Worst experience

[onesucker4u]

I have been promised on 3 seperate occassions a bisexual threesum with my ex girlfriend and her boyfriend. Hours of text and phone talking about it and my assurance that it would happen. I have been up late nights waiting for the promised call and always disapointed. Tonight was garanteed, and I went to his apartment, we went out for dinner and returned to his apt. and she undressed and danced around kissing and hugging him. (she told me many times to keep quiet and dont do anything untill I was told. That they would get started and I would be called over to join). after a half hour of them playing, he went over to the bed and lay down , fully clothed. She laid down next to him and gestured for me to come over. I laid down with her between us, and for an hour would try things, carress, kiss,etc, and everytime I was pushed away or she put my hand on her leg and she turned to kiss or talk to him. Like I said, an hour went like this when she told me he was asleep and I couldnt do anything untill he woke in the morning. So I left. I feel setup for humiliation.

[itsnormy]

I had met a really neat guy, we went to lunch a few times, were able to sit and visit on other occasions. I slowly cultivated the idea of our getting together. He had never been with a man, but as we talked, he warmed up to it a bit, and finally agreed to let me suck his cock, which I had found to be very nice. The day arrived. I drove to his apartment with wild anticipation. Got there, was offered coffee and snacks, porn on the tv...he was obviously nervous, so we took it slowly. Eventually we headed to the bedroom, undressing each other. Naked, started to lay down when I caught whiff of the most horrid crotch smell of my entire life...I immediately suggested, " I'd like shower, join me ? " he replied, " NO, I'm fine." Told him, " No you're not." dressed and left...never saw him again.

[dickhand]

Dick cheese , nuff said !:yikes2:

[fredtyg]

ITonight was garanteed, and I went to his apartment, we went out for dinner and returned to his apt. and she undressed and danced around kissing and hugging him. (she told me many times to keep quiet and dont do anything untill I was told. That they would get started and I would be called over to join). after a half hour of them playing, he went over to the bed and lay down , fully clothed. She laid down next to him and gestured for me to come over. I laid down with her between us, and for an hour would try things, carress, kiss,etc, and everytime I was pushed away or she put my hand on her leg and she turned to kiss or talk to him. Like I said, an hour went like this when she told me he was asleep and I couldnt do anything untill he woke in the morning. So I left..

Not trying to make light of this but, in regards MMF threesomes, did anyone else watch that one episode on Two and a Half Men where Alan gets Walden into a three way with Alan's girlfriend? They get into the bed and the girl is all over Walden, ignoring Alan. Alan tries to get involved but can't as his girlfriend is all over Walden. Finally Walden gets upset over something else and leaves. Hysterical.

Not that I thought the OP's story was hysterical. It just reminded me of that one episode.

The only time I was "in" a three way I was confused as to how it was supposed to work. Didn't matter in the end cause the other guy passed out drunk at the start and I had the girl all to myself. I don't think she was happy about it being just me, either.

As far as my worst experiences, I can think of two. One in particular was pretty awful, but neither involved threesomes.

[onesucker4u]

see, I thought , when he passed out (supposedly, but I dont believe it cuz his feet and hands were moving) then I would at least get some kind of release. She was a nympho with me before she met him, and they say they are "Poly". I even asked her to go to my car or my home when she said its a respect his home thing. I think I was set up to be humiliated by them for his pleasure.

[by~his~side]

OP, I'm sorry you had that experience. Try to remember that she is an x girlfriend for a reason. Also, if the other guy was truly into a bisexual threesome do you really think he would have fallen asleep?? Or even pretended to be asleep? I've been in my fair share of m/m/f encounters and those guys would walk across hot coals for cock.

Let that be the very last time they use you for their own selfish reasons. You deserve better than that.

~D~

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Yep. She just had you there to watch and be degraded some. I dont like 3 ways all the time as someone always gets left out one way or another. I mean, they are Fun if in the right circumstances, but not always. Sorry you got duped, Sweetie.
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[Realist]

I never understood those who were in relationships where humiliation was a common part of their connection. I've known more than one person who was with a lover/wife/husband that took every opportunity to cut them down. They'd profess their love for partners in private, but in public, say and do things to bring negative attention to them. I assume there are some who feel negative attention is better than none at all, but how could anyone live with themselves if they are being dehumanized?

I would not put up with that, for a moment...nor would I ever act that way myself!

As for my worst experience: I'm pretty lucky, I haven't experienced too many bad experiences during my "career" as a bisexual male.

Probably the worst was when I was in the early stages of a poly relationship with a married couple. Upon an invitation to join a friend and his wife, I moved in with them before any ground rules, or understanding of what each expected, or wanted.

He, apparently, envisioned that I'd be mostly involved with him. His wife, however, felt we'd all be equal partners. I was totally clueless, thinking we'd all be involved at about the same levels.

