bi female and cross dressing male

[amazon]

I'm kind of new to this whole world and so is my partner. I am a bisexual female. My partner is a newly come out xcross dressing male. She is really girly and flirty and I am not. I am definitely more aggressive and will be dominant in this relationship. I'm wondering what might please her, but not scare her due to her new found self. I don't think a strap on is the way to go right off the bat.

[leo_theprince]

hey, i have dated two CD's before...what pleased my girls were treating them like real ladies...u can acknowledge their penis during sex but most dont like to....i would definitely use the strap...ohhh they do like head!! lol

[LonelyLeo469]

Well she is obiviously assuming a more feminine role. With you wanting to be the more dominate partner it seems to me that you using a strap on is not far fetched. the best advice would be to just ask her what she wants.

[bityme]

Introduction of a strap-on is fine, however, start out small. Since you are in a relationship, you want to make it pleasurable for him so he will want more. Too large and you cause pain; not a desirable circumstance when starting. As time progresses, you can slowly introduce more length and/or girth. The caution is always the same. No injury! No pain! Lots of Lube!

[elian]

All of the advice given here was good but I just had to comment because It is always interesting to see that somehow the universe makes a way :)

By the use of your description your partner identifies as female (I had to ask because there are some men who like to wear female clothing but still identify as male).

I am sure there are other toys you can play with too! Romance is probably going to be your friend. The way you touch her, the way you hold her...all of those things can fulfill erotic desires and needs for both of you.

If you enjoy being dominant..I also keep thinking about androgony - the idea that you might reach a point in lovemaking where you connect in a transcendent way and at the same time lose yourselves in each other so much that external sex characteristics just don't mean as much for a little while.

Is it hot in here?? damn hormones.. :blushes: :grins:

[tenni]

Elian and the OP raise questions in my mind. The OP uses the feminine pronoun. Do you use that with "him" only when he is dressed or all the time?

I've been with only a few guys who liked to wear the odd feminine clothing. None of them saw themself as female. It was pure play and fantasy.

How do you know that you are dealing with a man who likes to wear women's clothing and perhaps use a female name while role playing and not an emerging transwoman?

[elian]

Well the good news is that there is someone for everyone.

Actually I have to say that one of the most exciting things I saw one time was a long flexible dildo with a head on each end..it was being used by male and female at the same time..perhaps this is not pertinent to the thread but they really seemed to be enjoying themselves.

I am not going to look down on anyone since I've often had fantasies about being desired. If all things were equal and no one would judge us in public think I like both, a man who identifies as male who is still moaning with pleasure at having something stuck between his legs is just as hot to me as a trans person who wants to be loved beyond their physical characteristics.

I guess it's just a part of learning to love people for who they are as a person and not just what is between their legs..if the attraction and chemistry is there, why not?