’s choice or action and DOES NOT constitute “physical injury”. So if society don’t like the things I do or the way I live, it’s their problem not mine and they should mind their own busyness. Be offended and go on with your life rather than be so damn offensive towards me, infringing on my rights.

:disgust: And to finish this off, I noticed several posts from so called Bi Women. You say you are married but you don’t allow your husbands to have a bisexual relationship or are turned off with the idea or site of 2 men together. Well, I think you are ether extremely selfish or you are just a hypocrite. If you are a practicing bisexual woman and don’t approve of your man participating with another man, then you are a selfish hypocrite. Women have realized, if a man can eat pussy and enjoys it, why can’t they? I ask if a woman can suck a dick and its not a problem, why can’t a man suck one also? If a man can fuck a woman in the ass, why not another man? Its just another ass or mouth with a dick in it. What difference does it make whether they are male or female orifices? It’s all about a man or woman giving and receiving sexual pleasure with another person, be they male or female. Not about being selfish and always the center of attention.

Driver 8

Feb 25, 2006, 7:19 PM

And to finish this off, I noticed several posts from so called Bi Women. You say you are married but you don’t allow your husbands to have a bisexual relationship or are turned off with the idea or site of 2 men together. Well, I think you are ether extremely selfish or you are just a hypocrite. If you are a practicing bisexual woman and don’t approve of your man participating with another man, then you are a selfish hypocrite.
WTF, Curious?

If someone wants to be in a monogamous relationship, and their partner does too, what's so bad about it? If someone doesn't happen to be turned on by two guys together, so what? People don't choose their turn-ons. If you don't want to date a woman like that, don't, but why come on here and flame?

... and since when do you become a "so called Bi Woman" for wanting a monogamous relationships? Last I hear, being bi was about being interested in both genders, not about whether or not you had an open arrangement.

FatGirl

Mar 3, 2006, 2:10 PM

I think bisexual men are very attractive, and even though my signifigant other isn't bisexual (sigh..) I would definately be with a man that is. Some wemon say its a turn off but it's definately a turn on in my book.

scubaman

Mar 4, 2006, 7:16 AM

.................and to top it off, Curious does not even have an active description of him/herself. Whatever gets them thru the day I guess!

Driver 8

Mar 4, 2006, 7:30 AM

.................and to top it off, Curious does not even have an active description of him/herself.!
In fairness, he's Curious2knowmore, not Eager2tellmore.

rupertbare

Mar 4, 2006, 7:47 AM

I'm rofl Driver!!!!

But what you say is true!!

love
Rupe :)

scubaman

Mar 4, 2006, 9:09 AM

In fairness, he's Curious2knowmore, not Eager2tellmore.

Touche Driver! You are most correct!

grizzle45

Mar 5, 2006, 10:57 AM

I agree with Switch22, if I understand hirm correctly. In our socieity, female sexuality does not threatent the male paradigm. Women are allowed to cross the line and break the rules and it doesn't matter. Women's sexuality is simply not as important as men's. When men cross the line and engage in same sex eroticism then the masculine image has been perverted and this offense cannot be broached. It might also be that women on women sex is not perceived to involve "penetrator" and "penetratee", thus there is no "real sex" happening. Whereas with men, one is defintely going to be the "submissive". Of course, this is all very unconscious and few are aware that they are being influenced this way.
I find this paradigm offensive to men and women. It objectifies women sexually and attempts to rob thier sexuality of any significance. It also implies that men are fragile and easily threatened sexually and defines our sexuality in terms of fear and paranoia. It also robs us of a certain eroticism and beauty. One should not and cannot objectify male sexuality.
I abhor "Lesbian Chic" and it infuriates me whenever I encounter it, which is often because this attitude means that most bisexual characters in flim and television are women, or any depcition of women on women affection is not balanced by a visible man on man affection.
I think male on male affection is very hot and I demand more of it! :2cents:

open2both

Mar 5, 2006, 2:12 PM

It's gratifying to read all the female support here...BUT...sadly, the vast majority of females (and males for that matter) in in the "normal" world just are flat out repulsed by the very thought / image of men together. Will that ever change? Probably not COMPLETELY but here's hoping someday SOON viewpoints will improve. :flag3:

Mrs.F

Mar 5, 2006, 2:57 PM

guycurious

Mar 5, 2006, 3:19 PM

I, too, am turned on by most sorts of pornography. The wife (still doesn't know about my other interests) is slowly coming around to the idea of porn.

I mentioned to my better half that I had concerns that some of the sexual things we do would be considered 'gay' by most people. She said she knows I am attracted to women so she isn't concerned. I was trying to drop a hint but she didn't pick up on it. I know the easiest thing to do would be to come out and state my bi feelings but a while back she made a comment about two guys being together being unattractive so this has kept my mouth shut.

I think my wife would be supportive and understanding if I told her but there is always a possibility of trouble....

Such a heavy burden to carry....