As I've been prone to do, I quickly gained deep feelings for them both. For a few weeks, I thought things were going well; we all seemed delighted with the situation. In my mind the relationship was going well and I was enjoying it, thoroughly.

Then, one Saturday evening, after we'd had what I though was a great day, the husband began to act bitchy and pout.

When I asked him why he was acting that way, he declared that his wife and I were spending way too much time together! Never before had he said anything about my being with the wife; in fact, he'd encouraged it. Hell, we were always together! (This is after he and I had sex at least three times that day, then his wife and I had sex once!)

From that day on, the relationship began to fail. By the following week, it was all over.

I was crazy about them both and not being a jealous person, I couldn't understand why his feelings had seemed to change so drastically.

Hurt and disappointed. I would never enter another poly relationship without ground rules and total meeting of the minds, before committing. Over the next few years, I was involved with two other poly agreements and the preliminary planning certainly helped with any future compatibility issues.

Still today, it hurts me to think of losing that couple's

[Gearbox]

I've never had a 3some go well. Last attempt two of us started before the 3rd arrived and we cum just before he turned up. So we both tried our best to get him to cum as quick as possible to get it over with.
Not easy when you'd much rather go make a cup of tea.lol

My first all male 3some lasted almost 5mins. I didn't even get fully naked before the other 2 cum. Ended up having a wank after they left.:( NOT my doing btw! One of them is extremely hairtriggered and HOT, and the other cum watching him cum.lol

3somes are just too good at giving lots of opportunities to mess up and disappoint.

[darkeyes]

Honestly, Gear.. wot r we to do wivya? Obviously not gang up on ya to give ya gud time ne way:eek2:..ur very unreliable in massed company it seems;).. u remind me of a Canadian guy on Isle of Mull who wos on a promise wiv 2 girls 1ce upon a time.... the girls got ther and he wos pissed as fart and fast asleep and ther wos no waking him.. the girls wer not pleased... wosn't 1 of the girls btw:)... but me best m8 wos:cutelaugh.... and boy did he cop it... she is anotha luffly girl who isn't a nice non violent type like wot I am:impleased..

:cutelaugh:kiss:

[Gearbox]

Honestly, Gear.. wot r we to do wivya? Obviously not gang up on ya to give ya gud time ne way:eek2:..ur very unreliable in massed company it seems;).. u remind me of a Canadian guy on Isle of Mull who wos on a promise wiv 2 girls 1ce upon a time.... the girls got ther and he wos pissed as fart and fast asleep and ther wos no waking him.. the girls wer not pleased... wosn't 1 of the girls btw:)... but me best m8 wos:cutelaugh.... and boy did he cop it... she is anotha luffly girl who isn't a nice non violent type like wot I am:impleased..

:cutelaugh:kiss:
Well that's us menfolk for you. Can't organise a piss up in a brewery, espesh where sex is concerned.lol
The hookup sites are awash with accusations of timewasting and blatant con-jobs going on, on the daily. That's just with 1-1 meets. I'd wager it's very rare for 3somes to go well and all being on the same page etc.
Or I might be just unlucky in that area.:(

[onesucker4u]

I feel a need to thank the people here who gave me support. This has really left me feeling extremely violated. I have had anxiety attacks, crying, etc, and you all have given me much needed support and acceptance. Im a little better now and wiser. Never again, That woman is dead to me, a drug that I will never use again. Thank you all again, I have 2 people in the outside world I shared this with, but thats all I have.

[Hypersexual11]

Hey, sorry this had to happen to you but sometimes it takes a good slap in the face to wake up. Glad you are moving on.
When the wife and I first started finding guys for MMF 3somes, there were plenty of bad experiences. It's tough to get a 3way going where everyone is on the same page. We just learn and move on. With a 3some, as stated earlier, you need lots of communication. Bummer for you though. It looks like you were really into it. Keep looking. There are some really cool couples out there looking for a guy, just like you.

[BareProf]

Really basic worst experiences here - those times for totally unexplainable reasons I could not get it up. No, I had not been drinking!

[lokione]

I'm sorry for those that have had bad experiences. Thus far all of my MM contact has been during MMF or MFMF play, and all have been extremely fun and fulfilling. My total number of experiences have been quite low, around five I'd guess. Perhaps my being very lucky during social time beforehand has kept me out of trouble? I've actually turned down a few couples that didn't feel right.

Hope you all have much better experiences in the future, perhaps giving me a call ;)

[Fzmr9t]

My worst experiences aren't as bad as those described here fortunately , and it could be because I don't have all that many good or bad. But the "bad" ones are where he decided to get rough or forceful, and I hate forceful or domineering partners.

[Bisexual Explorer]

Why do people think it's funny to humiliate someone else? It's disgusting.
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