Being held...

[Emotional Masochist]

I don't really know what to say. It's not really a problem. Just an interesting moment I had with my girlfriend. she asked me a silly question last night and it made me laugh. She was snuggling into my shoulder while I was holding her. She looked up at me and asked," are you mad that I haven't held you in a while." I almost died laughing. It was so cute and ridiculous because she held me the day before. She just doesn't realize it. When we first started going out I came out to her as bi, I told her that get a little needy and feminine. she smiled pulled me into her arms and says that just means that every once in a while I get to hold you. It made me happy. But recently she has been sick as hell and so has been quite sucky. So I guess that's where she probably got the idea from but it just made me wonder how natural it has become for her. She doesn't realize the difference. :) I don't know. It just made me wonder if it could one day be that easy for the rest of the world to just get over our simple differences. Wouldn't life just be better if people just realized that it's just as natural to be held as to hold...

[elian]

I love affection and being held too. Ever since I was young - for all that I have and what I have become the only thing I have ever really WANTED in this world is to love and be loved - gender never seemed like it should be a barrier to love. It was only much later when everyone else tried to convince me that it was wrong that I started to feel guilt and shame. I am slowly coming back toward accepting myself fully. I know nature can be cruel at times but yes, I would love to be able to share that easily with everyone I meet. In a way people do, but it's sort of like the old song goes, instead of saying "I love you" they say "How do you do?" with a big smile on their face.

It's hard to think of it with all of the constant polarizing messages we hear all of the time from general media but I would like to think this song is still very relevant to human life: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m5TwT69i1lU

People say that love is weak, but in reality I don't know a more powerful force in the world.

[Realist]

That's one of my favorite all-time songs, plus, I've always liked "Satchmo". It makes me smile and a little bit nostalgic!

I'm a lot like you, Elian. I've always been more interested in caring relationships. I preferred those relationships to be romantic, but have enjoyed a few friends With Benefits, too. I would never have any involvement with a guy I didn't know well and trust, beforehand. I've never had a one night stand, or sex with any male stranger. I did have sex with a German woman I didn't know, when I was 19, but never did that again, either.

[kitten]

Being held and holding - be it hands, bodies(hugging or spooning for example) or just touching shoulders is a most powerful connection for me as wel.
That your gf was making sure you had what you needed even though she needs more right now due to the situation is incredible.
Thanks for sharing this tender moment with us!