JohnnyV

Mar 5, 2006, 4:04 PM

Ok, what about this? I have no problem watching gay male porn. I never have. I do get turned on by it. BUT....and here it comes....I have a hard time pictureing my husband in one these roles. Why is this? Is it because I just found out a few months ago that he is bisexual and that maybe I am having a hard time accepting it? While in my mind I have no problems with him being bisexual and am not homophobic at all, why is it that seeing him in this role is not turning me on? :eek: Someone please help me! :rolleyes:

Mrs.F

Mrs. F,

Forgive me for being so brief, I'm at the library doing my writing and have snuck only a few seconds to peek at the message boards... I think it's okay that you like the porn but you don't like thinking of your hubby in those roles. What we like visually is very different from what we would do or want done to people we know. If it helps your marriage, I think you should just agree with Flounder that he'll do things without you there, and trust him to make good decisions when he's exploring.

All the best to everyone!

Love,
J

kcunderwhere

Mar 6, 2006, 1:28 PM

Interesting thread, but I think the responses are a bit biased...since I would assume most people even reading this thread are more open-minded when it comes to sexuality than the general public.

As for men being with men...to get an idea of how society in general feels, just go to your local porn shop or shop for porn online. All women on women titles are in the "Straight" section out in the most promenent areas, and men on men are always in the "Gay" section hidden in the back corner. I believe most women as well as men can't handle the idea of two men together. I know my wife sees men who are with men as "feminized" somehow, even if they are straight acting. She has several very good gay friends and has no bias against "other" homosexuals, but the idea of her husband being bisexual is unacceptable to her. :(

Robin_Swallows

Mar 13, 2006, 3:08 PM

Yes - it is a tricky subject huh ? speaking as a bi-gentleman, I find that I don’t share this aspect of my life with my lady friends … it’s a secret for all the reasons listed here !

of course if the situation were gender reversed – I’m sure I would be a popular gal 

I thought I would share some of my own observations … remember – I’m a prisoner of my own experiences …

Guys - “couples” (with bi-males) have men that have overcome the awkward situation of telling “her” that they are “curious” – a huge step. As the men here can imagine – it’s just not easy to say – “Honey - pictures of huge cocks a turn-on – right !?!?”
The good news is that many sites have couples listed with an interest in biMFM meeting/ relationship – and what that might look like.
I’ve meet couples with bi men and it’s a wonderful experience – many times it’s geared for his enjoyment - but couples who have gained some experience, and have discussed the subject more thoroughly, find all evolved to be very satisfied.

Ladies – I know many women don’t care for “men enjoying men” … but there are some women in a couples situation that are very open to it … in fact the women encourage sharing of the oral activities – which can be most fulfilling for the recipient !

I’ve only met one woman in my life that said she enjoyed seeing perform a man perform fellatio on another man. Just for your own FYI - Men are only (usually) bi “below the waist”
So my rule is “don’t tell unless asked for the right reason” 

BI BOYTOY

Mar 14, 2006, 5:39 AM

.hello their.you are right about society,i fortunatly found out at an early age that society was full of shit.and i am glad to see alot of women like two guys together.im also very lucky to have a wife whom simply loves me being with men.we are largly poly.and we have had some wonderfull experiences,and would not change it for the world.why are women turned on with bi guys?well our world is getting more open mined although slowly,its probably for the same reason why guys are attracted with two women.you just dont hear of it very often because society deams one wrong and one right.like i said society is full of it :bipride: :bigrin:

Tx46M

Mar 14, 2006, 8:24 AM

My beloved ex was very bi, and the 2 babes I was in relationships with prior to the 9.5 years I spent with the ex both wanted to experience g2g and really really wanted to see 2 guys get it on too. My impression is society is more accepting of two or more females showing affection (or more) than 2 men. Romantically speaking I am straight but I did have one m2m experience a year ago and it was fun. All 3 of my prior ladies would express their desire to see the m2m act while we made love...and that turned both of us on.
:male: :2cents:

lordnlady

Mar 14, 2006, 4:53 PM

i find it all good ,my husband is bi . for my self i see it as a turn on. as iam bi myself ,if a guy can see 2gals going at it why cant we have the same watching 2 guys going at it like i said i find it very sexy :bipride:

OCbicouple

Mar 14, 2006, 10:58 PM

I am the the female (st8) of this couple. I have been married for over 14 years. He told me he was bi-curious (had not done anything at that time) when we were dating. A few years into the marriage, I knew he was starting to explore his bi side. I knew, but I did not want to know about it. But I accepted it, and it did not affect me and our love, so left it at that for awhile.

Then, almost like an ephimany, on our anniversary last year, I said I wanted to be part of his bi play and look into having a threesome. We talked a loooonnnnnnnggggg time about it........a lot about how each other would feel (most was guessing, as we kept saying we would not know until we were actually in the situation). He was excited and nervous for me. He wanted me to be part of this, but nervous, as he did not know how I would perceive him after seeing him in these positions.

