Length or Girth

[singbicur]

I have just been chatting in the mainroom with another member and I told him that I was new to Bi sex but that I was looking for a couple (see my advert) in my area so I can get a bit more experience, he asked me what I wanted to do and I explained that to start with I wanted more of what I have already had, which is giving and recieving a blowjob, but, that I was really turned on by the thought of being fucked, he said you better hope your first is long not wide......! at this point another guy stepped in and said no it is better to be wide not long......!
Well to be honest all I want is a cock but my question is a simple one, is Length or Girth the most important, or does size really not matter...?
Given the unlikly event that I am offered a long one or a wide one (heres hoping) which should I try first...?
Singbicur.

[biandu]

I have just been chatting in the mainroom with another member and I told him that I was new to Bi sex but that I was looking for a couple (see my advert) in my area so I can get a bit more experience, he asked me what I wanted to do and I explained that to start with I wanted more of what I have already had, which is giving and recieving a blowjob, but, that I was really turned on by the thought of being fucked, he said you better hope your first is long not wide......! at this point another guy stepped in and said no it is better to be wide not long......!
Well to be honest all I want is a cock but my question is a simple one, is Length or Girth the most important, or does size really not matter...?
Given the unlikly event that I am offered a long one or a wide one (heres hoping) which should I try first...?
Singbicur.



LOL
Excellent Question:

Here is MY opinion:

FIRST TIME Anal Penetration:
Thin cock.
condom/lots of lube
lots of fingering/rimming/stetching prep...
helps to be really attracted to the understanding, gentle Topper
and fucking horny as all get out.

I do NOT recommend poppers, or drink, or any drugs for your first time.

then if you still like it:
gradually work your tight ass up to a FAT COCK.

[jedinudist]

It's not the size of the tool, it's the skill of the crafstman that wields it.

:)

[willbeyours2]

I agree with jedi, although a large cock may be nice ,if he does not know how use it properly ..... what good is it. So in the end I would say size is not as important as knowing how to best use the equipment you were given.

Wishing you all good things on your journey,

Bill

[LouiseBrookslover]

Well, whatever ya do, don't do what I did when I was 19. Innocent little girl that I was, I picked out an older gentleman who had a VERY large cock and decided this would be the time that I would lose my boysex virginity. I didn't realize that condoms are not necessarily a one size fits all proposition (I wasn't familiar with plus-sized condoms yet) and when he couldn't fit in the Trojan I duly supplied him I had to rescind my bottom and most of my favors. It's a good thing he was also sexually naive or else I would have had my boypussy cleaved in 2 that day by a magnum-sheathed cock.

[DiamondDog]

use fingers and small toys at first.

[Herbwoman39]

Oral is easy but thick is better than long. Even if he IS gigantic, you can just bob around the head and use your hands for the rest. For anal you *definitely* want thin the first few times with a warm up of fingers or small toys and LOTS and LOTS of lube.

[billy_campbell]

LOL
Excellent Question:

Here is MY opinion:

FIRST TIME Anal Penetration:
Thin cock.
condom/lots of lube
lots of fingering/rimming/stetching prep...
helps to be really attracted to the understanding, gentle Topper
and fucking horny as all get out.

I do NOT recommend poppers, or drink, or any drugs for your first time.

then if you still like it:
gradually work your tight ass up to a FAT COCK.

Very good advice, I would only add that for the first time after all the prep mentioned above that you get on top (either have your partner sit in a chair or lie on his back) and then you guide your ass down on him. This will allow you to adjust to how much and fast you want to go. Also allows him to play with your cock and balls while you adjust to having a cock in your ass. Then Ride, boldly ride! :2cents: :bigrin:

[jedinudist]

I agree with jedi, although a large cock may be nice ,if he does not know how use it properly ..... what good is it. So in the end I would say size is not as important as knowing how to best use the equipment you were given.

Wishing you all good things on your journey,

Bill


:wacko: ROTFLMAO!!! you said "in the end"

:cutelaugh:

[wanderingrichard]

hey, sing, the first bloke has it right... you want a guy with length but not overly girthed.. first time, long and slender is better cause he can reach where ya want with out the pain of a wider man.. that takes time, and honestly, training, by using a butt plug or series of ever widening butt plugs...sounds gross i know, but it works..
and, yeah if the guy doesnt know how to use what he was born with, it wont matter what else you do, it won't be what you had hoped for..

[codybear3]

I wrote this on a post once a while ago. Here it goes again...

"Long and thin goes deep within,
But short and thick, that does the trick..."

