Would any woman be with a bi guy if she knew right from the start????

[Mugenracing]

Hi everyone, New guy here been looking for someone to talk to but dont have anuone i wanna talk to about my deep personal life, Im still trying to figure myself out i guess, Im white male 26 years old 6ft have a great career an successful. But the last two years have been an interesting roller coaster, Had a girlfriend of six years up untill dec of 2011 be unded up splitting apart. Im not sure what my sexual status is but my guess is bi with no experance if that makes any sense. Its all started around late 2009 was seeing this woman an our sex life was kinda dieing she was very closes minded an didnt want to do much outside of norm missonary sex. well it got old to me an hard to stay attracted to her the sex was becoming less often an not much passion an besides i had a pocket pussy to get me by. I really wanted to do anal for the first time to her but she said never in her life will that happen an it didnt. I told her one night im loosing intrest an im considering finding someone who can handle my needs. she wanted me to stay an she wanted to try an spice things up so we ended up going to an adult store which was hard for her she felt porn was nasty an degraded women but non the less she got her first dildo an sexy panties an stockings an handcuffs an flavored lubes. So that was fun for a month or two an things went back to norm no intrest an not much sexual action for 3-4 weeks before our next hookup an still no anal. Me i have a high sex drive an i love women the smell the taste there smooth bodys there amazing. so one morning i woke up before work an what extremely horney. So i grabbed my toy pussy an started going to town wile watching a dirty movie. I got a weird urge to try anal with my finger my gf said if id do it she would let me do it to her which i didnt agree on. But how bad can it be?? SO i started with a finger an it wasnt bad at all.. At this time i wasnt aware of the male G spot. So a few days later i considered going bigger i seen her use her dildo on herself an it looked like the vibe function made everything 10x better so after 15 min of considering it an getting the confadence i got it out of her dresser while she was at work an insurted it into myself an begain my first anal experance. it hurt but the orgasm was so incredable i never touched my cock an i blew a huge load it was amazing almost. After that day my mind was at work i had to check it out again an i did an it was great, Still not having sex with her since she wasnt interested i became more open to ideas an the thought of i can do most of what she can do i checked out her lingerie a few times an it was very crazy feeling sexy an enjoying using her toys i coulnt figure out what was wrong with me i was kinda freaked out by this why is this happening wh dont i find this all odd???? i found out about the male g spot an became ok with the idea my gf had no clue of my actions an i didnt know how to tell her or if i should?? Few months went buy an i tried to not do any of that stuff again i didnt know what to think about it an one day i came home from work an she was gone i checked her dresser an found she bought a new replica didlo that was massive it looked like a real guy stitting there i was shocked she got one an i wasnt made aware but also kinda turned on idk why i was but the thought of seeing here fucking herself with that was so sexy. Well a few days went by an i couldnt stop thinking about that no idea why im thinking this stuff but i got home an got her new toy an started looking it over it felt really real i guess no room to compare but it was interesting i had to try it an i did it was fucking huge but the feeling of it once inside me i was hooked this is awesome being able to cum without ever touching your penis is amazing an the fact i wasnt getting sex from my girl well it evened everything out. Finally after going thro a year of us getting off on the same toys an her having no idea she finally cought on as i became more an more careless of putting thing back the way i got them out of her dresser an she started noticing things till one day i was confrounted she asked me if i had been getting into her personal stuff i said " Nope why do you ask?? I have no use for that stuff im not gay" She dropped it but knew something was up.my mind kept racing week in an out all i could think about was am i gay?? I really dont like guys i just like the sexual part im very much into women so i googled stuff about maybe being bi an she snooped when i wasnt home i had forgotten to clear the history one night an she found the google searches an again i was confronted by a devestated woman cry her eyes out wanting me to tell her its not true i hold her most everything an it wasnt up for decussion i was asked to move out asap. No if ands or butts.... So that sucked ended up back on my feet an 6 months later got together with another woman who said shes very open minded an dosent judge so i figured thats a good base to try an build something off of so we dated an for the first 4 mo i tryed to keep my deep secerets hidden one night she was perfoming oral an slipped a finger into my ass an asked if i like that kinda thing i said no i have never done it im not into that stuff out of fear of what may happen. She said well you better get used to it, Which i was thrillded to hear so a few weeks an one finger turns into two then she trys talking me into letter her use her small vibe on me an i pretend i dont wanna but she talks me into it meanwhile in my head im having a blast. She wakes me up one night with something against my lips i wake up an its another life like didlo she bought on the way home from work she didnt get home till 2am most nights. Sh she asks if i wanna give it oral an by this time im letting my gaurd down an feel i have found a woman who dosent care about this sexual stuff so i say yes an i start sucking this large toy she has held against her like it was her cock then after 15 min or so she wanted me to get naked an bend over the bed im so damn horny i didnt skip a beat im naked in nothing flat an she lubes this thing an starts fucking me an asks do i like it i reply yes!! so she goes harder an harder asking do i like it?? I said yes i want that huge cock to fuck me an cum in my mouth i was just talking dirty but it was obviously too much she stopped an ask what did i just say?? I said othing just being dirty....She said ummm no thats way too far an aked you want a guy inside you?? I said no i was just in the moment she tossed the dildo in the garbage an asks me to sleep on the couch she said she was creeped out an needed to think again a day later i was asked if i may be bi i said no i dont think so i have no intrest an i dont fine males attractive just the penis. She asked me to move out after that.... So that has been the battle for the last two years kinda a long story im sorry but why does this keep happening to me im not bi technically but yes i have odd intrests would a female date a guy if he said right from the satart hey im bi?? Or what i dont know how to fix this do i just hide my intrests the rest of my life an knock this stuff off?????

