dseven
Aug 27, 2013, 1:32 PM
Hi everyone,
A month or so ago, I told my girlfriend (bellonya) that I wanted to have a fuck buddy, not just go and look for a "touch and go" each time I needed to have sex with a guy. After a while discussing it, she said that she would let me do it. And I said, that if she wanted to explore outside of our relationship, that she could do it as well.
I knew she liked a friend we share (Let's call him John), and after asking me, she kissed him and they started fooling around (nothing sexual, just kisses and stuff). And I kissed this guy, which happens to be friends with John (let's call him Greg).
Since bellonya was already friends with John, and there was sexual tension between them, everything started smoothly.
Now with Greg, things started going on well at first, we kissed, there was a lot of chemistry, but then he freaked out about stuff (my theory is that he's insecure about his sexuality) and now also he's dating a girl and it's likely that now nothing actually will happen between, at least until he sorts out what's going on inside him.
The thing is that, even though I trust bellonya and I love her very much (and I'm sure that she feels the same about me), I'm feeling incredibly insecure about her and John. The thing is that I can't stand them being together alone, I don't trust him to the level I have to trust him. I asked him if we (John and me) could hang out more, so we can get to know each other to a higher level thus allowing me to trust him, reducing my discomfort, but he is always saying that he doesn't have much time, we just hang out once a week when we play a role playing game (nothing sexual, it's actual role on paper).
But there's more, Greg is almost 17 (bisexual IMO, but confused about his own sexuality), Bellonya (straight) and John (mostly straight) are almost 18 and I'm (Bisexual) 22. I feel old and pathetic for hanging out with people 4 and 5 years younger than me. I was bullied and I didn't have friends that understood me when I was their age, I even tried to kill myself once and now I feel like life cheated on me and like I lost all those years of my life. The other day John had a date with another girl, which is my age, and I felt incredibly envious, not because he had a date (he's my friend, I should be happy for him), but because he is doing the stuff I was supposed to be doing, when I was his age. The fact is that I'm going through a tough time with low self steem and a lot of internal drama, which I'm trying to solve.
All of this makes me feel like shit and makes my mind say things like "they're probably having sex and laughing about you right now", which is of course ridiculous.
I don't want to tell her that she can't be with him, because I don't think it would be fair for her, she's been really amazing with me, she's the strongest most supportive person I know and I'm not gonna be the one who prevents her from doing what she's supposed to do at 17. So I asked her if she could just hang out with him when I'm around, which oddly enough doesn't make me feel that bad.
And please guys, I know some of you can be pretty hard when it comes to "unsupportive couples of bisexual people", but believe me this is not the case. When I met her, I couldn't say I was bisexual without breaking down in tears feeling despair and shame. Now, I go walking down the street with my bisexual bracelet (which she made herself and gave it to me), I've came out to almost everybody except my workmates and my parents (but I'm fine with it) and I now can proudly say I'm bisexual. So believe me, she is an example to follow.
Can you please give us some advice??
Thanks for everything
Hugs,
Dseven.
A month or so ago, I told my girlfriend (bellonya) that I wanted to have a fuck buddy, not just go and look for a "touch and go" each time I needed to have sex with a guy. After a while discussing it, she said that she would let me do it. And I said, that if she wanted to explore outside of our relationship, that she could do it as well.
I knew she liked a friend we share (Let's call him John), and after asking me, she kissed him and they started fooling around (nothing sexual, just kisses and stuff). And I kissed this guy, which happens to be friends with John (let's call him Greg).
Since bellonya was already friends with John, and there was sexual tension between them, everything started smoothly.
Now with Greg, things started going on well at first, we kissed, there was a lot of chemistry, but then he freaked out about stuff (my theory is that he's insecure about his sexuality) and now also he's dating a girl and it's likely that now nothing actually will happen between, at least until he sorts out what's going on inside him.
The thing is that, even though I trust bellonya and I love her very much (and I'm sure that she feels the same about me), I'm feeling incredibly insecure about her and John. The thing is that I can't stand them being together alone, I don't trust him to the level I have to trust him. I asked him if we (John and me) could hang out more, so we can get to know each other to a higher level thus allowing me to trust him, reducing my discomfort, but he is always saying that he doesn't have much time, we just hang out once a week when we play a role playing game (nothing sexual, it's actual role on paper).
But there's more, Greg is almost 17 (bisexual IMO, but confused about his own sexuality), Bellonya (straight) and John (mostly straight) are almost 18 and I'm (Bisexual) 22. I feel old and pathetic for hanging out with people 4 and 5 years younger than me. I was bullied and I didn't have friends that understood me when I was their age, I even tried to kill myself once and now I feel like life cheated on me and like I lost all those years of my life. The other day John had a date with another girl, which is my age, and I felt incredibly envious, not because he had a date (he's my friend, I should be happy for him), but because he is doing the stuff I was supposed to be doing, when I was his age. The fact is that I'm going through a tough time with low self steem and a lot of internal drama, which I'm trying to solve.
All of this makes me feel like shit and makes my mind say things like "they're probably having sex and laughing about you right now", which is of course ridiculous.
I don't want to tell her that she can't be with him, because I don't think it would be fair for her, she's been really amazing with me, she's the strongest most supportive person I know and I'm not gonna be the one who prevents her from doing what she's supposed to do at 17. So I asked her if she could just hang out with him when I'm around, which oddly enough doesn't make me feel that bad.
And please guys, I know some of you can be pretty hard when it comes to "unsupportive couples of bisexual people", but believe me this is not the case. When I met her, I couldn't say I was bisexual without breaking down in tears feeling despair and shame. Now, I go walking down the street with my bisexual bracelet (which she made herself and gave it to me), I've came out to almost everybody except my workmates and my parents (but I'm fine with it) and I now can proudly say I'm bisexual. So believe me, she is an example to follow.
Can you please give us some advice??
Thanks for everything
Hugs,
Dseven.