How many men turned bi when they reached middle age or after they turned 40?

[tonytnt]

Out of shear boredom & curiosity one day, I decided to look at the Escort & sex ads on Eros, backpage & craigslist. When I came to the Male looking for Male ads, I was amazed at all the ads for guys looking to give or get BJ's from other guys. Over half of the ads were married guys looking for other guys to have sex with. I counted over 200 ads in that category in one day.
I'm curious to know how many married guys or single guys, who were totally straight, decide to try sex with a guy, crossdresser or transexual at middle age.

[zippy123]

I was wondering the same thing. Most of the adds like you said were for guys late thirties or older. Wondering if it has something to do with midlife testosterone levels. I believe they start dropping around then. btw I am in that same group

[steve10557]

I've been Bi for as long as I can remember, but I'm sure 'born bi' or 'turned bi' are in more or less equal numbers. It may be easier for men as we would probably fuck the proverbial knot hole in the tree when our blood is up. But, are we all born Bi and learn heterosexuality or homosexuality as a matter of social or cultural conventions, and then we 'rediscover' our bi-ness as we get older and the importance of things change in our perception.


Things my old Dad said: "For goodness sake, if you ruin those shoes I'm not buying you another pair!"

[curious44]

I considered myself bi most of my life. I began enjoying sex with other boys when I was maybe 12. I didn't have sex with a girl until 18. Got married at 21, we're still happily together even though we haven't had sex in decades. As I got older I lost all interest in women and realized sex with men was always more exciting. Not that it really matters but the question for me is not, did I turn bi, but did I turn gay? Or was I always really gay? It won't keep me awake at night worrying.

[BareProf]

No research here, was a bi boy at 11 - 13 but didn't suck a cock till 26. Soon got married and my bi thoughts came in fantasy and looking at nudist mags. Divorced at 40 and really wanted some cock but pussy was more available. I discovered AOL and the chat rooms in my 50's where there were many frustrated husbands 40 and up wanting sex with other men. I mean there were thousands and thousands of us who got off with explicit chat and photo sharing with other men. My conclusion… somehow middle age brings out the bi desires in many men. The older I get, the more I desire.21842

[ALAbiguy]

I have always realized that I am bi but I didn't act on it until I was fifty. I think as you get older you realize life is too short to deny yourself any more. I really wish I hadn't waited so long because now I'm having a difficult time finding a good fuck buddy. I'm fit and attractive for my age, but finding fuck buddies is much easier for younger men. If I had any advice for young bisexuals it would be to not deny your attractions and wait so long to be who you really are.

PS..
BareProf...... Dayum! You're looking good!

[Bishyguy1958]

I've had bi thoughts on and off since I was 12 or so. I was at 40 I stopped denying that I'm bisexual, and I that I have been bi all my life.

[new day]

A lot of the men here had bi inclinations most of their lives. Like you, I didn't ever think about it until I was in my early 40s. I think of it more as a sexual evolution. As I got older I was more interested in having different experiences with women and it progressed to the idea of finding out what it would be like to give and receive pleasure from a man. I had been on the receiving end of many blow jobs and was amazed by how excited the women became when sucking me. I began to wonder what it would be like to be on the giving end instead and whether I'd be as turned on by it as they were. My bi experience is still very limited and infrequent, but it's been very satisfying. There are times when I feel the a huge need for contact with a man and other times when the urge is almost non-existent.

[NMCowboys]

Nope. Both myself and my partner knew at a young age.

[fredtyg]

I don't know it should be phrased as "becoming bi". Perhaps more appropriate to ask when one became more comfortable being bi as they reached middle age? As others have pointed out, many of us had an inkling we were bi earlier on but suppressed it. As we get older we just become more accepting of who we really are.

[BiCherry]

My first wife was basically frigid so I masturbated a lot. After we got divorced (around age 38), I started to notice that when I was masturbating looking at a picture of a woman with a big hard cock in her fist and a load of cum on her face, I couldn't decide whether I wanted to be him or her. Prior to that, I had no bi feelings. Had lots of opportunities in college but wasn't interested at that time. Since then I masturbate almost equally to straight and gay porn. I love big hard cut cocks. Although I don't have any m-m experience, it is high up in my fantasy realm. The only thing that prevents me from acting on my bi side is that it would require me cheating on my wife. She's cool with the fantasies but not ok with me making them a reality. So, to answer the original question, my bi side didn't emerge until my late thirties/early forties. I don't see any signs of it slowing down either. Classic latent homosexuality I guess. Or at least bisexuality (sorry if I'm using the wrong term).