[Herculoid Poirot]

Absolutely some girls would be willing to be with you knowing that you are bi. My wife knew I was bi before we met.

But here's the thing: YOU have to figure out what YOU want to do first. Do you want to experience being with a guy? Do you want an open relationship? Is having a woman use sex toys on you enough to satisfy your desires? She'll want to know where she stands before she gets involved.

A relationship can work but you have to be honest with yourself and your partner.

[Annika L]

Hi there and welcome to the site. My advice is simple. First, stop worrying about "what it means". "It" means nothing more than it is. You enjoy certain kinds of stimulation, mental and physical. No woman (or man) *should* hold that against you...and you're far, far from alone...but many people *would* hold it against you, because so many people are hopelessly uptight about sex...and some of the most uptight actually *share* your proclivities. Anyway, the point is that it doesn't matter whether you're bi...you like what you like for whatever reason. It sounds like you like women...at least one who'll have sex with you more than once a month (and frankly *I* wouldn't be with a woman who'd only have sex once a month...at least not exclusively)...so if you really feel a strong *need* for a label, then it sounds like you're somewhere between bi-curious and straight-with-kinks. But labels only describe...you already know what you're like, so I don't see the need for a descriptive label for it.

So my first piece of advice (in a nutshell) is relax and continue to explore what you like.

The second is to continue to do your best to find women who are open-minded about sex...genuinely open-minded, not just talking the talk. There are lots of us out here. If I wasn't already happily partnered, *I*'d be one of those women who could be happy with a bi guy...*especially* if I knew at the outset (it's hard having your image of who your partner is shaken after a period of time...to learn that things have been being held back). So continue to be honest with women...if they're going to reject you, because you have kinks...hey, you should want to know that up front, rather than after a few years of dating...or marriage!!

But the hiding it or knocking it off? Self-destructive and unrealistic. Self-destructive to hide any part of who you are...if you really liked Thai food, why would you stop having it just because *some* women are really turned off by Thai food? (and y'know, if two women leave you because of your preference for Thai, it's going to start feeling like *no* woman will like a man who admits to enjoying Thai food...but obviously that's not the case, right?) Unrealistic to just knock it off...if you have sexual needs that aren't being met...let's just say that the truth will out eventually...and it's much easier to deal with those truths *early* in a relationship, rather than months or years in...if people can deal with them at all...and some can't, but again, you don't want to be with those people anyway!

I hope this makes sense. Good luck!

[Mugenracing]

Thank you for your advice its really helpful. Yea Im not sure what I want I do know I have found it a turn on to give Oral an do anal with fake toys a Month ago I decided I wanted to see a real cock in person an see if I have any feeling pop up. So I met this guy online chatted for 3-4 days an finally met up on a friday nigh, we met at a public place an chatted for a few then went to his place I bearly got in the door an I had a bad feeling I shouldn't be there so he said he was gonna go shower if I wanted to join the doors unlocked I went for a smoke an bailed I felt really bad an led him on. But I couldn't do it having a woman use a toy on me is way less intimidating .. but I felt that wasn't fair to base a judgment call off of saying I don't like guys an I never really tried so last week I repeted the same talked a few days met up in public went to his house an hung out for a few again I was terrified an wanted to go he went into the kitchen to grab us more beer an I was considering leaving an he cam back an was standing behind the coutch naked he cleared his throat an I turned as he was coming around the couch an all I seen was a massive face full of thick limp cock!!! An OMG did I get hard... He stood in front of me an said I can do whatever I wanted. I grabbed that massive limp cock an stroked it a felt it pulse an grow an get closer an closer to me it was crazy. He asked if I'd suck him an he would do the same but I asked if he had condoms an he said no I don't Like them I do oral an anal all the time without them an we won't need them.. I played with him a bit an called it a night he had no proof of being checked an I don't need to get anything so being paranoid an safe I called it a night..

