Why do I have these urges and how many people do I know have them.

[like2bepegged]

I am 53, married, and have the strongest urge to give oral and bottom. My wife introduced me to anal sex, but I always have had bisexual urges. My wife knows and wants to watch. How many people do I know feels the same way. Or are they oblivious to the way I feel.I just dont understand why I feel the need to be with a man sexually.Thanks

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Then maybe its time to make it happen, Hon..:}
Good Luck. Play safe..:}
Cat

[twoforone16]

My wife enjoys watching me sometimes with other men it turns her on

[innaminka]

For 20 years, i had the urge to be with another woman; I actually didn't know it at the time, but with maturity, you get to know how to filter fantasy dreams from concrete needs.
I acted upon them, and have never been happier.

As cat wrote - maybe it's time to move. The clock is ticking.

[bigtime2013]

keep ur wife happy, just do the guy and ae sure she is watching, you might like it

[bigtime2013]

p.s. when u do give him oral, do him properly, it is a good feeling, and it was for ur wife, feel lucky

[JustinW]

I have the same urges which I can't explain.

[centillini]

Been there and did that, man you are lucky wife wants to watch, go for it. I only wish I acted on it much earlier, still love pussy but being bi is awesome too

[cbb83]

Very lucky to have a wife like that.

[gotlek]

Since I was 13 i had the urge to give oral and bottom too and love it.23935

[onewhocares]

I do not think that there is anything wrong with your urges. I think you are a lucky man to have a wife who not only accepts this, but wants to share this as well. I know that as a woman married to a man that likes men, this is SUCH a turn on for me to see him with other men. I love it. Do it for yourself, do it for your wife, just don't let life pass you by.

Belle in Boston

[Realist]

likeobepegged, you're not the only one who has harbored those feelings. There was a lady, who was here briefly, who confessed she'd been drawn and aroused by other women, since her preteen years. She had never acted on those urges. At 70, and only after her husband died, she finally developed a relationship with another bisexual lady. She wrote that nothing she'd ever done was more exquisite, or fulfilling, than what those two shared.

Isn't it a pity that we allow our desires to go unrequited...some of us forever!

Like Belle said, "Do it for yourself, do it for your wife, just don't let life pass you by. "

[12voltyV2.0]

I wonder how many people go "to the great beyond" having such desires--desperately so--and they never act upon them??? Even if for some reason I never do anything again with another guy--I am sure glad I have done the things I have done with the ones I have been with. I do say--be careful in selecting someone to be with--but if you have such urges and desires----do by all means----check this off "on your bucket list" by doing something.

[newlynymphos]

Being a bi bottom is such great fun! Turns my wife on seeing me with other men too!
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[CurEUs_Male]

It's a LOT more common than is let on by society. The fact that you have a wife interested in being a part of that is an outstanding situation. Enjoy the desires, enjoy learning about this side of you, and enjoy having her along for the journey. It's all good. Be safe playing, and play well.

[elian]

Ever since I was a teen the thought of adoring and being adored by another male (in a lot of different ways) was something I wanted. The surprise comes when halfway through doing that the guy shoves his !@#$ in a certain way and all of the sudden I decide to be more dominant.. it's fun when you've got two "flexible" people because you may never know exactly which end is up as far as who is "dominating" who..but it really doesn't matter as long as everyone is happy. One of the most erotic things to me about being with men is there is no pretense of having to withhold a part of yourself, with the right lover all of those needs can be filled. ..and yes, your wife needs a gold star..I know the first time I tried with a couple there were some conflicting feelings..hopefully you can talk about those - if they exist at all and work it out. PS - I like your avatar :)

[alecperdonni]

What's to understand? Have you ever had a craving for something, an urge a desire? This is no different. Did you spend time wondering "why" you had a sudden urge for a particular food (or other desire) or did you just do it? It sounds like you may be more concerned with justifying your craving than the craving its self. Don't drive your self crazing over the why. It's called hormones, natural urges either you give in or you don't.

[txsmale55]

You are a lucky man, that your wife plays with your ass. And gets turned on about you playing with another cock. My wife won't even touch my ass, I've asked her to many times. And sometimes when she's sucking my cock an runs her her fingers over and between my cheeks to my balls. I let her know how much it turns me on. I also crave another guys cock in my throat and deep inside my ass one day.

