Shazam
Feb 25, 2013, 12:45 PM
Most porn videos suck because they lack meaningful dialogue between the actors when they are engaged in sex. Their only utterances are limited to “Ohs”, “Ahs”, “Ums” and “Yeses.”
Most of us are similarly impaired when having sex. We don't communicate or are not articulate enough. My experience has been that the whole sexual process is greatly enhanced when we really communicate better; and by “communicating better” I mean talking dirty and explicitly to one another while “doing it.” Though we may have lost our physical inhibitions when sucking a cock or taking it in the ass, there often remains some residual inhibition to talking about the very act we are engaged in. By talking about the action, two senses in addition to that of touch - speech and hearing - actively stimulate the brain, our most important sex organ.
Some hints? First, do talk while doing it, but don't limit your words. State what “that” action is that you enjoy . . . and describe it fully. If, for example, you enjoy your partner licking your balls, say something as he or she is licking, but not just “I like that”. Say, “I love the way you press your tongue hard against the root of my cock and then swirl it around my balls (or something similar.)”
And instead of just asking your partner “Want me to finger fuck your ass?”, and letting him or her get by with a simple “Yes” response, try this: “Would you like me to slowly slide a lubed finger gently up your ass?” Then insist they respond by repeating your query thus: “Yes, I want you to slide a lubed finger gently up my ass.” Each party should repeat the entire phrase of the other, not just respond with a
simple yes or no. Making them repeat the words gets them all the hornier as they "buy into" the action.
Work all of the “dirty” words you can into your commentary: cock, pussy, cum, asshole, suck, fuck, etc. Talking dirty is good. I guarantee the experience will be better for both. But remember never to talk with your mouthful.
Most of us are similarly impaired when having sex. We don't communicate or are not articulate enough. My experience has been that the whole sexual process is greatly enhanced when we really communicate better; and by “communicating better” I mean talking dirty and explicitly to one another while “doing it.” Though we may have lost our physical inhibitions when sucking a cock or taking it in the ass, there often remains some residual inhibition to talking about the very act we are engaged in. By talking about the action, two senses in addition to that of touch - speech and hearing - actively stimulate the brain, our most important sex organ.
Some hints? First, do talk while doing it, but don't limit your words. State what “that” action is that you enjoy . . . and describe it fully. If, for example, you enjoy your partner licking your balls, say something as he or she is licking, but not just “I like that”. Say, “I love the way you press your tongue hard against the root of my cock and then swirl it around my balls (or something similar.)”
And instead of just asking your partner “Want me to finger fuck your ass?”, and letting him or her get by with a simple “Yes” response, try this: “Would you like me to slowly slide a lubed finger gently up your ass?” Then insist they respond by repeating your query thus: “Yes, I want you to slide a lubed finger gently up my ass.” Each party should repeat the entire phrase of the other, not just respond with a
simple yes or no. Making them repeat the words gets them all the hornier as they "buy into" the action.
Work all of the “dirty” words you can into your commentary: cock, pussy, cum, asshole, suck, fuck, etc. Talking dirty is good. I guarantee the experience will be better for both. But remember never to talk with your mouthful.