Now after about 6 months of "playing", I can honestly say, I am fine watching my husband in any positions. My husband is full "bi" and I have participated right along with him. In one our threesomes, we have this gentleman who loves to kiss all of us at the same time......very hot!!! Also have had my fingers slide in while he is engaging the other man. The hottest thing was having the man engaging with me while the man orally pleased my husband, and the man looks back at me.......and sees that I get excited.......and he gets more excited................

.................................................. ..............................................

For Society.......

My Aunt (who was married, with 2 children), has been a lesbian since I was young. So to me "gay" was just normal. Sex of any form is the same wether MM FF MF (or any combination). I know society is now accepting more of the FF relationships.......but think they are still a few years away of accepting MM.....there is a double standard.

Brokeback Mountain turned a few heads the last year......and may have put the idea out in public......that MM is the same as any other relationship. The promotion for the movie was purpously not tagged "a gay movie", but a movie about two men who loved each other and had a relationship........a love story. This is what sold the movie....and got it a nomination for Oscar.....but it did not win.....

One Day..............all will be accepted!!

Mimi

Mar 15, 2006, 1:34 AM

i'll just add my short-and-sweet bit to this very long thread: i love to see 2 men being sexual (especially if they're both attractive). i think part of it is seeing 2 men being tender with each other, which is so rare these days. :)

mimi :nrrdgrrl:

hunnybea

Mar 15, 2006, 1:36 AM

I've yet to experience the pleasure of being with 2 bisexual men, but I have always enjoyed watching porn with more than one man in the scene. I started watching gay porn when I didn't really want to look at vaginas. Now that I've finally found some MMF porn where everybody is really pleasuring each other, and it's not just 2 straight men at both ends of a woman, I hope more than ever I can find a man or male couple to live out my fantasies with.

I've only been a member here for a few days and am fascinated by peoples' stories. I find it sad that so many men with female partners can't share their bisexuality with them, as much for the women as the men. Because, oh what those women are missing out on: watching 2 men suck and fuck each other, pleasuring and getting pleasured by more than one cock at the same time! :eek:

Pardon me while I go watch some MMF videos and masturbate... ;)

Tx46M

Mar 15, 2006, 8:04 AM

I am married and I would find it a HUGE turn on to see him with another man... :drool: We are built for pleasure and it's all good in my opinion. We watch str8, gay and bi movies together and find it all to be very erotic. In fact, I think mm interactions in movies are so much more genuine, because, well, it's a lot easier to tell just how turned on they are! :male: We share all of our fantasies and are finding that we are both equally bi. Thinking of him with another man drives me just as crazy as him wanting to see me with another woman!
Wow...my recently ended marriage was much like yours, except while one of my ex's girlfriends did join us from time to time we never did find a like minded couple (ladies bi guys straight ONLY). I think you 2 are extremely fortunate to have eachother!! I have had but one mm experience last year, someday I hope to meet another special lady to share with...
:male: :2cents: :2cents:

abc1234

Jul 4, 2006, 10:11 PM

in my honest opinion why does it even matter? i may not be the most qualified person to answer to this thread because as a bi male i have had a very limited sexual experience. i have only been with three male and one female partners. the only people who know about the my "bi" side is the men i have been with and the people online. i am currently with one of the guys and we r good "friends". but the fact of the matter is that, and i do acknowledge my limited experience here, i think that most bi men keep the sex with women and the sex with men as two VERY different things. i know i do. when i am with a woman i am completely devoted to her, and the same when i am with a guy. i have never mixed the two. i think that a large part of being bi has become having threesomes, or in some way being in a relationship with a male and a female at the same time. Personally for me, being bi is about loving both sexes. that doesn’t mean having a cock stuffed in u while ur with or in the presence of a woman. i have many fantasies of being in a mmf, but i still think at the end of the day that its the least of the things that makes u bi. my current "friend" and i do everything that a normal GAY couple would do, go to movies, live together, kiss, cuddle, have sex. so personally to me at this point it doesn’t matter to me what women think about it. does this make sense to anyone except me?

yankeedyke

Jul 4, 2006, 11:58 PM

Hello folks...

I must say that I have a different reason for dating bi men. The main reason that I date bi men is that I don't particularly like most straight men (this isn't to say *all* straight men, certainly) and feel more comfortable with bi men. Some of that has to do with past experience, and some of it has to do with the fact that I feel bi men are more in tune with both their masculine and feminine sides. It's much more comfortable for me energy and space-wise.

I'll admit that sex with two men is quite a turn on for me, and I really enjoy seeing it. But, really, that's more of a bonus than a reason.

:2cents:

wifeandibi

Jul 5, 2006, 2:11 AM

My wife first told me that seeing a guy with another guy did nothing for her at all (we are swingers and we enjoy the lifestyle).

One time when she was in a 69 with a friend of our husband, I jumped in and helped her suck him off . . . .and he turned from her pussy and sucked on me as well . . . .

she's been hooked ever since

Avocado

Jul 5, 2006, 6:40 AM

On the other hand women are supposed to love queer men. At the end of the day neither impression are as valid as the other. The fact is is that many straight people talk the talk, but when it comes to walking the walk, they don't want to go out with someone who isn't straight. Even many men who get turned on by women kissing would feel too threatened if they were in a relationship even if the woman was monoganous.

