Vague location in profiles

[bikurinpa]

Why does so many on here do not put a city location in their profiles, Like here in Pa, I see so many who's location just says " Pennsylvania". Pa is over 300 mi wide and 175 miles from S to N, covers a lot of area! Do they just not want any one to know if they are close? I would at least put a city of location in the description so people would have a idea where you are.

[elian]

I once asked a similar question about why people only show pictures of their genitals and breasts? One answer to both questions is that people will post here about their thoughts and desires but they aren't comfortable with someone recognizing who they are in real life yet. I'm actually not entirely comfortable with it myself given some of the very personal things I've shared on the forums but I guess at some point in your life you have to be willing to show who you are. All of us have both "virtue" and "vice".

Sexuality is a natural part of being human, and it is a shame that we have to feel a need to hide a part of ourselves but that just seems to be the way of certain societies. Could I look at my co-worker with respect if I knew he liked wearing a ball-gag or panties? Probably, because I know that he sexual preference has nothing to do with his work performance or how much he cares about other people but not everyone thinks that way.

People often feel strong emotions related to their self image. I always thought it would be interesting to go for a short while to either a nudist colony or one of those male retreats - not necessarily to be intimate with someone but just to get a different perspective. I mean if you're nude then you literally have NOTHING to hide and (hopefully would learn) nothing to be ashamed of - right? It would be an interesting experiment to try it for a week (hopefully when the weather is warm). I would definitely have to bring a towel though - if for no other reason than it makes for a more polite way of sitting on someone else's furniture.

[jackbirdjay]

Being discrete is because others will look at u different. I know this because I lived in another state and had to move. I was 19 working at the only job I could find at McDonald's. This guy he was 18, was hitting on me for a long time. Saying things like I need me big dick sucked stuff like that. In a small town u hear things. Any way we went to a party that one of the girls that worked there was having. Her parents were out of town. There was beer there because back the drinking age was 18. EEveryone was feeling no pain and pot was the thing back then. He and I went in to the near by woods to smoke one. One thing lead to another, I was on my knees sucking him when 2 others caught us started laughing and ran off. Of course by the end of the week everyone knew. They left notes on my car fagot's should die stuff like that so after about a week of that I moved to another state stayed with my cousin for about 3 months found a good job and got my own place. So now I am very carefull on letting others know about me. People can be mean.

[bikurinpa]

Being discrete is because others will look at u different. I know this because I lived in another state and had to move. I was 19 working at the only job I could find at McDonald's. This guy he was 18, was hitting on me for a long time. Saying things like I need me big dick sucked stuff like that. In a small town u hear things. Any way we went to a party that one of the girls that worked there was having. Her parents were out of town. There was beer there because back the drinking age was 18. EEveryone was feeling no pain and pot was the thing back then. He and I went in to the near by woods to smoke one. One thing lead to another, I was on my knees sucking him when 2 others caught us started laughing and ran off. Of course by the end of the week everyone knew. They left notes on my car fagot's should die stuff like that so after about a week of that I moved to another state stayed with my cousin for about 3 months found a good job and got my own place. So now I am very carefull on letting others know about me. People can be mean.

NEVER go into the woods and try do anything, When u think no one around, there will always be someone to come right up on you!

[jimv112563]

and if he or she wants to watch ok better to join in on the fun

[Annika L]

And I suppose Bikurinpa is your given name? Is that Russian? Or are there perhaps details about yourself (your name, for instance) that you don't wish to share with every member here?

You would put a city of location...others would use their real name and leave the location vague.

Not everyone here has a reason to want their location known, either exact, or to the city or (speaking as someone from "the Northeastern US") even state. For many of us, it just isn't relevant, since we aren't trying to hook up. We have loads of reasons for being here, and they don't all deal with your convenience of wanting to know whether we're close to you.

So respect the choices of each person to present whatever about themselves they think is relevant and appropriate...if someone omits their location and as a result doesn't get what they want from the site, trust that they'll eventually figure out how to correct the situation on their own (and if they're not smart enough to figure it out, trust that you probably don't want to know them anyway).

[void()]

And I suppose Bikurinpa is your given name? Is that Russian? Or are there perhaps details about yourself (your name, for instance) that you don't wish to share with every member here?

You would put a city of location...others would use their real name and leave the location vague.

Not everyone here has a reason to want their location known, either exact, or to the city or (speaking as someone from "the Northeastern US") even state. For many of us, it just isn't relevant, since we aren't trying to hook up. We have loads of reasons for being here, and they don't all deal with your convenience of wanting to know whether we're close to you.

So respect the choices of each person to present whatever about themselves they think is relevant and appropriate...if someone omits their location and as a result doesn't get what they want from the site, trust that they'll eventually figure out how to correct the situation on their own (and if they're not smart enough to figure it out, trust that you probably don't want to know them anyway).

I'll interject an amen in agreement with this sentiment. My wife and I married by a civil service, meaning no mention of any deity/ies. We did though have the service in her family's chosen church, a Baptist one. The officiator of the service was a judge offered a token fee and discrete explanation of our desire to not commit our marriage to any deity/ies yet a desire to respect familial tradition. He really was no too concerned with needing an explanation.

And it's the same premise here. My wife knows I'm bi. Her dad obviously does as he's read over some of my transcripts in order to help guide us in living. My wife accepts me as is, her dad follows suit because I shall not hurt his daughter. There's no drama or conflict involved. My being bi is not cause for either. So, if I'm vague it is an act of respect, for myself and others. It's the same through and through.

No, I'm not the sort to bullhorn from rooftops. Those who need know, do, those who don't need know, likely don't. I also enjoy being vegan, eating peanut butter, watching tear jerker movies, listening to classical music at times, sometimes when alone I cross my eyes to read cuneiform. Does anything in the following sentence matter to anyone, in any significant way? Unlikely. Do I tell folks? Not often, if at all. If asked I might own up, depending on who is asking and how, why. Do you know how many peanut butter eaters were targeted by squirrels and elephants for assassination last month? Millions, I tell you, millions! ;)