[magic669]

Honestly, I think you need to get your own ideas together before you engage in any more encounters with men. Obviously men are turning you on, but you seem so conflicted about it that you are setting yourself and others up for some bad situations. Accept that you are attracted to men. There is nothing wrong with that. You may be equally attracted to women. That is good too. I have been bisexual all of my life. I love men and I love women. Both turn me on. What's important is being able to be honest with yourself and others about where you are. The significant people in your life need to know what you are about. They need to make their own decisions about if they can roll with you or not, but that is their call, not yours. Without openness and honesty, you are doomed to a string of scary, anonymous encounters that will leave you feeling like a monster. "To thine own self be true."

[Mugenracing]

Hummm very very deep words there an I get what your saying. Good point I think I should think about this a little deeper an I get the acceptance part I agree 100%. Thanks.

[zigzig]

I understand, that trying out another gender is different, because people have 2 virginities - for men and women. Later you will lose the shyness!

[Long Duck Dong]

Thank you for your advice its really helpful. Yea Im not sure what I want I do know I have found it a turn on to give Oral an do anal with fake toys a Month ago I decided I wanted to see a real cock in person an see if I have any feeling pop up. So I met this guy online chatted for 3-4 days an finally met up on a friday nigh, we met at a public place an chatted for a few then went to his place I bearly got in the door an I had a bad feeling I shouldn't be there so he said he was gonna go shower if I wanted to join the doors unlocked I went for a smoke an bailed I felt really bad an led him on. But I couldn't do it having a woman use a toy on me is way less intimidating .. but I felt that wasn't fair to base a judgment call off of saying I don't like guys an I never really tried so last week I repeted the same talked a few days met up in public went to his house an hung out for a few again I was terrified an wanted to go he went into the kitchen to grab us more beer an I was considering leaving an he cam back an was standing behind the coutch naked he cleared his throat an I turned as he was coming around the couch an all I seen was a massive face full of thick limp cock!!! An OMG did I get hard... He stood in front of me an said I can do whatever I wanted. I grabbed that massive limp cock an stroked it a felt it pulse an grow an get closer an closer to me it was crazy. He asked if I'd suck him an he would do the same but I asked if he had condoms an he said no I don't Like them I do oral an anal all the time without them an we won't need them.. I played with him a bit an called it a night he had no proof of being checked an I don't need to get anything so being paranoid an safe I called it a night..


honestly, you sound like you need a partner that is willing to walk with you as you explore your sexuality and interests, a partner that is willing to let you learn and define your understanding of yourself and your sexuality.. and that can be a lady with experiences and interests of her own......

you know what you are interested in and want to experience but it does sound like you are hitting a few walls along the way, and you are definately not the first person to do that.....lol.... so a lil advice would be to enjoy the chat room here, get to know people and a feel for things with the other members, not always in a sexual sense but on a friendship level as well... and you may just find that some lady may show a interest in getting to know you more... and of course, in this site, we are mostly open minded and reasonable people.... and thats generally what we seek in other people as potential friends and / or partners

[Realist]

Mugen, You wrote..........." I asked if he had condoms an he said no I don't Like them I do oral an anal all the time without them an we won't need them.. I played with him a bit an called it a night he had no proof of being checked an I don't need to get anything"

This is one reason why I insist in knowing anyone and developing rapport , before I'm intimate with them. If I don't feel safe and comfortable, I won't continue with anyone. I'm a life-long bisexual and did this long before AIDS was known.

I agree with the advice above, to get to know yourself, before attempting to connect with another male. Sit down and write out the things you'd like to experience, then look for that person who will help you (at least) experiment with those things. Don't settle for less than you want, or you will never determine what gives you the fulfillment you seek.

Good luck!

