babloobla
Jun 18, 2013, 5:26 PM
This is my situation and I would like some feed back...
I am in a relationship,eight years, with a woman that is not entirely satisfying. I want out... but... for a long time I have suspected this lady may be bisexual too, and that her repression of this side of herself is hampering our mutual satisfaction, and if she were to open up to her bisexuality we could probably have an awesome bed time with each other and others, which could solve a lot of the disatisfaction that I feel.
O grew up very religious and as a teenager, by her own choice, joined a sect that was particularly strongly against unmarried sex. In this group she had a female friend, who is 'now' gay, and with whom she had a physical relationship and lived with, slept with, for several years. She has had other boyfriends but claims I am the first man with whom she has had a full sexual relationship. I am 46 she is early 50's.
She asked me early on in our relationship had I ever been with a man and I told her I had, and more than once.
However, I said, probably fearing rejection, and, partially because the urge was not strong, that at that time I was not wanting a man. That has changed, or rather I have come to accept that I have always been bisexual.
I also grew up sexually repressed with a religious background. I was afraid anxious and confused about sex and love, and had no idea how to talk about them let alone communicate my feelings to those I was interested in or attracted to. I was educated to believe that sex was not important, love would 'happen' when I was ready, and not to do it, unless married.
Eventually, after years of solitary sexual angst, at age 21, forces in me and life opportunities coincided and my sex life began, first with a middle aged man, and a couple years later a relationship with a woman closer to my age, and subsequently over the years I have swung both ways. For years I tried to resist and explain away my mm sexual experience as influenced by dysfunctional upbringing, and substance use. However now I am clean, sober and fairly balanced, and I still have desire for both the male and female sexes.
I think I am more clear than ever in my life about what I want... though I am not sure if what I have is it.
I watch O and how she looks at women some times. She looks at women like men look at women, studying their curves and the way they walk. O is a feminine woman but has a strong masculine streak, sometimes. Once at a greek restaurant there was a belly dancer and I swear O broke out in a sweat, when the dancer approached her, hips gyrating erotically. O glanced at me and made a face of (mocked) disgust.
What do you all think? Is my girlfriend bi? If so is there anything I could do to help her accept this. I feel that I need some bisex and I think we could have a good thing if we could both accept this about ourselves and each other.
Any advice?
I am in a relationship,eight years, with a woman that is not entirely satisfying. I want out... but... for a long time I have suspected this lady may be bisexual too, and that her repression of this side of herself is hampering our mutual satisfaction, and if she were to open up to her bisexuality we could probably have an awesome bed time with each other and others, which could solve a lot of the disatisfaction that I feel.
O grew up very religious and as a teenager, by her own choice, joined a sect that was particularly strongly against unmarried sex. In this group she had a female friend, who is 'now' gay, and with whom she had a physical relationship and lived with, slept with, for several years. She has had other boyfriends but claims I am the first man with whom she has had a full sexual relationship. I am 46 she is early 50's.
She asked me early on in our relationship had I ever been with a man and I told her I had, and more than once.
However, I said, probably fearing rejection, and, partially because the urge was not strong, that at that time I was not wanting a man. That has changed, or rather I have come to accept that I have always been bisexual.
I also grew up sexually repressed with a religious background. I was afraid anxious and confused about sex and love, and had no idea how to talk about them let alone communicate my feelings to those I was interested in or attracted to. I was educated to believe that sex was not important, love would 'happen' when I was ready, and not to do it, unless married.
Eventually, after years of solitary sexual angst, at age 21, forces in me and life opportunities coincided and my sex life began, first with a middle aged man, and a couple years later a relationship with a woman closer to my age, and subsequently over the years I have swung both ways. For years I tried to resist and explain away my mm sexual experience as influenced by dysfunctional upbringing, and substance use. However now I am clean, sober and fairly balanced, and I still have desire for both the male and female sexes.
I think I am more clear than ever in my life about what I want... though I am not sure if what I have is it.
I watch O and how she looks at women some times. She looks at women like men look at women, studying their curves and the way they walk. O is a feminine woman but has a strong masculine streak, sometimes. Once at a greek restaurant there was a belly dancer and I swear O broke out in a sweat, when the dancer approached her, hips gyrating erotically. O glanced at me and made a face of (mocked) disgust.
What do you all think? Is my girlfriend bi? If so is there anything I could do to help her accept this. I feel that I need some bisex and I think we could have a good thing if we could both accept this about ourselves and each other.
Any advice?