[dickhand]

I have come to know several older men that have " turned " bi as the result of great love for thier wives that are medically unable to have or are not interested in sex anymore . Some have wives who won't do oral or anal . By having sex with me as opposed to another woman lets them have release without cheating with another woman . A fine line perhaps , but it lets them sleep at night .

[openindedguy67881]

48 and going through it now, both exciting and confusing at the same time.

[12voltyV2.0]

I knew it at an early age--but going against the things you are taught that doing stuff with other guys was "bad," "wrong" or even EVIL---that scares you when you are young and even though you sort of outgrow that----with so many of your friends always saying totally horrible things about those who are "gay" or "faggots" or worse--that then serves as a curb on your desires.

I think as much as having to do with hormones or anything physical--as we get older--we no longer care as much about the dictates of society, friends, co-workers, our church and society in general---if we have these desires---and they do tend to really grow to the point that they are very strong--we sort of put it up as a "bucket list" thing that we want to do stuff with other guys and BY GOD, we are gonna do it no matter what.

I had done stuff when younger periodically---but being the generation I was--I did not do as much as I might have wanted---but when I got older--I said to myself---"Screw that--there are so many guys out there that are doing this--and I want to experience again the things I did and more---so I am gonna do it. They look like they are having fun and I want some of that!!"

It took me awhile to get back to do things with other guys--and I do admit--without the internet--I probably never would have and I can also say---that back when I was young---if there had been the internet---I would have done it more than I did--the stuff I did do-----"just sort of happened" when I met some guy who approached me about doing something and we did have some sexual experiences.

I think that with society easing somewhat about this and thanks to the internet---and that "aging thing"---more guys see that so many other guys have the same desires they do and they want to take part in doing something of this sort and not let that pass them by. I really do wished that I had let myself do more than I did when I was young--but then again--another brake in that was the fact that HIV/AIDS came on the scene and that was a really scary thing that kept me from doing much more than I did do.

[Waylon]

I blew a guy when I was 15, then did a threesome with a guy and girl in my twenties and that was pretty much it until about 13 years ago or so. When the old lady lost all interest, I checked out some bi porn and then curiosity got the better of me and I hooked up with a guy and we exchanged blowjobs. I was hooked since then and enjoy giving oral sex with men although do still prefer getting sucked by women, some guys too.

[Basin_Bouy]

I "experimented" with a few neighbourhood guys my own age in my pre-teens, but always has the Bi urge. Never acted on it until I was 38, and at 53 I still act on that urge.

[Dunmor]

I never had a lot of contact with men until the Internet arrived. Yes, a few things happened in HS with friends of the same age or with a few older men, but nothing like the Internet, which allowed you to at least have access to an unlimited number of people to contact

[jackbirdjay]

My first time was with a buddy we both was 14. We did it till about age 17 when we both got gf's. I had a few in my 20's and a few mmf 3 ways. About that time had anal a few times and liked it. I met my now wife and told her I was bicurious only and got her in to playing with my ass with toys. Around 32 years old stopped having bi sex till about 5 years ago. Wife and I have sex about 5 times a YEAR!!! She lost her drive and never sucks me anymore. She use to suck me all the time before she lost her sex drive. It just happen I was trying to loose weight joined a gym. I worked nights at the time. About 2 months after I joined, I was in the big shower room. The room has 10 shower heads, wide open. In walked a guy in his late 60's. I seen him around working out but not nude. I couldn't help it I was checking him out. His uncut cock was big veiny with a big set of hanging balls. I couldn't help but my little 4 1/2 incher got hard he seen it and smiled. He said u like what u saw hun?? As he grabbed his big hanging cock. He said u ever play all I could do was nod. He walked over to me grabbed my hand put it on his growing cock and said suck it. I said not here I didn't want to get caught I said lets go in the men's room. We went in to the handi-cap stall I sat on the toilet and gave him a good blow-job. We became friends and I started going over to his place he was 69 years old and his wife died a few years ago. I almost forgot how much I enjoyed being a cock sucker.

[mikeyd270]

I was middle aged around 40. Had been curious much earlier just never acted on it. After my second divorce I was single again and decided to go down on a guy. That's when I discovered my bi side and became a cocksucker.

[Jimbo712]

Was always curious in my 20's but never acted on it till my 40's.

