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Ebonybifemme7
Sep 28, 2013, 10:26 AM
Got into a interesting convo with my lesbian coworker about dildo's and sex toys in general. She has a partner and she was telling me this is the first girl she's been with who's been with women before she was with her. She told me she has to keep flesh like dildo's to keep her girlfriends around. I haven't told her I'm bisexual (and have no intention on it whatsoever, just don't like talking about my sexuality at work, made that mistake before, i like to be somewhat of a mystery woman). I think women love sex toys period but ESPECIALLY GAY WOMEN!!!! She was telling me this bus driver approached her on the bus (we both take the bus at work, I work at a hotel) and asked her if she was bisexual. She said no way----I'm gay. He said that he had a fantasy of a woman using a strap on (said that he was bisexual). My coworker said she made a point to avoid him the next time she got on the bus and saw him, LOL. So much for honesty. I'm too shy to tell her that I go both ways. I could say that I'm gay, but that would be lying, since I know deep down inside I'm still attracted to men. I think there is no way that a woman can say she is gay and still be attracted to men. She has a girlfriend that she is gonna marry next year, and a stepdaughter. She is very very family orientated. She is more masculine but she has a femininity about her. I dont get how a gay woman could not be attracted to men but still want a dildo, which is pretty much just a penis, just a fake one. Theres a bi woman that i work with too. Sometimes I wonder if I am still somewhat homophobic even though I am bisexual. Cause sometimes I get scared using the bathroom around her, like she's gonna walk in on me. I really wonder about myself, just how accepting I am.

cornholejoe
Sep 29, 2013, 11:55 AM
well i am bisexual buy lately i am more into women than men mostly because i met this one who knows how to use a strapon and we do a lot more than just have sex

Gearbox
Sep 29, 2013, 12:15 PM
God, I thought my local busdrivers were forward, but that one could win an award.:bigrin:

I wouldn't worry about feeling uneasy sharing the bathroom around lesbians. With all the stories you hear you'd think that entering a bathroom means you're sexually up for it. It's paranoia more than homophobia, and I'm sure you could handle yourself if they tried to rape you.lol
Hope she doesn't carry those dildoes about with her in her bag though.:bigrin:

Swirl
Sep 30, 2013, 1:44 PM
Oh I wouldn't worry Ebony. It is ridiculously difficult to shake off all our societal indoctrinations, not to mention that we are works in progress. Perhaps I shouldn't say 'we' so freely, but I, at least, am ever evolving with many a stumble back, scratch of the head and eureka.