How to handle hypersexuallity

[ayoungguy]

Hello...

I am 20... basically, I consider myself hypersexual, and it's not something good!

Sex is on my head basically all the freaking time! I have been like this for at least two years...

I don't really do much about it, I keep fantasizing about every freaking person that walks next to me and that's the end of the story...

I am really tired of jacking off, lol, not in the sense that I want sex, but in the sense that I am really tired and I don't want to feel the need to do it everytime!

University keeps me busy but it's not enough to keep my head clear...

Should I find help?

I don't have sexual partners at the moment, and even tho I am sexually active I am not into randomly fking everyone...

[Hypersexual11]

Well, you may be able to tell, I have the same issue and have forever, back to preteen. One thing I found a few years ago during a physical was that my PSA was running high, 7-14. Anything over 4 is considered a prostate cancer sign. I won't spend pages educating you on the function of the prostate. There is a possibility though, as in my case, that the prostate is overactive producing too much testosterone. You may be able to calm it down by taking a daily dose of Saw palmetto. If I take a double dose it actually kills my sex drive. The only thing I have found to do that.

[ayoungguy]

Well, you may be able to tell, I have the same issue and have forever, back to preteen. One thing I found a few years ago during a physical was that my PSA was running high, 7-14. Anything over 4 is considered a prostate cancer sign. I won't spend pages educating you on the function of the prostate. There is a possibility though, as in my case, that the prostate is overactive producing too much testosterone. You may be able to calm it down by taking a daily dose of Saw palmetto. If I take a double dose it actually kills my sex drive. The only thing I have found to do that.

Maybe it's the fact that I don't usually fuck a lot, and I just jack off? Maybe my 'mind' needs to release the need by actually having some real action?

[Long Duck Dong]

go and get a blood test for your testorone level and see if its within normal parameters...... and also see a clinical pyschologist as hypersexuality can be an aspect of a mental imbalance or disorder of the mind.....

it doesn't mean that you are mentally ill.... some people react to stress or other aspects of life with a * self medicating * form of masturbation because they can become * addicted * to the after effects of masturbation ( chemical changes in the brain ) and its quite common in people with depressive disorders.......

I have dysthimia which is a nice form of long term depression and it affects the frontal lobe and limbic system and yes, I use masturbation as a way of dealing with the shifts in my brain and mental state... and two of the side effects of dysthima is 1) a very high rate of addiction, and it can be anything from drugs and alcohol, to smoking, computers, video games.... even masturbation and sexual activites, but the other side effect is 2) anhedonia..... the inability to feel pleasure ......

it means that I can relate very well to what you are saying, while our situations may be very different..... you may have a situational fixture which is basically that you react to certain stimuli with a masturbation response but without feeling the need for a partner or having sex with other people, which is very different to the way I function......

since I was diagnosed with disthymia ( and incorrectly asexual natured ) its been a learning curve for me to relearn about a condition that I have had for all of my life and instead of knowing that something was out of whack with me, I can now feel the changes and shifts in me and know what causes it, why and even how to manipulate it to my advantage and yes its been a learning curve with my partner as well as we have had to make adjustments in our lives and when we are back living together, it means that we will have to embrace a sexuality in me that can become hyper extreme sexuality....lol.... fun.....

the idea that you can masturbate to the point that you are sick of masturbating and sick of the hypersexuality, is something that most people would not believe, but its very possible.....and on that note, I will give you some advice..... be very careful of meds that can affect your sexual activity as some of them can have lasting effects on your mind so it can be better to look for ways to manage your hypersexuality without some meds.......