[sailorashore]

I had a brief experiment with another kid in boarding school when I was thirteen. The school found out, and came down hard on me. I never touched another cock till I was 31, then not again till in my forties. By my fifties I was starting to experiment and cruise the web, but really didn't get into it until after I broke up with my woman partner of five years in 2011. Now I very much enjoy doing all the things that men do with each other to make each other feel good. I have a handsome young (54) friend who is uncut (my first) and who loves for me to fuck him. Last night I did him, and this morning he did me. Life is awfully sweet since we met.
There is a very cool documentary called "OUT LATE" about seniors who have been closeted most of their lives. Very much worth watching.

[Dog62]

I'm curious to know how many married guys or single guys, who were totally straight, decide to try sex with a guy, crossdresser or transexual at middle age.I guess I am the one you are talking about. I never had any bi desires or curiousities before my early to mid 40's when a g/f somewhat coerced me to suck another guy for her. I spent the next day feeling guilty about what I had done. She set up another 3some encounter (same guy-a friend of hers) and since she had never hesitated to bring women into our bed (and reminded me of it quite a bit during this time) I continued to fulfill her fantasy. I slowly realized that it wasn't so bad and while I never arranged the get-togethers I quit trying to avoid them. The 3 of us got together on occasion for about 3 years. A few months after she had moved away he called and asked if I was still willing to suck his dick. I thought about it and realized that at some point I stopped sucking him "for her" and actually began to enjoy sucking his cock. So for the last 2-3 years he calls monthly (or more) and we get together at my place.

So, to answer your original question: Me.
You shoulda made this a poll :)

[whispering]

I'm sure a great many men had some sex with another guy as boys and teens, and the experience stayed with them. That's certainly true for me...I played with a friend before either of us had hair on our balls and tasted his first drop of cum. As a senior in high school I had swinger sex with a teacher, and our late-night encounters alone and naked stayed with me. The inhibitions are greater as you move into adulthood, and I was frankly afraid, for any number of reasons to pursue those desires. One night a year ago, while masturbating thinking of guys, I just suddenly said, "Why not??". I have the opportunity, and the inhibitions are falling.

During all those years I was afraid to suck cock again, if someone I knew had given me the opportunity and encouragement, I would have been on my knees pretty quickly, but it didn't happen, and I would never have cruised or answered the ads in the back of shady papers. I wonder if the younger generation, raised on the internet with a field of possibilities unknown to us, will be different--more open to encounters that were so difficult before. There are signs already that casual sex between guys in high school and college is more (but still not very) acceptable.

[dick_pumper]

Me and a friend had sucked each others cocks a few times when we were like 13. He liked getting more then giving and I was happy to suck his cock. Then his family moved and off to High School I went. During HS I had a few guys come on to me but I felt that if I did anything with them that would make me gay so I was afraid to do anything. After HS I dated girls all the time and never really thought much to sucking cock or playing with boys. Then I married and I guess all the sex on the Honeymoon was to say that since I said I do, she didn't have to anymore. By year 4 we were lucky to have sex on our anniversary. She had no desire or interest in sex and expected me to be ok with it. Well I wasn't and was masturbating 3-5 times a week, sometimes once or twice in a day depending on how horny I was. After awhile straight porn got boring and I needed something else and I clicked on gay porn. Jacking off watching two guys suck then fuck each other had me so freaking hard it wasn't funny. But when I would finally cum, I felt dirty and ashamed that I got pleasure jacking to two men. But of course I didn't stop. I thought back to my buddy and I when we were little and wondered if I could do that again as an adult? I did have an affair with a woman that turned into a mess with her sending me a few gifts and telling me how happy I would be if I left my wife. Long story short, she wasn't what I would have moved in with. So I ended that and started thinking more and more that sex with a guy would be sex without the commitment. So I posted an ad here and on another dating site and met a guy for lunch one day. as we were leaving he kissed me and it kind of freaked me out but as I drove away I got hard as hell. So we met up again at his place one night when my wife was out with friends and we kissed and made out, then he undressed me and started to suck my cock and that was great, then he stood up and said "Your turn." OMG! this is it, put up or shut up. And I pulled down his boxers and his cock hit me in the face. I was an inch away from crossing that line. He said to suck it and I took it into my mouth and loved every minute of it.
So did I turn BI then or had I always been Bi? Who knows? I don't really care. I was getting intimacy missing from my marriage and I was fine with sucking a cock. And eventually being taken anally.
The last time my wife and I had sex was May 2013, and I can say I have taken more cock in me and cum then she has since. lol

[BiCuriousVAN]

I didn't have my first experience with a guy until I was 41 and hadn't really been interested. The thought of being with another man was a turnoff. I have had quite a few gay friends, so there would have been opportunity if I was interested. None had come asked. However, interestingly I have had a few people ask if I was gay or if I was interested. There was one guy I met while on vacation who I was talking with about life etc. Then out of the blue he asked me if I would like my cock rubbed. I got scared and said no and he left not long after he left, there was a part of me that made me wonder what it would be like. I was about 31 and I think that was when the seed was planted. My desire to get together with guys gets stronger sometimes than other times, but I don't think there is a month when I don't think about it and I think my bi side is getting stronger as I get older, but still do prefer women more. With guys it is just a sexual thing, but with women I want a relationship.

