thinking your hetro or homosexual when your really bisexual

[biblkman]

I sometimes wonder how many bisexuals have been labeled homosexual and have been wrongfully influenced and encouraged by society, family and friends to accept that they are homosexual or heterosexual.So many hetro and homosexual people try to tell bisexuals your either one or the other. I wonder how many outed bi men and women got confussed and decided they were homosexual due to outside influence, and later realized they were bisexual the whole time, some men come out as gay thinking that even though they are attracted to women and love having sex with women that they must be gay cause they are attracted to men as well and make a mistake of comming out as gay when in fact they are bi same goes for women.I know when I was confused about my sexuality I thought the same way , that I was gay and suppressed my homosexuality or I was just a confused hetro man and this was just a phase of curiosity.I'm glad I didn't come out as gay and I'm glad I stopped suppressing my m/m curiosities.I gave myself time to figure out who I really am, and I'm still learning about myself.I guess my point is...that I know there has to be a lot of bi people who thought they were homosexual cause of society. Just something I've been thinking about. What's your take or have you done this.

[Gearbox]

As a teenager I was VERY confused about what I was. All those male friends I played/experimented with beforehand had quit boys and just stuck with girls. So I didn't have much choice than to do the same. But even though I liked girls, I still liked boys. I couldn't honestly call myelf gay or straight, and I kinda thought something was wrong with me untill I heard about bisexuality.lol
It's as if there's a law that you have to pick a side around 12yo, so I did. I only acted on my lust for females (even when masturbating) and tried to supress my lust for males. So if I was asked, I'd have claimed to be heterosexual. I knew I wasn't though. But as I wasn't acting on those m-m thoughts, it seemed ok.

I've heard many gay men say the do the same. They have an attraction to females, but don't act on it because their male attraction is stronger and they are happy being just with males. So no point calling themselves bisexual, even though that's what they realy are.
Curiously, not many would accuse them of living in denial. But try being a male who only ocationaly sucks a cock and claims to be heterosexual.....:rolleyes:
Oh dear me, NOPE can't do that!lol

I have considered calling myself gay, just to make things easy for me. I'm dead sure that it would! But I've had enough of trying to fit in with hetro and homo binary bullshit in my time, so won't bother making things simple for anybody again. But I can understand why some others do.

[BiPhone]

I think many men and women label themselves as gay/lesbian since it is so much easier to explain to society in general. I am all for self labeling and I am even all for people taking the easy way if they feel that is good for them. I know a lot of gay-leaning bisexuals who come out as gay. There is one norwegian stand up comedian who came out as gay during the premiere of his show a few years ago and he actually re-came out as bisexual some time later.

[Herculoid Poirot]

I always knew I was bi, but I certainly felt the pressure to be gay or straight. People seem to really want things to exist in polarity: male/female, gay/straight, etc. I'm sure many of us have had the experience of people telling us we don't exist. I don't? You should be in my mind when I'm watching reruns of the X-Files. This comes from both the straight and gay communities.

I remember watching the "gay cowboy" movie Brokeback Mountain and one of the guys was clearly bi and not gay but that idea wasn't discussed.

Neither is the fact that spitting once on your hand would never give you enough lube to have spontaneous gay cowboy sex in subzero temperatures, but that's another complaint all together...

[tenni]

I didn't know the word "bisexual" existed for quite some time. I talked to gay guys and compared what they thought to what I was feeling and thought. I knew that I was not exactly like them. Many did not want to have sex with women. Those that tried sex with a woman would say that they didn't enjoy it and definitely not as much as with a guy. All said that they never were in love with women even those who had been married. I knew that was not me. For quite awhile I thought that I couldn't have emotional attachment to men but just women. I realized that I could. It was just slightly different than my emotional attachment to women but just as valid. I have asked myself if I am gay and the answer has remained no even though I now primarily have sex with guys. It is my choice and not necessarily my preference. My emotional attachment to women has been far too strong to deny my attraction to women and to men. Strangely enough, I do not want to get fucked by a guy and I am not really turned on by sucking dick. I do enjoy other m2m contact though.