Threats from other members

[boytoy1223]

So I got a message from a 60 year old guy on here because he doesn't like that I have preferences on what I'm looking for. He said the way I said it is worse than being a homophobe. The best part is he threatened to have me thrown off the site, claiming that because he is a group owner he has some pull with the webmaster. Lmao!!! I have started a few groups also and so have lots of people. Who does this guy think
he is?

[lookn4fun64]

From my perspective the guy is seriously mistaken in his approach here. I have enjoyed the forum here because it is open and filled with people who have that same day to day use goal.
As to my own viewpoint, I am sorry it occurred to you.

[grayhound]

I am an older guy too, but I would welcome a friend/new friend no matter if does only wish to get together with his own age group. There is nothing wrong with that. I wish you the best in life.

[tenni]

Hi boytoy

Everyone has preferences.

Now, you may have firmed up your statement a bit after the encounter with this 60 year old. (dunno?)

I am inclined to think that you could polish how you are stating your preferences if you feel a need to state them at all. Have you considered using the word "prefer"? i.e. "Sorry but I prefer someone" ….. Consider describing more positive aspects than negative aspects as to what you are looking for? i.e. "I prefer gentle, young, smooth bodied guys…" rather than stating not wanting older, hairy, aggressive men"

I don't think that what you wrote is homophobic at all though. Agist? I'm not sure but at 36 your shelf life as a boy toy has expired many years ago ;) :) . (kid'n) I would point out that at age 36 you are or are getting very close to middle aged. I think that it is fine to state an age preference if you have one though.

[Gearbox]

I met a bloke a while ago. He was a really lovely, had great sex and we enjoyed each others company chatting with a cup of tea etc.
After meeting him a 2nd time and enjoyed it even more, I happened to read his profile for the first time out of curiosity.
Dear God!:eek2: If I had read it before meeting, I'd never have agreed to it! His profile portrayed him as a right nasty piece of work...complete bitchy demanding mean twat..etc. Someone who I'd NEVER get on with!
I had to ask him if I had read the right profile, coz he was definitely NOT the man it depicted. He said it was, and that he couldn't see anything wrong with it.LOL

My point is - you can be the most loveliest man/woman on Earth, but many people will judge you on your profile....and if that portrays you badly, you're going to ward off lots of people who'd probably love you to bits.:)

[NjbiGuy01]

I like the "ignore" feature. Honestly, I have no qualms about reporting people on any website I participate on if they are rude, abusive, or try to give me shit. People should do the same. You have a right to your opinion and these people need to know when the STFU or be thrown off the site. Simple as that.....Everyone is entitled to their opinions, but they need not force it on anyone who's lifestyle they don't agree with.....

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

There's an easy solution, BabyBoi. Contact Drew, and see if you have anything on your profile that might be considered offensive, or that goes against the Terms of Agreement for Bisex.com. If not, tell the other guy ta fuck off. Your profile is Yours alone, and you can put whatever you wish on it..as long as its fine with Drew. If the other guys doesnt like what it says, tough. :}
Cat.

[bluesky55]

So I got a message from a 60 year old guy on here because he doesn't like that I have preferences on what I'm looking for. He said the way I said it is worse than being a homophobe. …Who does this guy think he is?

I had to look at your profile & see what might be the issue. Probably wasn't the fact that you had preferences as opposed to the fact that you used all caps in stating your dislikes. The old rule of thumb was that using all caps EQUATED TO SHOUTING at the other parties which usually was interpreted as insulting. Give this some thought when reading: Someone saying to you in an email "you're an asshole" vs. "YOU'RE AN ASSHOLE" and might you take more offense at the second one? I don't have interest in those more than 10 years younger than me & some other preferences too, but I haven't heard from anyone about them. Now if I said I disliked STUPID PEOPLE would some idiot come back at me saying he/she takes offense? That would be interesting.

[onewhocares]

Hello,

I have been here since the dark ages...ok since 2005. As far as I know, the ONLY one who can
"throw people off " the site is Drew.

Belle in Boston

[Stormy Nights]

I would say that only Drew can throw you off the site unless you yourself throw you off the site aka delete your account of which i assume you can do as i have not actually looked.

[darkeyes]

.. being threatened on .com is a bit like being threatened by a beastie circling ur plonk in the sun.... irksome but relatively harmless and emininently swattable, at least cyberly...:impleased

[Realist]

Your profile definitely states your feelings, regarding what you're interested in. I certainly would never contact you.

But, like Tenni, wrote: I think the "shelf-life" on your being a "Boy-toy" is a little past it's "use-by" date!!

But you go with what you're comfortable with.

[onesucker4u]

I don't see a problem with your profile at all. You state clearly what you are not attracted to. Seems wise.

[jem_is_bi]

I am 66 years old, so I had to look at your profile. Reading it would definitely discourage me from contacting you. But, the problem with your profile is , if I was 36 years old, it would discourage me from contacting you. It has too much anger about what you do not like and almost nothing about what makes you happy. It is more likely to be successful the other way around.

[LizaLynn]

I'd like to check back in 30 years and see if "boytoy1223" is still using the same nic.

[Dog62]

I say tell him to fuck off and then use the ignore feature :)

[cbb83]

unless you yourself throw you off the site aka delete your account of which i assume you can do as i have not actually looked.

You actually can't delete your account. You have to contact Drew and it's up to him whether or not he bothers. I think he generally only does it if you're being harassed, outed, or have some other urgent need to get out due to the work involved on his end.

[boytoy1223]

My profile may be a little too angry. I wrote it that way because people ignored my preferences and I got angry. As for my screen name, it's just a name. Didn't use it to refer to my age. Lol

[gotlek]

In this world there are always assholes like that, ignore him, you are 99 percent he is a stupid 1 percent.