[IndyBiFun]

I began questioning my sexuality in college but just kept denying it. Finally, in my mid-30's that little inner voice was so loud I had to pay attention. My first time was with a very attractice CD and I found out that I not only enjoyed but I liked it. I've not been with many guys but whenever I have it's always felt "right" to me.

[newporter4u]

I don't know but I know I had started fantasizing about 3somes, first it was just pleasing her, then it turned to pleasing him too. The more I thought about it the more it excited me, next thing I know I'm involved in a MFM 3some and she asked the guy if he minded if I sucked his cock. He said sure and I got to taste her sweet pussy off of his cock and it seemed so natural, I was hooked.

[Odge1]

I had tendencies when I was young in my teens. My friend and I would suck each other off. In my early 20's I used to frequent a local adult bookstore gloryhole. Then got scared of catching aids. Met a few women, married my present wife and was happy for many years. Now at age 50 I still enjoy sex, the wife not so much. I never had the gift of gab and have trouble finding horny woman. I've always loved cock and started looking for guys. I ran into an old friend who was divorced. I found he had gone gay and we started jerking off and blowing each other. It was great until about 9 months ago when he stopped contacting me. I'm now trying to find new friends whether male or female. I just don't do anything anal. Oral only.

[mm6ce99]

I was curious about being with a guy and didn't act on it until I was 41 and wished I would've done it a lot sooner.

[Galveston]

I didn't have sex with another man until several years ago and found it to be the hottest, most passionate sex I've ever experienced. When he slips his cock in my mouth I want to make it explode in my mouth and provide him the ultimate sexual pleasure.

[DomLkg4maleCkSkr]

As a gay man, I have to say that the men over 40 are the hungriest. I think that it is a matter of sexual repression. Marrying a woman is a strong expectation in US culture. But, sexual orientation doesn't change whether one acts on it or not. I prefer men over 40 because when they say they want to play with my form of kink, they mean it.

[whispering]

As a gay man, I have to say that the men over 40 are the hungriest. I think that it is a matter of sexual repression. Marrying a woman is a strong expectation in US culture. But, sexual orientation doesn't change whether one acts on it or not. I prefer men over 40 because when they say they want to play with my form of kink, they mean it.

Yes, and when you talk like that, we mean it even more! :oh:

[whispering]

I didn't have my first experience with a guy until I was 41 and hadn't really been interested. The thought of being with another man was a turnoff......

Almost every guy I've talked with has had some experience earlier in life that left them with desire for sex with men, and it always amazes me when a guy, like you, just suddenly jumps in with men. I have a buddy like that, at about 40 he just thought he'd try it and loved it, but he'd never thought of men before that day. Now he's super horny and exciting to be around! Go figure, eh?

[rockclimber45]

While still in my younger 30s, I would echo the statements above. My desire to experience MM play has only gotten stronger with age. I haven't yet had any experience, but believe that as the desire continues to grow, it will overcome the nervousness of following through on those desires.

[biwmtrucker44]

yes that number in screen name is when I started being bi or about that time.I was 44 when I sucked my 1st cock that is when I knew

[friesbaconnekkid]

I was around 49 when I sucked cock, and took one in my ass for the first time. I found I REALLY enjoy getting fucked, and do a fairly good job of sucking cock. I'm pushing 60 now, and will still bend over for any cock that will fit. For some reason, I do have a hesitation about guys cumming in my mouth ,and swallowing. I've done it a few times, but just haven't warmed up to it. I do hope to get over that someday, as I do know that semen is healthy for me.