Azrael

Jul 5, 2006, 11:07 AM

What always amused me were girls who have the opinion that they're so great in bed you'll never think about men again. Self inflated egoism bullshit, but not without entertainment value :rolleyes: I mean, I might settle down with a nice girl one day, but I'll never stop liking other men and vice versa.

allbimyself

Jul 5, 2006, 5:39 PM

LOL, Azrael. I'd sure let her try! :tong:

Azrael

Jul 5, 2006, 5:41 PM

Well of course, but that's neither here nor there *blushes profusely* :tong:

mtenn

Jul 5, 2006, 7:39 PM

This thread is good news and bad news.

It's good, no it's great, to see so many women who like and get turned on by bi guys.

The bad news is that all of the women who like that are accounted for as members of this web site leaving all the rest uninterested.

But I keep looking anyway. Any (bi) Memphis ladies? <g>

flyer

Mar 28, 2010, 7:04 PM

I've just read this thread through from beginning to end. It's amazing reading - it is a shame that it cannot be written up and published as part of a book. (or could it? Idea for site owner - is that "Drew"?). Lots of people would find huge reassurance from it.

the sacred night

Mar 29, 2010, 5:51 PM

few women seem to find bisexual men to be a turn on.Why is this,or am I just wrong?

I think you're wrong, personally. I'm EXTREMELY turned on by man-on-man action and look at gay porn all the time. I think women are just more shy to admit that this turns them on (or for that matter, that anything turns them on) because of society's obsession with women being pure and its haste to label them sluts if they enjoy sex. Also, plenty of women have simply never seen two men do anything sexual, so they don't know if it would turn them on or not. I certainly never suspected it would turn me on until I saw something by accident, but I've been hooked ever since :)

bemyonlyone

Mar 30, 2010, 9:37 PM

I like two guys together, I find it very beautiful, and I am more attracted to bisexual men as I feel they can understand me in a way that straight men just can't, like another poster said.

I work with a gay guy and a bisexual guy and the two of them flirt a lot with each other. I think to most straight people it looks like they're just joking around as friends, but I know they're attracted to each other.

Most of the men I've been attracted to lately have been bi or gay. I've been through so much pain because of my sexuality in the last five years and I am instinctively drawn to a man or woman who understands that.

Which might make you wonder why I love a straight woman now, but that's another story.

Realist

Mar 30, 2010, 9:53 PM

You're probably onto something, there. I'm in the best relationship of my life, right now, with a wonderful, loving, bright, and extremely sensual lady, who is also bisexual.

For me, this is an indicator that I should have never settled for less than a bisexual lover. I know there are those of both genders, here, who are straight with bi/gay lovers, but for me, no one could be better for me.

bemyonlyone

Mar 30, 2010, 10:11 PM

I would also find it really difficult to be with a woman who was not also attracted to men.

That might be why I like a straight girl, because I know she likes men. Haha, she might only like men, but if she likes me, I know she likes men too. It's for the same reason, bisexual women understand me better and I feel like I can be completely free and myself. I feel like there would be a greater level of intimacy...

Since I don't have to date a lesbian it's very unlikely that I will. There are enough bisexual women around (though I insist on loving a straight one *facepalm*). Just my personal preference.

Yeah, definitely bisexual guys understand me more.

sqa7742

Mar 31, 2010, 6:47 PM

It's all very interesting, isn't it?

I know a bisexual woman who said she could never be with a bi man, but she wasn't sure why, and she knew it was completely bigoted, but being with a bi woman was all right with her.

I'm a bi-curious guy who hopes to end up some day in a long-term relationship with a woman, but I doubt I could have a lasting commitment to one who didn't accept the possibility of a bi boyfriend, and who wasn't bi herself.

That may sound a little strange, but I know it's true. :)

If there are any biM-biF couples out there making it work, send me a note. I really want to hear about your experiences!

dafydd

Apr 1, 2010, 6:48 PM

I am sure this topic has been discused before but society is a little bit of a two sided sword.It is accepted that men are turned on bi bisexual women but few women seem to find bisexual men to be a turn on.Why is this,or am I just wrong?

I guess society generally allows women to be more sexually transgressive then men. i.e. men are either into women Kinsey 1 and therefore straight or they have even an iota of incidence of same-sex attraction and they are gay Kinsey 2-7.

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tbi1532

Apr 20, 2010, 9:26 AM

I think you're wrong, personally. I'm EXTREMELY turned on by man-on-man action and look at gay porn all the time. I think women are just more shy to admit that this turns them on (or for that matter, that anything turns them on) because of society's obsession with women being pure and its haste to label them sluts if they enjoy sex. Also, plenty of women have simply never seen two men do anything sexual, so they don't know if it would turn them on or not. I certainly never suspected it would turn me on until I saw something by accident, but I've been hooked ever since

Well said, TSN! Thanks for your comment.

