magari
Jan 28, 2014, 8:18 PM
She's progressive...we have a bi daughter...but I'm afraid to confirm with her that I'm bi. Afraid of her negative reaction. I love her, her titties and her pussy, but intimate relations with buddies is a level of bonding that I love. Sharing cum is something I need. It's like a personal beer with the guys type of thing. I don't want to theaten what we have together. Can I have both worlds? How do I start the conversation?
CurEUs_Male
Jan 28, 2014, 8:57 PM
The easy answer is ... open honest communication. Easier said than done, however.
I have seen many suggestions about trying porn with m2m action included, or watching something a little tamer with same sex scenario's included. Using these scenes as an introduction to discuss the topic seems to be the gentle way in. Leading with these examples, allows you to gage your spouse's ability to handle the concept before you let her know it is really your interests (who cares if she does or does not like what the characters on the screen are doing?).
I was in an open, swinging relationship with my wife when I discovered my attraction, which allowed me to use that environment to share with her... even so, as I changed my profile detail from straight to bicurious and eventually bisexual, the discussion was not in step. We took several more years and a few dramatic events before I started simply talking to her outright about my interests and how it would affect all of us. Still talking after all these years.
Therapy and support for you to come out, and for her to adjust are key. I belong to a Mixed Orientation Marriage support group (online) which us a great combination of straight's, bi's, and gay's, from both genders, and all walks of life. There are support groups specific to the bi/gay men, either the male or female, the straight wife, and even one for the couple together. When you have the conversation, be ready with the resources. Those I belong to (and my wife) are the supportive one's. THere are some bad apples out there, where anger and revenge seem the mantra. Beware of those, and make sure your wife is aware when she ventures out to find her support. My wife had a very hard time because of what she heard on some sites, and it still seems to affect our discussions to this day.
Remember, while you are only just sharing this part of yourself with her, you are still the same guys she has been with for years, the same husband, lover, friend, and father of her child. What you are doing is sharing more of yourself. Opening up a long road to be traveled together.
Al
Cherokee_Mountaincat
Jan 28, 2014, 9:27 PM
Sit down and watch a show that might have a little Bi action in it,. There's several out there now.:} If you see two guys touching, or kissing just mention in passing, "That's hot..dont you think?" then gauge her reaction. Nudge the ball to rolling slowly, and see where it rolls..:}
Good luck Hon.
Cat