Planning a Commitment Ceremony

[mistymockingbird]

Ok, I need some advice. My very best friend in the whole world, the person who knows me better than anyone else, who gave me the courage to leave an abusive relationship and then held my hand through the divorce, my platonic soul mate and husband from a former life...has been proposed to. And has said yes. He and his partner John, will be getting married in Massachusets.

So....there's a ceremony to plan. And as the best friend/maid of honor/best man/hag, I feel an obligation to make sure it is perfect and wonderful. They both deserve it. And yet, I have never been to a commitment ceremony. Eek.

Anyone have any tips? Any input? The world is full of books and magazines and movies about straight weddings. Not sure where to start for this. Surely there are some good websites out there somewhere right?

And I will be singing, and need a song. Andy and John said, pick a song you like, we don't care as long as you're the one singing it. Sigh. Couldn't they have a favorite song? lol Looking for input on that as well, just to get my brain going.

Any suggestions or guidance would be appreciated. And sympathy, cause if planning a big gay wedding is anything like planning a straight one, we're all gonna need it. lol

[biandu]

a song.. suggestion

Will Young [UK]. All Time Love

Video.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rIoD4_bSb-k&search=will%20young%20all%20time%20love

hope it works.


lyrics
http://www.lyrics.co.nz/06-1-21c.htm

[Herbwoman39]

This is from the Disney movie "Anastasia". It was one of the songs we had sung at our wedding though our friend adapted it for a single singer. Here are the lyrics.

Song is called 'At the Beginning'.

(Donna)We were strangers,
starting out on a journey
Never dreaming
what we’d have to go through
Now here we are,
and I’m suddenly standing,
at the beginning with you

(Richard)No one told me
I was going to find you,
Unexpected
what you did to my heart,
(BOTH)When I lost hope
you were there to remind me
this is the start

(Chorus) life is a road
and I wanna keep going
love is a river
I wanna keep flowing
life is a road
now and forever
wonderful journey

ill be there when the world stops turning
ill be there when the storm is through
in the end I wanna be standing
at the beginning with you

(Donna) We were strangers
on a crazy adventure
(Richard) Never dreaming
how our dreams would come true
(Both)Now here we stand unafraid of the future
At the beginning with you

(Chorus)

I knew there was somebody somewhere
Like me alone in the dark
Now I know my dream will live on
Ive been waiting so long
nothings gonna tear us apart

(Chorus)

Life is a road and I wanna keep going
Love is a river I wanna keep going on
Starting out on a journey

Life is a road I wanna keep going
Love is a river I wanna keep flowing
In the end I wanna be standing
at the beginning with you

And having planned a ceremony before, I just have two words for you. Good Luck :bigrin:

[anne27]

If y'all were closer, I'd offer to do the wedding cake.

Best of luck to the happy couple! I'd say get as much imput from the guys as you can as to their likes and desires and improvise the rest. I'm a firm believer in 'Keep It Simple'. That way, you won't go crazy.

[12voltman59]

I wish I could recall the website--I did not bookmark it-but I had found this website of this organization that specializes in helping people do commitment ceremonies---perhaps if you do a Google on the subject you might find it---

As I recall--they had all sorts of resources available to help in doing such ceremonies and they have contacts with people all over the US, Canada and elsewhere who can perform such ceremonies..

Another resource would be a local Unitarian Universalist congregation or a Unity Church, both are gay, bisexual and transgendered accepting and accommodating...the ministers or members of these churches can be of help--

this was not very detailed, but hope it can help in getting you started....

[strawberry8302]

Well they seem pretty eager to put thier dream wedding into your hands, so I take it they trust you very much. I say your dream wedding is their dream wedding. Just do as much as you can, do whatever you think they'll like, and I'm sure they'll love it. Some people don't have friends like you to plain their weddings...

[12voltman59]

I found these sites doing a Google search on this subject:

http://dir.spidergay.com/index.php?option=com_arka_directory&task=search&searchword=ceremonies%20comittment

http://www.popularweddinglinks.com/WeddingVendors_Officiants.asphttp://www.commitment-ceremonies.com/

http://www.popularweddinglinks.com/WeddingVendors_Officiants.asp

http://www.unionoflove.com/

http://weddings.about.com/cs/gayandlesbian/a/commitmentcerem.htm

http://weddings.about.com/od/gayandlesbianweddings/

http://www.unmarried.org/ceremonies.html

http://www.twobrides.com/

these websites should be of great help