ErosUrge

Apr 20, 2010, 5:21 PM

Though this thread is directed at woman's view points on the matter, I do want to say that I have been wanting a relationship with a woman who could understand and accept my bisexuality. So far and every time I come out with it which is always from the very beginning, the relationship either never happens or goes sour as it did with the last serious relationship I had with a woman. She tried, but just couldn't handle the idea of it any longer and pulled the plug on everything. And I understand how some women just can't accept that.
I have had two women in my life that accepted this in me but it's been years ago now. Our reasons for parting were mutual and not because of my bisexualiity...to this day, all 3 of us are still great friends.
When I am with a woman in a relationship, I'm no longer interested in pursuing anything else with other women outside our relationship. But I can't deny my urges and desires for men sexually....and only sexually.
Ideally, I would love to find a woman who would understand this and be into our relationship knowing I would never depart from it. Yet I understand the fear and the threat from it emotionally. It's hard to convey that I would never stray from what we have sacred in our relationship. And I already know some women and men from reading this are already thinking how I am straying by engaging in sexual play with men. That's okay, they're entitled to think this. But when one of them makes a comment on this in a negative manner, I know they just don't get it and again that's okay. I'm not out to change anyone's mind. One either accepts this kind of thing or doesn't. I know many out there to judge this sort of thing and what their thoughts would be or are. Again, to each their own.....
It's great to see many of you women here who responded to this topic to be accepting of this in your men and not feel threatened by it. You all are truly of a rare kind. I know of 2 couples who are in this sort of relationship with each other. One couple where both are bi and allow play with the same sex and have been together for 23 years; the other where the husband is bi and the wife is straight, but allows her man to be with other men and married for 32 years. Hopefully one day such a woman will cross my path again who is single and willing to accept it.....
I know this was mostly about just the moment of watching men with men playing sexually, but all of this is part of the mix too.....thanks for reading.

Krys80

Apr 20, 2010, 6:01 PM

Personally I think two men together is hott. I am finding that more women than I thought think so as well. The problem I think, is that it is not as socially acceptable to say you find two men together hot. Most people try to hide it. Then again a lot of the women I know that are attracted to women hide that as well. Society still has a long way to go in accepting sexuality in all of its variety. :bigrin:

Lady_Passion

Apr 20, 2010, 6:13 PM

Hot!

But then, I think it's all good. I watch bi-men and gay men on youporn and xhamster to masturbate to. I already know how it is with women. MM piques my curiosity and sets my hormones churning. I liiiiike it! :color:

After reading all these posts, think I'm gonna take a break and.... ;)

belect

Apr 25, 2010, 5:08 PM

Although I'm not a woman but a bi sexual male. To see 2 men loving each other or even just to enjoy the sex itsel is a turno on just as it is to see 2 women or a mf couple enjoy the most pleasurable pleasures of life. It sure is a lot more enjoyable than seeing men fight or wrestle or boxing or others wise hurting each other.

brutal_priestess

Apr 25, 2010, 5:34 PM

I can only speak of this from a writer's pov, as weird as that sounds. If I am in the mood to write about a romantic relationship (fine, fine if I want to write a romance), I prefer writing about men in love. I think it's because I generally don't get women as a gender. No, I suppose that doesn't make a lick of sense since I'm female.

Hm...if I really wanted to analyze the interest, I suppose it would boil down to the fact that I don't write about heterosexual relationships because it usually becomes too personal and I don't write about women in love because...My bisexuality has always been incidental. I'm attracted to the person more than a gender. That's not to say that I'm not attracted to both genders it's just...complicated. Ugh, how did this get to be about me? Annnyyyywaaayy, the point I'm trying to make is writing about men in love allows me to explore the characters and their motivations and stretch my imagination while keeping myself (mostly) out of the equation.

RobUK

Apr 28, 2010, 8:15 AM

I just don't understand why some women avoid dating bisexual men...

Take a man an a woman in any heterosexual relationship. The girl is blonde. The guy likes both blondes and redheads.

Does the woman feel paranoid that her boyfriend is going to cheat on her with a girl with red hair? Would the guy feel he was entitled to cheat on her because she isn't fulfilling his desire to be with a redhead?

I know this is over-simplifying things a bit, but isn't the situation similar if the man was bisexual?

gen11

Apr 28, 2010, 8:58 AM

Curious timing. This is my second day as a member; yesterday afternoon I had my first mmw experience. She had only recently persuaded him to experiment with mm sex, apparently directing him. She repeatedly suggested activities to him while the three of us were together. He certainly enjoyed his interaction with me. It was very arousing to me to have an enthusiastic woman voyeur. I'm still processing it all. Seems to me he's the luckiest of men.

At the other extreme, my otherwise wonderful wife is the most sexually narrow-ranged woman I've ever been with. If she knew I was bi, it would shatter her world. If she found out I am bi and active, it would destroy her. There is no changing that--it is part of her core being.

Final rumination: It hasn't been mentioned so far, but I'd think the issues of hygene, actual and/or psychological, invovled with man/man anal intercourse may be a turn-off for some women.

