Sex from age 7 to 75 -- there are some changes

[R. R. Wayne]

I will soon be 75 years old. I had my first sexual experience when I
was 6 or 7 and had my first dry ejaculation at 7 or 8. In the
intervening years I have had a lot of sex. Probably with 40
to 50 men and about 25 women. I was one of those guys who rarely
made it past two days without having sex or jacking off. I loved sex
and to a lesser degree, I still do.

But my outlook on wanting to have sex with men and my sexuality has been
undergoing a big change in the past two years. At first it was a
difficulty in accepting one-way blow jobs from guys. I could not get
hard or excited unless I was reciprocating. And, when I did cum with
another guy it just wasn't as much fun as it used to be.
Fortunately for me my wife recently showed a renewed interest in sex. And this
was after at least 6 to 8 years of having sex maybe one or twice a
year.


Toss into the equation, that while I am bi. my wife knows nothing of my
alternative life style. So all the sex I enjoyed outside the
marriage bed was done on the sly. And I began to experience a degree
of guilt that heretofore was unknown.
Also toss into the equation that my erections are not as rigid or as
easily obtained – another age-related condition.

Amazingly, when I do have sex with my wife, who loves to suck my cock as I eat
her wet pussy and she is very good at caressing my cock and balls and
gets me really hot –- so I am able to obtain a really good hard on
and please her and myself just like in the good old days.


So, where is all of this leading. I have decided to stop having oral sex
with men. For me it is no longer worth the time or the risk of
getting caught. Sneaking-around-sex is no longer any fun for me and
I just can't get hard or excited with another guy. I still enjoy reading many of the posts here, but they don't turn me on like in the past and I will no longer be looking for new experiences.





Your
experience will differ, but I posted this topic because some of the
older men on this site might find it interesting to read of another
senior guy's experience.

[NjbiGuy01]

I agree with lots of what you have said Wayne, although I'm actually seeing it in my mid 50's. I think my bi desires seem to sometimes die off, then they come back, I act on them, and feel less than happy about doing that, and lay low for some time. The frustrating part is having made connections with cool people, cool group or party situations, and even a couple of local men who were in the same boat as me and wanted a steady safe friend. I'm on the fence about revisiting it now though.

This is in part because of an embarrassing situation with accidently discovered e-mails which were even seen by my kids ! It was a difficult time from which our strong family unit has remarkably been recovering. It does feel a bit strange walking on eggshells daily in-terms of accounting for my time clearly and implicitly, and making me think sometimes if the risk/please ratio is worth it. I used to be pretty free and loose, and never had anyone looking over my phone texts, or calls made, or where I was in a given timeframe. I always rationalized that playing with a guy or a couple was somehow "not cheating" since it was something I would never have at home.

It was actually an awakening to my not paying enough attention to my wife and kids anyway, and although the wife knew I played bi "before we were married", and thought I abandoned that. Like you, I had my share of clandestine relationships with a few ex-girlfriends, female and male F-buddies, and a few couples I had longterm relationships with from a year or two to almost 5 years with one. I still see temptations on vacation in a spa steamroom or in a hot tub or hanging by a pool on a cruise ship. I guess i have "gaydar", "bidar" or "Swingdar" of some kind...It seems a man or in some cases a couple made an overture or struck up conversation, and it seemed things were heading that way...lucky yes, albeit it a little late in life for me to feel comfort with it.

It's interesting that it's awakened the home sex life. The wife and I take advantage of an empty house and share a nice shower, spend time with our toy collection on the livingroom floor in front of a hot fireplace, or get away for a weekend as the sex is more relaxed and exciting when we're away.. She's mentioned wanting to maybe watch porn together, or maybe even learn more about the lifestyle...who knows where life can take us....?