[tenni]

" He asked if I'd suck him an he would do the same but I asked if he had condoms an he said no I don't Like them I do oral an anal all the time without them an we won't need them.. I played with him a bit an called it a night he had no proof of being checked an I don't need to get anything so being paranoid an safe I called it a night.."


I agree with magic699. You need to work on becoming comfortable with your sexual attraction to cock and accept it about yourself.

Starting with another newbie may be helpful but the guy who wouldn't use condoms seems to have treated you fairly imo. Did you get him off? If not that is too bad unless he was ok with it. I am guessing that you didn't get off? (too bad) I think that you are not completely comfortable with yourself yet. Try again with some guy and let him know that you are new.

Realist's point is valid but many do not take this much precaution. You mention that you played with his cock. There is a fair bit of play that you can get into with cock 2 cock play. Sucking dick without a condom is something that a lot of guys do without getting a disease. Anal is a different situation. Do a little more research on this. You can seek out a guy who is as cautious as you seem to want to be though. I suspect that it is your discomfort with yourself that is putting up these barriers ie condom for oral. You have now played with cock and you seem to enjoy it.

I am inclined to think that many women do look down on men who enjoy same sex play. There may be women out there with more accepting and open minds but I suspect that they are not the majority. Biphobia about men is rather strong. Depending upon what you enjoy most (suspect anal) you may find a woman who will accommodate your needs with a strap on, dildo etc. Will she permit you to play with another guy's cock without her present? Something to think about.

[Mugenracing]

Yes we got off I finished myself an let everything go all over my stomach. An I got him off hands only an let him give me a facial, he was packing a huge load it was very attractive. But out of fear I kept my mouth closed an he licked my cum up off my stomach no qquestions asked. I asked him dosent that bother you? You never even asked if I was clean of for proof? He said I'm a gambler ill take my chances... Weird... I am clean an did have proof at home its just odd some ppl are really not worried....

[tenni]

Mugenracing
You seem to have enjoyed yourself. Are you considering getting together with this guy again or do you consider him too high risk? Again, research the chances of getting HIV from oral sex and other STD via oral sex. Compare this to anal sex transmission chances.

Do you hold women to the same standard of expectations? Do you ask them to wear a dental dam before oral sex? Do you ask them for "proof" before having sex with them?

Although it is understandable that you have concern about STD, there are things that you may do other than demand a condom for oral sex. It is always each person's choice. Some guys may refuse to have oral sex with a guy who insists on condoms. It goes both ways and each person is responsible for their own behaviour.

[Mugenracing]

Yea it was fun. I wanted to suck an swallow him but outa not knowing risks an fear I didn't. Yea I ask women to but I don't think a woman would be honest if she did have something I seem to fly blind with women an really not care... Given they can give me horrible things as well funny how I seem to have standards that are completely different per sex... But I didn't deal any desire to go back to this guy he kinda freaked me out being careless I just wasn't 100% comfortable maybe its lack of experience or maybe I'm rushing an need to do things one step at a time not all in one night I don't know....obviously I need to start reasurching this stuff an get a better understanding of what I want. Maybe a guy friend is needed

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Oh Hell yeah. Imagine the fun you could have if Both of you loved interacting with men or other couples even.
Be truthful right up front and you could find one Very special lady.:}
Good Luck Hon.
Cat

[NakedInSeattle]

She is and she did.

[hiswife]

I haven't read all the replies but my tidbit is- absolutely ! I am straight yet have met two men on a bi/gay website that are amazing. One I have not yet met met- just talk everyday, the other I have enjoyed and would do again if the opportunity arises. AMAZING sex. My husband is bi yet he is distracted by anything I find enjoyable and loses an erection.. That's a self esteem killer! I like anal- nope he can't do it with me ..I'm not boasting (well maybe a little) but I have a very nice round smooth tight ass that he doesn't enjoy but rather a mans tight ass. Anywho- I'd be open right off the bat and admit to any perspective women you are bi so you don't find yourself in the same situation down the road after putting time and feelings into the relationship. Maybe search bi dating sites. :) GOOD LUCK!

