Question about coming out

[PookaciousOne]

I just came out as bisexual recently and often it's a lot of what I think about and talk about. Is that normal or weird ? Also is it unusual for someone's sex drive to increase after coming out?

[jonibotom]

not sure that I have come out, but the more open about my bi/ homosexuality the more comfortable I am.

[fredtyg]

You don't include your age in your profile but I've found many guys, once they get into their late 40s and beyond, often become pretty involved in the acknowledgement of their bisexuality. Most have been hiding it their whole lives. Once they become comfortable with it they feel the need to make up for lost time.

[scapegoat1987]

It's perfectly normal, especially considering how many years you had to repress your sexual orientation. You should also keep in mine (because I have to remind myself of this all the time), it may seem like you talk about your bisexuality a whole lot, but that's because we are, for the most part, an invisible minority. Heterosexuality is the norm, and even though heterosexuals talk about their sexual orientations all the time, it doesn't seem like they do. That's because the main aspect of privilege is that you don't have to name or call attention to your sexual orientation. People talk about their partners, relationships, dating, who they find attractive; and no one thinks anything about it. But, because any queer identity is not the norm, it stands out more when we talk about it, and it seems as though we're constantly having to clarify and correct and name our sexual and romantic identities.

[Gearbox]

It's perfectly normal, especially considering how many years you had to repress your sexual orientation. You should also keep in mine (because I have to remind myself of this all the time), it may seem like you talk about your bisexuality a whole lot, but that's because we are, for the most part, an invisible minority. Heterosexuality is the norm, and even though heterosexuals talk about their sexual orientations all the time, it doesn't seem like they do. That's because the main aspect of privilege is that you don't have to name or call attention to your sexual orientation. People talk about their partners, relationships, dating, who they find attractive; and no one thinks anything about it. But, because any queer identity is not the norm, it stands out more when we talk about it, and it seems as though we're constantly having to clarify and correct and name our sexual and romantic identities.
Quite right!! I get a bit annoyed when I'm in a pub with a bloke trying to figure out ways to sneak a sly grope under the table, when I look around and there are hetero's blatantly kissing, groping, siting on each others laps etc.:eek:
If I were to do that with a bloke in a pub, it would probably be spoken of for years to come. And we'd prob be thrown out too.:crosseye:

[scapegoat1987]

Oh yeah, most straight people haven't got a clue how many times a person in a same-sex relationship has to edit him or herself in public, or how oppressive that feels at times. And don't even get me started on the heteronormative guilt I feel when I'm out with a woman, holding hands and kissing in public. I often feel like a poser, because I don't act the same when out and about with a man. Ugh! :(

[PookaciousOne]

You don't include your age in your profile but I've found many guys, once they get into their late 40s and beyond, often become pretty involved in the acknowledgement of their bisexuality. Most have been hiding it their whole lives. Once they become comfortable with it they feel the need to make up for lost time.

I thought I did.I am 45

[PookaciousOne]

Oh yeah, most straight people haven't got a clue how many times a person in a same-sex relationship has to edit him or herself in public, or how oppressive that feels at times. And don't even get me started on the heteronormative guilt I feel when I'm out with a woman, holding hands and kissing in public. I often feel like a poser, because I don't act the same when out and about with a man. Ugh! :(

I get that because my feelings and attraction to men is vastly different than it is with women.I honestly feel my accepting and acknowledging what type of men I am attracted to played a lot in what took me so long to come out. My attraction to women can very greatly. In terms of men my first crush on a guy was Nikki Six of Motley Crue specifically during the early 90s and how he looked then.Was the first time I knew without a doubt that if I ever got the chance I would have no problem sucking his cock until he came again and again

[scapegoat1987]

I get that because my feelings and attraction to men is vastly different than it is with women.I honestly feel my accepting and acknowledging what type of men I am attracted to played a lot in what took me so long to come out. My attraction to women can very greatly. In terms of men my first crush on a guy was Nikki Six of Motley Crue specifically during the early 90s and how he looked then.Was the first time I knew without a doubt that if I ever got the chance I would have no problem sucking his cock until he came again and again
Understandable. It sounds like you've spent years thinking this through, and that you're comfortable with who you are. That's a good thing.

[PookaciousOne]

Understandable. It sounds like you've spent years thinking this through, and that you're comfortable with who you are. That's a good thing.


I have.Not sure if this is tied into finally being comfortable about being bisexual but now I admit I do get turned on watching gay or bisexual porn where as before I often ignored it because I wasn't comfortable with my bisexuality if that makes sense

[Newly_Bi]

Oh yeah, most straight people haven't got a clue how many times a person in a same-sex relationship has to edit him or herself in public, or how oppressive that feels at times. And don't even get me started on the heteronormative guilt I feel when I'm out with a woman, holding hands and kissing in public. I often feel like a poser, because I don't act the same when out and about with a man. Ugh! :(

I stopped giving a fuck what people think of me a long time ago and the day I found out about my attraction to guys, I told my wife. I am very open about it. Fuck other people, this is a free ass country, if I want to fuck a guy, more power to me. you know?

[joavi]

One of my fucked up pretend-boyfriend, came out in my name, and I hate it till today, and now my parents and both sisters know it
Your sex-drive it's very PSYCHOLOGICLY

[zigzig]

I have come out to my husband and few friends. Not easy, especially because I'm living in a religious country, and not all people accept it.

[IndyBiFun]

I have not outed myself to everyone either but I do agree with FredTYG. Like he said, for those of us that are middle age (myself included) and you realize your sexuality and accept it, you do feel like making up for lost time. I think about bisexuality quite often too.

Congrats to coming out and enjoy!

[jonibotom]

When someone asks me I try to tell the truth; that I am bisexual!