Lady_Passion

Apr 29, 2010, 1:14 PM

If Jimmy were bi, I might consider there is a god.

Afterthought: He's my greek god actually, so I suppose I already do in a sense :.)

ErosUrge

Apr 29, 2010, 2:06 PM

I treasure my own acceptance of being bi. But I must admit it's a rather lonely road at times as I would love to connect with a woman who accepts and gets it. I understand why so many don't and have learned to accept this.
Interestingly, I got together with an old girlfriend of 20 years ago. We were both so happy to see one another again and the old attractions flared up and we both found ourselves later that evening immersed in kissing passionately. It led finally to her asking me over to her house for the night since her daughter was staying the weekend with her ex. I couldn't as I'd received a call from my elderly mother telling me her dog of 16 years had passed and I had to go there to bury the poor animal and comfort my sad mother.
So, the next day, my ex girlfriend invited me over to her house and we ended up spending the afternoon driving out in the country and then having a late lunch together. It was obvious during this time that there was a sadness in her because I am sure she was wanting us to be together more seriously but not expressing it verbally. But since I am now honest about being bi, this doesn't set well with her.
Sorry about so much detail, but it once again is the thing that always interferes with me connecting with a woman on a more serious level.
I know most would say that if I had any serious intentions I would simply give up being with men. Though I'm not emotionally interested in men, my appetite for male sex has always and is still very potent. I refuse to deny that about myself and don't expect anyone to understand this either, but it sure is nice when someone does understand.
Ideally, it would be wonderful to have a woman understand this need and perhaps it will take another bi woman or a straight one such as csrkate. I can certainly be devoted to a woman without being with any other woman unless she were wanting to share a woman. And ideally it would be great to have her share a man with me as well.
This goes against the norm I realize, but I do know that there are people out there that completely get this.
I have nothing against monogamy at all and have stated this several times in other posts to other topics here. I just don't want those who choose monogamy to lecture me or anyone like me as to what we should be doing. We already understand the complications, but it is who we are.
So for those of you women who are turned on from seeing men together sexually and accept that, I wish I could give you all a hug.....

lilme

Apr 29, 2010, 2:06 PM

I think seeing two guys getting it on, is a turn on for me. I love to watch, but then comes the time when I get so hot that I have to get my mouth in there somehow. I love it

ErosUrge

Apr 29, 2010, 2:12 PM

I think seeing two guys getting it on, is a turn on for me. I love to watch, but then comes the time when I get so hot that I have to get my mouth in there somehow. I love it

ahhhh you are a woman who I wish were more in supply....the attitude I have for both sexes also.....

Basin_Bouy

Aug 13, 2012, 4:19 PM

My female friend and I would love to perform Same Sex, Same Room, but have never been able to find another like minded couple much to our dismay

onewhocares

Aug 13, 2012, 8:34 PM

Well.....................

I thought that I was losing my marbles...I saw comments to this thread from site members who have passed away. But then again, this an universal question.

I happen to be a straight woman who thinks that seeing, participating, and envisioning a threesome as SO SO hot. I feel it can turn many a couple on. Just talk to your partner upfront and what expectation you both have.

Belle

Basin_Bouy

Aug 13, 2012, 8:43 PM

Very well put Belle, VERY well put

Ebonybifemme7

Aug 14, 2012, 6:03 PM

I used to have somewhat of a biased view of bisexual men before I joined this website. Even tho I'm a bisexual woman, I didnt think that a man could TRULY be bisexual.

ExSailor

Aug 14, 2012, 9:08 PM

I used to have somewhat of a biased view of bisexual men before I joined this website. Even tho I'm a bisexual woman, I didnt think that a man could TRULY be bisexual. You're not alone. There are other supposedly bisexual women here who will claim the same thing! Also there is a bisexual woman who likes to claim that bisexual men are mainly all HIV+, have STDs, and that we get infected from gay men and therefore infect women, and that hetero men are fine since they can't possibly be HIV+ or some bullshit from the mid 80s that's not even true. When pressed with the actual facts this woman flat out denies it and yet she's highly biphobic, homophobic, and pozphobic. :rolleyes:
While this statement may be controversial, I find myself justifiably shying away from any bisexual male when it comes to sex. The risks of getting STD/HIV is just too great.

zigzig

Aug 15, 2012, 5:39 AM

I agree.

can i watch

Aug 15, 2012, 5:34 PM

can i watch

Aug 15, 2012, 5:41 PM

And to add something else; I have always thought of my bi bf as something of a rarity, like " omg im so lucky, got myself a guy who would suck cock in a heartbeat for me to watch"

Well...i had no idea how many bi guys there are!! LOVE THAT !! Thanks to this site for opening my eyes a bit more and providing tons of spank bank material. :tongue:

lolguy

Sep 2, 2012, 12:46 AM

Agreeing with some of the posters here.......it is a shame that FF is considered hot, and MM is considered not so.