[Mugenracing]

Thanks everyone for the advice. I had 3-4 dates over the last month an all went well an I had in fact informed them the next day of my sexual intrest just said I was slightly bi curious an all 4 stopped all contact with 4-6 hours soo obviously that didn't work. Is there such thing as a website were women are looking for a relationship with a bi male??? Pretty sure eharmony don't have that. Hahaha

[Long Duck Dong]

try this site, lol

every person is different and its the same with bisexuals, some would like the casual hook ups, some want a 3 way relationship etc etc... and so telling a person you are bisexual, is not telling them what you are seeking in the relationship....... and so when you say bisexual, some people can immediately think that you want a partner that is going to be ok with you going off with other people for sex and that it can be a unspoken rule that your * rights are not infringed upon.....

some people are agreeable with that, as long as they treated like a partner, with respect and honesty, others are not as ok with it... and a big part of the issue, can be their understanding of the way that bisexuals behave, and the talk of dishonesty, infidelity etc.... something that may be true of some bisexuals, but its not a bisexual trait, in the same way that bi phobia is not a heterosexual trait....

while being open and honest about your sexuality, can be a good move, its also a difficult one when it comes to internet dating, as you are trying to catch the eye of a stranger online with a few words... and that is why I suggest the chatroom here, there is more interaction and more chance to move in the circles of like minded people that may become interested in you as more than just a chat friend and potential casual hook up and I apply that to the guys and ladies equally

[suckmedry]

Most gals are not cool with dating bi guys for many reasons. Some think you have an STD, others are just bothered that you can have sex any time with another guy. I have found very few are cool with it. Best bet I have found is to only date other bi gals. They have understanding how it feels to want some sex with the same sex and that is completely different from the other. So you not going to dump them and decide to join the other team when the sex slows down.

There are other sites that might work better for ya age range. In addition, try going to bi friendly bar. In my area, there are several bars like that,

Oh.... be glad your ex girlfriend showed here true colors before you got married and or had kids. Then you would really be stuck using the flesh light all time. Just ask the many guys on here who in the closet about that with their wife's.

[Mugenracing]

Hey everyone its been awhile so I figured id update thw world on the last.month or two. So I found the upfront approach.its tought but.not.impossible I found a bi.girl who loves bi guys an we really get alo
g great watching porn an such. Were gonna have our first threeway soon an share our first cock together. I showed her photos of me sucking my guy friends an she loves them shes helping bring guys home for us to tear into. Its truly awesome not having to lie to your other half or live in fear of them finding out. So I suggest anyone who is hiding like I was to ope. Up an get rid of the road blocks in your life an have fun. You only live once live for what makes you happy

[Long Duck Dong]

glad to hear that you have a partner to share experiences with.... it can make it more of a enjoyable experience when you are sharing the experiences with a partner that you were honest with, rather than a partner you were trying to rebuild the trust with,......

coming out and being honest is not easy... but there are times where being honest, allows the right partners to come into our lives and share our lives

[abbyntom]

Yes my husband and I were up front from the get go, both of us ar BI!
Abby

[elian]

So the girl you were with, the one who loved to play with you the way you wanted to be played with is no longer an option? I can understand that you were afraid and unsure of yourself but if you were honest with her and told her you liked those sorts of things maybe she would still help you? OR maybe she just liked the idea of it being naughty and being dominate..

If by some chance she asks you again, be honest - tell her that you sort of like it but you need more "practice" to see if you can figure it out. (smiles) Gay has very strong connotations to a lot of people and they will assume that there is no female attraction whatsoever..

The first adult relationship I had with a wonderful woman ended when I told her I thought I was gay. She said, "You're not gay, you just had really shitty role models growing up" - and she was right but I was so young/inexperienced at the time, I didn't know that bi was an actual preference.. I might've still been able to date her but I was also going to college more or less full time and working so I thought it was unfair that I couldn't spend as much time with her as I thought she deserved.

I don't advertise that I'm bisexual to just anyone but I advertise it on dating sites because I figure it's a lot easier that way. People can see everything right up front, there doesn't have to be any awkward hiding of things. If they don't like it then we don't have to waste each other's time. The few women that I've met have been bisexual themselves so they sort of understand what it's about.

If they feel uneasy about bisexuality I tell them what it means to me - that I am more interested in the whole person rather than just what is between their legs.

Not every person is satisfied this way but what I really want out of a relationship is lifelong companion. I've tried some things, some of them were fun, and some weren't. As a result of that experience I'm fairly confident that I would prefer having a dedicated loving partner to spend time with. I can't imagine being 75 years old and STILL trying to figure out if we can hook up on the weekend "whenever we have time".

[elian]

Ah good I just read your update - I'm glad you found a positive experience and a healthy sex life - human beings can be very curious and creative. Anal isn't for everyone but I think more guys would try it if they knew they might get multiple orgasms.

