New ideas to spice up sex

[Ladycat]

Okay, I'm a newbie here but have been stalking the messages for some weeks now.
my husband has told me he is bisexual, due to all the talking about sex were having at the moment I can see that our sex life has become really stale and boring since kids so I think I need to spice it up.

so what I'm hoping you can help me with are some ideas, what a woman thinks turns a man on isnt necessarily what does so I need hints and tips from men.
He's not been with a man and his bisexuality is fairly new so I don't want to scare him off and turn up with a strap on or anything so apart from that what would you love your wife/female partner to do to you which would totally turn you on?

I did think of blindfolding and tying him up but have no idea to do.
Thank you from a nervous newbie.

[writersblock]

If I were him, you turning up with a strap-on would be exactly what I wanted! Seriously though, have you tried watching any bi porn together...?

[Mr. Suck]

Try talking to him. If my husband showed up with a dildo or strapon, which wouldn't happen since we're not into them I'd just laugh, shake my head, and tell him he wasted his money and to return it to the store. Also if he wanted to blindfold me and tie me up I'd just say no thanks. Just because a man is bisexual that doesn't mean that he's automatically going to want to take it up the ass or do anal sex at all.

[Ladycat]

That's the thing I don't want to scare him off or anything. He's still quite shy to the whole bisexual thing. It's something he's felt for some years but isn't ready to share with me what it is about men that turns him on. So I thought anal, strap on etc would freak him out ESP from me. But I thought there's no reason why we can't have straight fun :)
im thinking tying him up and playing with his senses, but have no idea what to do.
Give him a bj to remember, so I need tips on what you would like.
just anything really that he may like which is different to the normal vanilla sex we have.

[Realist]

Ladycat, everyone is different. What may arouse me, could be diametrically opposite to something that might excite him. As someone above said, not all bisexuals like to be taken, anally. Of course, some do. There's many variations that bisexuals enjoy, but not all enjoy the same things.

Communication might seem like a cliche` , but truly, if you could get him to tell you what turns him on, you'll be better prepared to ring his bell!

At least you're willing and trying to support him....he's a lucky man for that. I hope he's just as willing to try things you might want, too!

Good luck and have fun!

[Country Guy]

He is sooooo lucky to have you. The fact that you even want to try is a huge thing. I'm a bit envious, I wish my wife would try, she would rather ignore my bisexuality and hope it goes away. Like others have said, communication is all important. Go slow, society shapes us in ways we don't even realize, he might be having a tough time understanding/reconciling his feelings. But you could still blindfold him and lick him all over. :yikes2: Keep reading the posts here, there is a lot of really good information.

[OverNeath]

While you're giving him that BJ to remember,try some gentle massaging around the base of his balls and ass. Watch for a reaction. If you get a positive reaction,he may have some interest in exploring anal. If you get a negative reaction,move on and find something that does stimulate him.

[centillini]

first, what does he want to explore? like one said communication is key. rent or by a bisexual porn and watch it anddiscuss whats hot and not. wife and i did i and we love watching them and getting worked up. led to us being coser and talkin more and exploring new things.