The Young Pretender

Sep 3, 2012, 11:33 AM

I meant to weigh in on this post 2 days ago. Our reputation is pretty awful on Planet Straight....I mean Earth. On a forum called city-data (rather interesting cross-section of society....it's a HUGE forum), I saw this thread: http://www.city-data.com/forum/relationships/1676506-so-its-ok-bisexual-if-you.html entitled "so its ok to be bisexual if you are a woman but if you are a man then it makes you a bad person..."

It was very enlightening.

indenver_indenver

Sep 4, 2012, 5:13 PM

My bf and i met , it was about a month into our relationship. We were taking a long road trip and everything we talked about was new and still getting to know each other. He told me that he had placed an ad to hook up with a guy several years ago...he was curious and wanted to try. He then told me every detail...but the only thing was this: he never blew the guy, only recieved..and oh yeah he got fucked. Now, picture this..im driving, TRYING to pay attention to the road, and im soaking wet and wanting to pull over to rub one out. omggg was so turned on! But the most amazing thing to me was how honest he was...so beautiful. When you think about it, he didnt know if i would be into it or pull over and kick him out. NEVER! It was such a risk starting a new relationship and sharing something so personal. It wasnt long before he gave me the most amazing fantasies /phone sex stories of what he would do when sucking cock. * My all time personal best of cumming qwik= 45 seconds. Needless to say....i absolutely ADORE guys who suck cock, hope to watch someday.

You are a gem! When I met my current wife, I told her I was bi and she wanted all the details. "Did you suck his cock? Did he press you down on your knees? (revealing her interest in dom/sub sex) Did he cum in your mouth? Did you swallow his cum. Needless to say, we got married. For 7 years she participated by stroking the guy's cock as I sucked it and pumped his cum into my mouth. Cheered is on with, "Shoot it down his throat!" "Make him take it all!" Then she suddenly quit to my dispair. She said she changed. I very un happy about it. Even though I have a terrifc male partner, I can't get her to even watch us. So, I love what you do. You are my dream girl.

sdf123

Sep 4, 2012, 7:17 PM

I love bi men; the passion between two men is a beautiful thing to see

dagesk

Oct 6, 2012, 3:40 PM

I LOVE when women get turned on watching two guys.

Musings

Oct 10, 2012, 9:26 AM

I wish my story had even a slight "silver lining" as yours did. I was forced into admitting my bisexuality to my wife and there was NOTHING positive to it. We never had sex again and we shall be divorced soon... :(

I too was more or less forced to come out to my wife. We were seeing a marriage counselor. We were told to write something for her (the counselor) to read later. Mine was about be being bi but did not willing to bring it up yet wand wanted to keep it private. Our next session was started off with her forcing me to come out to my wife. She was stunned to say the least. She didn't believe it but she does bring it up when we fight.

FlaPlaya561

Oct 10, 2012, 9:48 AM

Just Wondering! I know so many women feel the same way you do!

itsmeandyou

Dec 18, 2012, 2:33 PM

Very interesting discussion on the womens' views of their bi guy.

curiousnewbie2

Dec 18, 2012, 8:15 PM

A former girl friend of mine constantly stated that she would love to have seen a man fucking another man. The very thought of it turned her on big time. I never took the steps to satisfy her hope as I wasn't interested then, but now I wish I had since I have the desire to be with another man while a woman watches.

Vuillardgr

Dec 18, 2012, 11:57 PM

"Women's views on bi guys"... having views on a diverse group of people would be a vast generalization. There are still some women that aren't ok with even entertaining the thought of being with a bisexual man for all the reasons that have been stated on this forum. As we all know , just because a guy is bisexual doesn't mean he fits into certain categories. I think we are all better getting to know each other as individuals. Let's face it ...we are all subsections of subsections of any category. We as women need to understand that if a guy is going to be a lying cheat, his sexual orientation matters very little.

I believe what's important for us all is honesty and constant communication if we want to spend our lives with a person(s) that will accept us as is and seeking the same life. No one should feel as if they are compromising who they are to be you. We are all wired differently. There is no cause for deception, constant anger, living an unfulfilled life. Know who you are and what you need and want from a partner. Voice it.

wesuckmen

Dec 19, 2012, 2:39 AM

I am bi, my wife is straight and we play mfmm, mfmmm, mfmmmm. It is even more fun having more than one man which is enough so that everyone can play. We play with both straight guys most of whom will allow their dick to be sucked by a couple and with bi guys who also suck and fuck. There are usually enough dicks that she gets totally satisifed and I get plenty of cocks to suck and creampies to clean and cocks to clean and get hard to fuck her again. Works great and we wouldn't have it any other way. We been playing for a while now. I get my cream direct from the pipe, and from the creampies.

zigzig

Dec 19, 2012, 5:23 AM

I'm bi and my fiancee is straight. I never had a situation, when my partner would like to try mm. But I'm open minded for that, because I'm bi myself, I can relate to other bi. I can say that Bi are more open minded then straight sometimes.