A gay friend told me that one... :paw: :paw:

[Long Duck Dong]

short lenght, average girth......and a lot of finding the right postions for you

the last thing you want, is a long dick rammed hard inside you and hurting you......its far better to have a dick thats not quite long enuf to fill you up, than a dick thats half in / half out and you are full as a bull


i can handle up to 14 inches ( tested using a double ended dildo ) but i am a anal veteran and can change my body to accomodation something that size

i do agree with the remarks that being on top is better for the first few times, its far greater control... and never use drugs, alcohol or any other mind altering shit for ya first time

now ya anus may go into spasm as the dick is inserted... thats simply cos you are reversing the muscular impulse of ya anus and ya anus is trying to get used to the idea that you are gonna be putting things up there and that its quite pleasant, so you need to let ya anal muscles have their 5 minutes of fame before they wear out and relax and allow you to experience the pleasure of anal sex

one main piece of advice for a anal fingering.... make bloody sure they have short fingernails,,, and not ragged cut fingernails

[OralBiGuy]

Hey folks, I'm not ashamed to admit...I've performed anal sex; received it as well. ADD to that: SAFE SEX (condoms). Very important no matter what ones' backend can tolerate.

Girth? Well...honestly, I will say...and agree with a few on here already, that for your first time, I think something that is not so thick and perhaps reasonable...will help ease you along. Even then, even if the person was perhaps not so endowed, it could still hurt. Really!

If inserting your own finger inside your rectum hurts, or two..or three...then use that as a possible comparison.

Being comfortable certainly helps; being eager is paramount to a good time and at least, making the concerted effort worthwhile.

I suggest that...if one is anticipating 'anal sex' - I would encourage the recipient to douche. In other words, if possible, get your lower colon (bowel) washed out with warm water. Do this in the shower/bathroom...where you are near the toilet. If you have an enema kit or perhaps some form of apparatus that enables you to insert a hose into your rectum (gently) - then this can also alleviate any perceived 'accidents'. We are talking about the rectum here folks, and yes...things can happen.

Use warm water. NOT COLD. Cold water can give you an almost mini-hypothermia. Use warm...take your time...and wait until it starts to run reasonably clear (when you release). Lots of lube has been suggested, I'm 2 thumbs up for that and agree. Condoms: ALWAYS! Makes things a bit more slick and easier. Gives you some added peace of mind too.

But I'd say...for a first timer, go with something you can handle. Don't do the porno-star pole vault. IT IS and will be: a right pain in the ass/arse! OUCH!

Good luck, and I do hope that you find a patient partner and helpful suggestions to help you get on your way.

ENJOY! Be safe! I can't emphasis that one enough. :)

[smokey]

well a short one for me is deeply unsatisfying and won't even suggest anal if its under, say 5 inches....personally I like both girth and width but then I have been fucked so many times my asshole thinks its a pussy :bigrin: :bigrin: :bigrin:

[Azrael]

Again, it's not the sword but the skill of he who wields it.

[Sparks]

Agreed, it's not the size of the ship but the motion of the ocean. Nevertheless, I've always prefered thick and long. Lenght to hit the gland, and girth to add the pleasure. :2cents:

[Diane54]

I have always prefered thick to long - but it can hurt if he bottoms out too hard. For my virgin bum I would want thin. I read about someone who got her sphincter muscle torn and had to use a tampon the rest of her life. you don't want that to happen to you.

[BI BOYTOY]

hey their the is a lot of great advise in here you dont need me to say the same thing. but what i will say is just find somabody that cares for your feelings and cares if they hurt you or please you. :2cents: :bigrin: :bigrin: good luck

[biandu]

hey their the is a lot of great advise in here you dont need me to say the same thing. but what i will say is just find somabody that cares for your feelings and cares if they hurt you or please you. :2cents: :bigrin: :bigrin: good luck


i agree.

[kinsey_3]

Listen, and this isn't an idle boast: it's not always fun having a big one. Mine is only about 7.5 inches, but it's also nearly the same in circumference, and more than one guy has baulked at receiving me.

And then there's condoms: the kind you pick up free in bars are often too small to do anything but squeeze the blood back out of your erection the way it came in. And then snap.

[WestTennBiGuy]

My wife has been asking me to put my :2cents: worth on this for awhile now so here it is.


To me size doesn't matter. The main thing to me is the enjoyment or satisfaction I'll get out of it. It doesn't matter how he uses it, what matters is how I'm going to use it. When I'm giving Oral, or recieving Anal, I'm the one usually in control. I can enjoy any size I get.
Alot of people deprieve themselves out of alot of enjoyable sex because they are too picky on the shape of things. Too many times I've seen folks say oh they're too fat or their dicks not the right size and miss out on some great sex.

My prostate is just like a womans "G" spot, it's not but about an inch or two up there. Hmmmm 2 inches is enough to get me off??????????


Does size matter???? Don't be so picky & really enjoy the pleasure.

Rob & my :2cents: worth