I manage my sex drive with fatty food as high fat / oil food have a very pronounced affect on my sex drive and my ability to feel aroused and cum where as near vegetarian meals result in a drop in my sex drive.... and smoking cigs is something else I use..... I gave up for 9 months last year and while the effect on my body may have been positive, the negative effect on my drain was seriously adverse and resulted in me returning to smoking in order to mentally function as there is something in the cigs that have a postive effect on the chemical balance in my brain....... something that has also been noticed in people with parkinsons disease, the same way that alcohol can work with people with uncontrollable tremours tho only one beer per night.......

so I will return to my original advice.... blood test for the testorone level.... and if you want to, get a psych assessment, not because you are nuts... but so you have a better understanding as to why you have the hypersexuality and see if there is a way that it can become manageable by you for your own peace of mind

[tenni]

Hi Ayoung guy
How do you see yourself as more sexual in your thoughts than other guys your age? I'm not writing that you are or are not more pre occupied than other young men your age but can you perceive a difference based on casual conversations with other guys?

I would wonder if hypersexual activity would not include having intercourse several times a day with different women but I may be wrong.

Lots and lots of young men jack a hell of a lot but I'm not sure if they tire of jacking. If you think that there are issues, a conversation with your doctor may clarify things for you. Nothing to lose chatting is there?

As far as the prostrate is concerned, I do know that young men who have sex with a woman on going and then stops suddenly that they can develop an actual infection in the prostrate. I had that around your age. The urologist stated that masturbation would not clear up the infection even with medication as quickly as sexual intercourse would. He explained it by comparing it to a car engine's pistons. They need to fire in sequence in order for the engine to operate properly. I'm not sure if/how that is connected to your situation but just a thought about having a strong sex drive and dealing with it by only using masturbation.

[ayoungguy]

I jack off a lot from the moment I wake up until I go to bed, I can spend days without doing it, it's not something I can't control, but it's still a constant need of doing it... And it's weird because after I come I don't feel any good about the idea or having sex, I find it disgusting...

i must repeat this: I jack off but I don't really have sex because I don't know a good place to find it ! I'm new in Canada so I actually don't have a lot of sexual contacts.... Someone told me it's an age thing, this is the ideal reproductive stage so the body gets very nasty

Maybe I just need a week to get crazy with a lot of people, that could work. XD

[Neonaught]

I feel the need to chime in a few corrections here. The prostate does NOT produce testosterone. That occurs in the testis. PSA has been discredited as a true marker for prostate cancer but as usual the US medical establishment has yet to fully acknowledge this. I guess they are making so much money sexually crippling their patients that they hate to see that go away. Lastly, saw palmetto has been discredited in a number of well-constructed studies. I can't comment on it's effect on libdo as I have no pertinent information.

As for the original poster, for a 20 year old man NOT be thinking ALOT about sex would probably be the exception rather than the rule. I suppose the question you should be asking yourself is does this negatively impact your life every day somehow? With a lack of sexual outlets beyond masturbation I suspect you are probably pretty normal.

[fredtyg]

Someone told me it's an age thing, this is the ideal reproductive stage so the body gets very nasty


Could be. When I was a bit older than you I went through a stage that I was super horny all the time. Jacking off didn't seem to take care of it. I came to the conclusion back then that it was a natural urge by the body to reproduce. Since women weren't available at the time, I couldn't be satisfied.

[Realist]

Well,ayoungguy (http://www.bisexual.com/forum/member.php?155301-ayoungguy) that brings back memories!

From my first introduction to sex at 14, through my 60s, I had spontaneous erections, thoughts of sex, and dreams of it constantly. Like you, I was able to keep an outer appearance of calm, but inside I was of fire! I've actually gotten erections while marching in the Army!

College was one of the worst times for me. I was freshly divorced and, with no immediate prospects for a partner, constantly plagued with erections and thoughts of sex, I had a hell of a time concentrating on my studies. Masturbating afforded little relief for me.....I needed that emotional aspect of a relationship.

During my 2nd semester, I began a intimate relationship with a male classmate, who was in a similar quandary. We had an animated, almost frantic, sexual connection for a while and then we settled into a very nice routine, that was fully satisfying. . That semester, my grades and his, improved exponentially!

Although, (sadly) he soon graduated and left the school. Luckily, another took his place. I met a girl, with whom I continued sharing both studies and sex.

During my last year of studies, I maintained a 4.0 grade average!

Maybe you need to put some effort in finding someone who will help relieve the sexual pressure and even assist you in your studies!