[juanhardon]

I'd love to be a part of that!

[LizaLynn]

likeobepegged, you're not the only one who has harbored those feelings. There was a lady, who was here briefly, who confessed she'd been drawn and aroused by other women, since her preteen years. She had never acted on those urges. At 70, and only after her husband died, she finally developed a relationship with another bisexual lady. She wrote that nothing she'd ever done was more exquisite, or fulfilling, than what those two shared.

Isn't it a pity that we allow our desires to go unrequited...some of us forever!

Like Belle said, "Do it for yourself, do it for your wife, just don't let life pass you by. "

I often think of the closeted bisexuals who lived prior to the internet, never realizing how many other bisexuals they could have met.

[Realist]

LizaLynn wrote: "I often think of the closeted bisexuals who lived prior to the internet, never realizing how many other bisexuals they could have met."

There's no telling how many people there are in that position, even now!

I got a private message, after posting that reply above, from a member who is in almost the exact same situation. The person was married 30 years ago, to the only person they've ever been intimate with, (Just barely) but haven't had sex of any kind for over 13 years! They've only had sex a hand full of times in all that time! Masturbation, alone, secretly........ it's the poor soul's only source of release!

I can't even imagine being in that situation, myself!

[snapman]

Amen to that !!!

[snapman]

Justin W "that is the $64 question...."WHY"..If we could all ans the question we would have some great insite to many of human conflicts....I have thought about the "why" many times in my life time, really never coming up with a satisfying ans..!!

Here is some thing to kick around in your head{one on the top}{ the lower head could care less} if we knew the "WHY" would it change our feelings?

[Lars43]

HOw do I introduce wife to the urges? She knows I JO, but need to know some successful folks approachs,tnx

[newlynymphos]

I am bad face to face myself. YMMV, but before I married my wife, I introduced her via texting and websites. As our relationship develops, and more kinks are discovered in our Lifestyle, face to face becomes much easier and natural :)

[DomLkg4maleCkSkr]

You have these urges because they are natural for you. There is not one exclusively heterosexual person on this planet who chose to be that way. It's no different for gay and/or bisexual people. Read up on Alfred Kinsey's studies on male sexuality. He interviewed thousands of men during the middle 1940s. Most reported same-sex urges. Only about 7 % did not. It's a sound study during a time that we often don't associate with same-sex urges. But, it was true then and it is true now. There is nothing new under the sun, my good man. Get out and live for you so that you are freer to give your best to those you love.

"The truth does not change according to our ability to stomach it." ~ Flannery O'Connor

[jem_is_bi]

The thought of going to the great beyond without acting on my life long desires was too much for me to handle when I turned 58 years old. No regrets now, I sleep without the nightmares of dying with that regret.

[void()]

How many people do I know feels the
same way./?

Or are they oblivious to the way I feel./?

I just dont understand why I feel the need to be with a man
sexually./?

Trying to respond as best able. Not sure your quoted statements are
questions or not. For sake of discussion, I presume you are asking
questions.

Your first question asks "how many people do I know feels the same
way", I cannot provide an answer to that. I do not know you, nor do I
know who you know. This would require me knowing your acquaintances,
how you feel, how they feel. Sorry, I am not the one wearing the job
title of God. I am not all knowing, despite sadistic rumors to the
contrary. ;)

Your second question also requires one to be all knowing. I will
refrain "walking through" this again.

Your third question also presents one a quandary of needing to be
all knowing. That aside one can make an estimated answer, a rough
guide. Not sure if you recall the old Budwiser beer commercials or not.

One of these commercials used a nice catch phrase. "Why, ask why?"
We can not be expected to either know nor understand everything. If
we did, we would commit suicide out of pure boredom, stagnation. Best
advice? Roll with the cards you get dealt the best you can. Nobody
can really ask more of you except yourself, if they want to try,
suggest they duel with wet spaghetti noodles. *chuckles* :)

[BLUELITE]

I'm a mwm and I have had these urges since I was about 12 but never really acted on them until I was about 19 or 20. I have sucked several cocks and have found that I like it. I love my wife and sex with her but an occasional cock is needed. I'm not attracted to the man just his cock.

[rodman2005]

I started out by just getting my cock sucked. Then I started to fuck. Then I did suck a cock followed by allowing a dick to go inside me and squirt a load. Like the clockface, the arm moves around and around.