Nadielosabe

Dec 19, 2012, 11:31 AM

I guess I will have to throw my two cents in. Most straight girls I know do not fancy bisexual guys (however, the exact opposite happens regarding straight guys with bisexual girls). Most reactions my straight girlfriends have given me have ranged from shock to disgust. There is one girl in particular who I have been pursuing this last few months. We have kissed several times, she has fondled me, I have fondled her... but she always says that she is not ready to have intercourse with me, always saying that my sexual orientation makes her feel insecure. I have tried several times to talk her out of her uncertainty, but so far I always fail.

Other than that, a couple of times the girl just didn´t care I was bisexual ("And? You are still the same guy I liked before you told me") or in some cases they even have considered it a turn-on. Or, even in some cases, the lady also was bisexual, which led me to reveal my own sexuality to them.

bi4asplay

Dec 19, 2012, 12:10 PM

I ran a swingers club in Dallas for a couple of years. There every lady was Bi.Male bisexuality was a no no.There were people asked not to come back because two guys were seen touching at one of our parties. Even amoug those claiming to be open minded there is a prejudice against MM bisexuality.

maggie1974

Dec 20, 2012, 3:33 AM

I'd never even thought about it before realising I was bi, it jsut didn;t hold any interest either way. Now I have (and am constantly) reconsidered my own sexuality my awareness to it has opened up and I would probably watch from at least curiosity. Turn me on? I'm not sure............

lsufan1974

Dec 20, 2012, 3:09 PM

Well said!

twoforone16

Dec 21, 2012, 11:56 AM

Cherokee_Mountaincat

Dec 21, 2012, 3:26 PM

There's more of us that ya'll think. And its time we women stood up and said, "Hell Yes, we love Bi men!" Having a bi partner can be a fantastic thing; whether he be a spouse or just a primary play partner at swingers parties. It affords both of you a chance to enjoy and explore your sexuality and sensuality in a way that pleases Both of you.
To the women that love and adore Bi men, I salute you all! Keep up the good work, Ladies..:}
Cat, bi men lover..:}

Curiousdude47

Dec 23, 2012, 9:16 AM

You are special Cat,*huggles* you made my day.

There's more of us that ya'll think. And its time we women stood up and said, "Hell Yes, we love Bi men!" Having a bi partner can be a fantastic thing; whether he be a spouse or just a primary play partner at swingers parties. It affords both of you a chance to enjoy and explore your sexuality and sensuality in a way that pleases Both of you.
To the women that love and adore Bi men, I salute you all! Keep up the good work, Ladies..:}
Cat, bi men lover..:}

his wife

Dec 23, 2012, 2:37 PM

why I love bi men, who the hell knows, it's about a must have for a male partner anymore
just my opinnion

itsmeandyou

Dec 24, 2012, 12:22 AM

Bi or curious... does it really matter ? Providing of course that the guy is into women. Unfortunately for "his wife", there is a problem. Perhaps I shouldn't say "problem"

But it appears to be a disappointment for her...... and it is understandable, under the circumstances.

bi4asplay

Feb 19, 2013, 12:16 PM

This is a very old posting but I have to add my 2 cents.Several years ago I ran a swingers club. Almost all of the ladies were bi. They condemed Bi males. If it was found out that a male was Bi his membership would be voided. His wife could still come in but he could not.The double standard is very much alive. The Bi women there were very outspoken against Bi men.

wifekinky4husband

Feb 20, 2013, 12:40 AM

wifekinky4husband

Feb 20, 2013, 12:45 AM

I can watch guys suck each other off, suck multiple cocks, I can watch guys spread other guys and F them like mad, I can watch guys cum all over over guys, jerk off together, jerk off each other, dual F guys, multiple F guys, my favorite being when guys run a train on another guy orally and anally at the same time. I have no problem with any of that, but I admit I can't watch men kissing or rimming. I find it odd since I enjoy watching everything else. I do not even understand that myself. So I get that many females might not like the other, I know my sisters are similar to me and so are many of our friends.

I have found that bi men are some of the best lovers I have ever had though and the best friends. My husband is the only exception (he is not bi though I can get him to do some pretty crazy things).

bi4asplay

Apr 12, 2015, 1:44 PM

Did anyone say why? What the issue was?

Lilli
I just saw this.Been awhile. They said many things about why it is taboo. One was that it is unnatural. I have a problem with that if it is natural for two ladies to lick one another, How can it be unnatural for two guys to suck one another? They say it is disgusting to see a guy with a cock in his mouth or ass, but good to see a woman with her face buried in a pussy. They say a real man would not touch another man. They do not seem to understand that every guy at the party if he eats her is sucking 100s of dicks by proxy.
I think what it truly breaks down to is pretty simple but sad. Most people have to look down on someone. Even more so if they feel like something is wrong with themselves. I think that many Bi woman that frown on Bi men think that they are doing wrong by liking other women. To some it is more exceptionable because ladies are nicer to look at. To me some or scarey to look at. There are both men and women that should not be naked around others. Sure I love to see a woman's body they are beautiful. How ever a nice cock is good to see as well.
I do not understand why we can not be accepting of other people even when their desires are the same as ours. How can it be Ok for me and not for you?