[cuttin2dachase]

I was relatively young (32) when I sucked my 1st cock in a foursome with my 1st wife and a bi couple. She had been coaxing me to try oral sex with a man, giving and getting, suggesting more than a few times that we should try 3somes with men. When the opportunity presented itself with this couple, it was incredibly liberating and exciting. I knew afterwards that this was something I wanted to explore further with her and I couldn't have had a more willing partner. Except for my hotwife, no other woman had ever pleased my cock orally better than he had. Even more exciting was having his hot, hard, forbidden cock in my hands and mouth and treating it sluttily as I would want mine treated by a woman or man. Henceforth, my desire for us to meet bi men for 3somes equalled hers. Over the next 16 years we met 10 or 15 men, some of whom became semi-regular partners. I was middle aged at 48 when she and I divorced over her abuse of alcohol and drugs. Other than a couple of times when our 'date' and I continued to play with each other after she'd gone to sleep, I did not explore nor pursue my fantasy of 1 on 1 sex and group sex with men. I remarried a very str8 woman and remained faithful for the duration, all the while fantasizing of swinging and bi sex. We split up almost 5 years ago and I immediately began seeking bi men and couples again. My fantasies and desires have been fulfilled many times since and my desire for men and couples with bi men has only increased. My desire for sex with women is still strong as well, but at my age now (60) I find it much easier and drama-free to meet men and couples instead :)

[GrizzlyGrinder]

Still haven't sucked a cock or gotten fucked at 40. But I've known I was bi since I was 12 or so. Shame so much time wasted.

[BiBIKER065]

I was 63 the 1st time (65 now) that I sucked a cock. It was when I met a Bi couple m/f. She started sharing my cock with him and I enjoyed it so much that I decided to suck his cock it was scary at 1st but once I started it got me so hard and made me cum right away. Now it's all I think about, and wishing to do it again, without any luck. If the opportunity comes up I would do it again.

[Oborokybiman]

I'm one that discovered the my bi side late in life. When my wife and I decided to call it quits. I started looking through an Adult site for females and established a profile where there were no women seeking me....bummer! However, within an hour or two, I got hit on by several men. It was weird but exciting as well!! I had one guy seduce me with his words online. It was like nothing I've ever experienced! I was infatuated by the idea that I was being pursued! Another guy got in touch with me and we began to talk about life as married men! I felt feelings I never knew existed. It was exciting and felt forbidden as well! This guy came over to my apartment and had a beer together and talked when we decided to get close I dropped to my knees and he dropped his sweatpants! ! He had a nice sized cock and I immediately licked him and started blowing him... he and I started shaking so bad that we had reposition ourselves and tried to relax. It was both our first times!! He was mid 50's and I was mid 40#s. He said when he was young that a friend from school tried to jack him off during a sleep over. But he told the boy he wanted his sister instead! Anyway, we got together 2 or 3 times.

[Jim505]

Sucked my first cock at 15yo.Although I went thru times when I had no male to male contact,mostly while in the military,once I got into my late 30s I really started to open up to my bi side.Wife and I got into swinging and it open up a whole new world for us.She found her bi side and she found out about my bi side.

[LennyC]

In my late twenties are are started watching gay and transsexual porn and it awoke a lot of sexual desires in me, I never really found the same sex attractive but when I began watching porn I became used to seeing men as sexual objects and I have been bi-curious ever since.

[oodoov]

Was always curious in my 20's but never acted on it till my 40's.

Life is too short...

[Realist]

As a teenager, troubled with love, lust, and general confusion, my grandfather told me; "You will struggle all thorough life, trying to figure out what you really want and need. It will take you years to sort out the differences between what you want, or what others want for you. Then, when you're an old man, like me, you may have everything figured out.
However, by that time, you'll be too damned old to do anything about it!"

That pretty much seems to be the truth!

[Cum4james]

My story is similar to many others. I masturbated with some friends in he high but that is it. Nothing in high school. Two interesting experiences in college. The first time I was with a friend from the dorm. We never discussed anything gay or bisexual. I guess we boy liked girls only. We were driving around a lake drinking and a guy stopped us to talk. He asked if we wanted to get some more booze and go to his friends house to swim. We be in the pool naked as I remember. He tells me to get next to the pool jet and asks how it feels. The next thing I remember is my college friend went into the house with him. He came back and I went into the house. The guy played with my cock and sucked it. I did the same for him. My dorm friend and I never discussed what happened. We were drunk and I don't remember it well. It was 30 something years ago.
another experience was I was partying with a guy from a college class that was gay but I didn't really know it. We was going to stay at my place because he was drunk. Best blowjob in my life. I kind of freaked out afterwards and wanted him to leave.
Back to the topic, I started cruising some parks and adult bookstores, most times just masturbating by myself but a few hookups. I had a great gay massage. Do have met one uh I have played with a few times. He was he first to fuck my ass. I need more now.

[Cum4james]

Oh the previous post I should have mentioned it was after I was 40 and found the internet that I started searching and I am more comfortable with playing with guys now