Question for anyone Bisexual and in a other sex relationship

[Ladycat]

So if your bisexual but in a steady relationship with a person from the other gender how do you satisfy your same sex needs?

Do you prefer it if you and your partner participate in same sex activities or do you find it makes you want same sex sex more?
Hope that makes sense! Basically I want to know if your a man in a relationship with A woman do you find she can satisfy your same sex urges through play or does her playing that way just make your urges for same sex stronger and she's better just sticking to vanilla sex?
Thanks

[hasty1]

Ladycat

Firstly, and I'm sure others will be along to give their views, but I would think that it's a personal thing. For some people porn,toys and imagination are enough, not so for others.
Secondly, the question is a bit loaded. You're asking how to manipulate someone's sexuality, I'm assuming so they will remain monogamous. I'm afraid that again, you really can't tell. These things are so individual and personal that any answers you get will only have limited value. It depends on a lot of things, the individuals desire to be monogamous, how committed they are to that relationship, who they've met recently and might fantasise about for example, and I'm absolutely sure that list isn't exhaustive. Sticking to vanilla sex could have the same effect as not, I've seen posts from bisexual men who are monogamous by nature, and unwilling to go out of their relationship saying that if only their partner would kink things up a bit it might help, I've also seen posts which seem to indicate the opposite, as you imply in your post.

From your other posts I would guess that you're talking about yourself, I do know what it feels like to be on shaky ground, but with time and communication things can settle down, it just doesn't feel like it at the moment. x

[Long Duck Dong]

I am in the unusual situation in that I deal with a number of differing aspects in my life that counterbalance each other and create a conflict and its cos of that conflict, that there is no * easy * option for me......

I am actually pansexual / omnisexual.... it just means that I am content with any person, regardless of their gender understanding ( trans, gender queer, gender undefined ) I can love them, hug them, hold them, kiss them and think the world of them as a person, without the need to assign them labels that they have to live by..... cos like me, they are people that are defined by aspects and not aspects of a person trying to live as a person....

I am more of a emotional person than a sexual person in that I do not find that a non monogamous / NSA lifestyle would work for me, but a non monogamous / closed relationship would.. I am generally more monogamous natured than non monogamous but the need for contact and connection with others can overwhelm a lack of interest in playing the groupie...

I am asexual natured, it simply means that I have a lack of a sex drive as people generally understand a sex drive.... however I was sexually active for 20+ years and did a great dealing of experimenting, in order to learn more about me and why I am the way I am...... I can use meds to artificially create a sex drive but the usage of any meds carries their own risk and the odds that I will develop a hypersexual nature is very likely.... its a curse and a advantage.. I am not controlled by a need for sex and therefore the need to justify my actions but by the same token, I do not feel the urge to have sex with a beautiful lady / gorgeous guy.. tho laying in bed, kissing and cuddling is very nice and if sex happens, it happens... lack of a sex drive doesn't mean that I am incapable of sex or understanding that others have needs as well

[bi4asplay]

As for me. When I a relationship with a lady I would love to be able to have a man come and play with us now and then. At other times I would rather the two of us play alone. It is very erotic for my lady to wear the strap on and make love to me with it a few times a month. Much more often that have some one else join in. Most of the time the most fulfilling is normal love making between two partners. I can be in a relation ship with a lady that is not OK with my playing with another man, no problem. However If she could not be comfortable with the strap-on and pegging me The relationship could not work for long.

[tenni]

Do you prefer it if you and your partner participate in same sex activities or do you find it makes you want same sex sex more?
I think that there will be variation as to the needs of the individual. If you think of your own sexual needs, after you have had sex(with opposite gender) do you want more sex? Usually, people are satiated for some time but for others it increases their need for sex.


I want to know if your a man in a relationship with A woman do you find she can satisfy your same sex urges through play or does her playing that way just make your urges for same sex stronger and she's better just sticking to vanilla sex?
It depends upon what the sexual needs of the man are.

Not all biguys want to be penetrated anally but some do. For some men, they need a real cock while for others the woman partner using a strap on works. It may (or may not) be the same comparison to a woman having a real penis in her vag as opposed to a dildo. If the woman enjoys using the strap on all the better. If she is repulsed by using the strap on, it may be best if the man is with a man sexually and separately fulfill his cross gender love making needs with her separately.

For some men, they just need another man's cock and they don't care about the rest of him. In that situation, it may be unimportant whether the female is there or not. For some other bimen having a cock and a pussy at the same time is heaven. For some of those men to have their wife with another man present is absolute heaven. The fact that both of them are enjoying each other and he is able to be comfortable to have her there is grand. I think for those men nothing could be better.

One important thing that we all need to remember is that there is not just one type of bisexual. Bisexuality seems to be a very wide umbrella much wider than any monosexuality.(hetero or gay/lesbian)

[Ladycat]

Thanks all. I thought I would play with my bi husband and pegged him, he really enjoyed it and so did I, but he enjoyed it so much it made his craving for the real thing worse.
At the moment in our relationship we are monogamous and he has never been with a man so whilst I know I can't alter his feelings I was hoping me playing this way may have fulfilled some of his cravings and helped us keep our marriage monogamous.

[cornholejoe]

well my late wife used to peg me and i liked it after she passed away dedcided to try it with a man i enjoy both giving and receiving anal pegging where its with a man or woman

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

So why not find out if he would like it with a man or not? There's all kinds of ways to find a Bi friend and give it a go. Both of you could have a Fantastic time, and he could see if he actually likes having a man or not..:}
Never going to know unless you try..
Good luck..:}
Cat