If you are dipping your toes in the bisexual pool for the first time...

[Hypersexual11]

You may get the wrong idea here. Bisexuality doesn't mean bareback nsa anal sex and fisting. I hate to advertise other sites but there is a much more mellow, heavily moderated site. http://www.shybi-guys.com/ Give it a look if you find this to brash. Come back now and then. Hopefully it will get back to normal around here soon.

[Gearbox]

That's tragically the best advice you can get on this site lately.:thumbu:

[semibi]

Meh. I'm not sure that an open forum web site is the best place for sound advice for real concerns. It is strange how the place has gotten clouded with strong opinions that seem more argumentative than helpful and more extreme than usual.

But, it can be a nice place to get perspectives, I think.

Also, I think there are one or two really cool people here. At least one.

[GirlyBoi4U]

What exactly defines "Open Forum" anymore. I don't see what the big deal is. I thought this was a site for people with a common interest, Bisexuality, to connect, chat, exchange ideas...even meet. Not that I am "into" everything that is posted here, I certainly don't oust people with differing likes, opinions or ideas. Perhaps I have the wrong perception about what this site was originally designed for.

[tenni]

The site is for the bisexual community. It is a Main Forum and the probable place people will first look if/when they look beyond the personal ads. Just what is bisexuality? Is it more than just sexual acts? Bisexuality is an attraction to both sexes both physical and or emotional. When people first read the forum even without joining this is the impression.

The site that Hypersexual mentions does have a decorum and behavioural expectations. It is not a hook up site and is strongly opposed to using the site for hook ups. This site has the potential to be used for hook ups. This site also has behavioural expectations. The one rule that is being pushed the most is rule 3 (Sexual Freedom). Rule 3 mentions sexual freedom but refers to limits.

The site mentioned by the OP discusses issues with respect. I'm probably the poster on that site from Canada and I use the same name. There is no poster on that site putting images up under the name of Top Fucker like there is on this site. There are no nude images at all in the open area for public viewing. You may not even see another poster's dick until you have posted 100 times as those images are in a VIP area. Personally, I rarely go in to the VIP section but I do not believe that there are any images of fisting or piss in an anus in the VIP area. Issues are discussed on a wide range. Opinions vary but respect is given to other opinions. I would have to state that if I compare the past couple of months, the intimacy, support and self disclosure seem very genuine and intelligently presented on the other site. The struggles of being an emerging bisexual are more evident on that site.

At what level does discussion about sexual activity go beyond an adult discussion about sexuality and just be a site with images of pig sex porn?

Are people still fearful about discovering that they are attracted to the same sex and coming to this site for advice?

[jem_is_bi]

The types of posts here that you do not like are a part of bisexuality since lots of bisexuals have sex that's not vanilla, group sex, creampies, fisting, piss, etc. Yes I have posted pics of fisting and piss on the other site in the porn section, and other bisexual men will discuss gangbangs, creampies, anal fisting, group sex, and watersports on that site since both sites are porn and sex sites for adults. I am not into all of those sexual activities. However, they are totally human sexual activities, not pig sex. While, not being familiar with anything about pigs, it is likely they are not as wonderfully creative as humans are with sex.

[NorthShore]

I signed up for that site that was linked and was promptly dismissed. Not sure what to do now. :/

[tenni]

I signed up for that site that was linked and was promptly dismissed. Not sure what to do now. :/

Curious.

Did you register on the male or female side? It is not a cross gender site but a woman may register as a guest on the guy side. I don't think that a guy can register as a guest on the woman's side(could be wrong).

They can follow your email server address and this seems to stop those who have been banned before from re registering. It also stops multi profile registering. They have very strict rules. Read them and see if you broke one? They usually would not kick you off if you broke one initially.

If you have never been on that site before under a different name, that makes it more curious. If you are a guy, register as a guest and ask a moderator why you were removed?

[NorthShore]

I wasn't removed or anything, I was told I'm not bi at all, which leaves me somewhere between where straight ends and bi begins and as far as I understand that place doesn't exists. So I'm more unsure about it than I was before.

[tenni]

What? I just checked what you posted. The moderator took a much more neutral position. It is up to you but I would just read the threads a bit more. Or go back and ask the moderator again if he agrees with the other guy(He probably will not say that he agrees ). No one can decide your sexuality other than yourself. You seem uncertain and that is ok. You mentioned feeling ashamed and that is a normal reaction due to society's homophobia and our self homophobia.

One member on the other site wrote that based on what you wrote that he didn't think that you were heteroflexible or bisexual. That is his opinion. He referred to you participating in a threesome and not really enjoying it. It is just his opinion based on what you wrote. The same guy from the other site also is inclined to believe in a heterosexual may have a same sex experience and still be heterosexual. That is possible and only time will bring your real feelings forward.

Could it be that you are not comfortable with threesomes rather than same sex activity? Have you tried one on one with another guy who is gentle?

Between the two sites and time, you will figure this out. On this bi.com site, it refers to the kinsey scale. The moderator on the other site also refereed to it. Do a little research on the numbers if you have not.

It is awful that you feel the uncertainty but very common. It may be a matter of trying to relax about the label and go with the feeling. Just consider whether you want to do same sex play. Take your time. Again, only you can decide. People can only offer their opinion if asked. You asked.

[NorthShore]

I don't think I expressed those things though. I did it once, and then several more times after that. I'm not being made to do anything I haven't consented to. I'd consider it more than "contact", that sounds like bumping into someone. I can't say I don't desire it, but I don't think the main focus of desire is the guy. I'm not really on edge about it I just want to understand it. I did ask, I guess, maybe I just wasn't prepared for an answer that seemed to have so much certainty after I've spent months with no certainty. Maybe I'll try it again over there.