[traveler65]

Too bad you are so far away, I am definitely one of those women who would not mind!

[void()]

My wife of thirteen years knew two years prior to getting hitched. So I guess there are some who would.

[void()]

Not every person is satisfied this way but what I really want out of a relationship is lifelong companion. I've tried some things, some of them were fun, and some weren't. As a result of that experience I'm fairly confident that I would prefer having a dedicated loving partner to spend time with. I can't imagine being 75 years old and STILL trying to figure out if we can hook up on the weekend "whenever we have time".

I await a nice windfall to one day have some land and a home. It will be a home for three people in a loving relationship. Hopefully, you will be one of the three people. I genuinely is my desire to take you as a husband and still have a wife. She would be alright with that too.

You two get along well enough I do not foresee any serious issues. You may have minor quibbles at times over who's turn it is to cuddle up with husband. I'm sure paper, rock, scissors or flipping a coin can decide that. Also, I may just have a 'me' evening and choose sleeping on a sofa. I am after all thirty three and third of each popular label, homosexual, heterosexual, and misanthrope.

But I also feel the pain in the waiting for the windfall. Unlike Ozzy, I think there are few things in the world I'd change, not that the world could change me. I'm always going to love you and her, always be here. And yes, I'm willing to let love have open doors. No jealousy, only love. It makes me happy to hear you going out with others. :) It truly does. Because I know you're finding some happiness and in loving you, I want you happy.

I'll just grumble about social economic inequity, and geographic separation quietly in my little corner. That gets frustrating. Because I would have our home as soon as I could, would that it was able. I miss 'being here' in the flesh. That's part of love. Being able to know the pain of distance, still love. Well, I need to go now. I'm hearing Bittersweet Me by R.E.M, keep writing here I'll likely end up a mess.


P.S. Still want try _Reach for the Sky_, Am thinking making love whilst it plays would be a beautiful event.

[NjbiGuy01]

A woman I was very serious with before meeting and marrying my wife told me recently that "she had no problem if I wanted a male lover, because it was something I can't give you and I want you happy". We didn't marry for various reasons, but I do sometimes wonder about the "if's" for sure....She also told me that she "fantasized about two men pleasing her at once". Geez, why weren't we more open then !!! I'm married to a wife who understands I was bi, but am happy living the life we have (and that's mostly true), and she's married to a dude who doesn't give her sex because she reminds him of his mother....ouch. So, it is certainly possible to find a woman who understands and would be open to a bi male partner.... strangely, my wife and I got fairly drunk and mildly stoned and she got soaking wet asking me about my past encounters as a bi swinger....yet, she has no interest in pursuing that.... :(

[**Peg**]

I await a nice windfall to one day have some land and a home. It will be a home for three people in a loving relationship. Hopefully, you will be one of the three people. I genuinely is my desire to take you as a husband and still have a wife. She would be alright with that too.

if *I* won a lottery Ben, I'd make sure you 3 got your chance at the brass ring - I love happy endings... or beginnings... or middles for that matter ! :)

[Realist]

Me too, Peg. I'm an old softy, when it comes to lovers being happy together. Long distance relationships are frustrating, at best. I, too, would like to see Void and Elian and DD and LDD together and settled into a warm, loving relationship for the rest of their lives. Over the last 4 years, I've seen others make a connection and as far as I know, they're doing well. I know you, Peg, recently began a new relationship. I also met the love of my life, here, and I've never been happier!

So, best of luck to you all!

[**Peg**]

...I know you, Peg, recently began a new relationship....

thanks, D... and yup I got married last October :) life is very sweet right now and I want all my friends to be as happy as my new hubby and I are !

[elian]

Glad you guys are doing well!

I reckon Void has treated me about as good as any man CAN treat someone - he is kind, generous, considerate - I know if we could be together physically he would be very affectionate as well - I do love him a lot. The circumstances/long distance make it difficult but he is truly a good guy - sometimes I wish he would give himself a little more credit because he has come a long way and I am a better person for having him in my life. He has helped me grow in very important ways...

Life is a lot easier when you know you have someone cheering for you. (big HUGS)

[stonebow]

Yes, there are women who would want you knowing that you are bi....bi women primarily, though I'm not discounting the possibility of very open-minded straight women as well.

My lady and I disclosed our sexual history to one another at about the fourth week of dating. I knew then that I could truly be myself with this woman, but had no idea she would raise that to a whole new level by introducing me to all of her FWBs. The chemistry between us turned out to be amazing and her FWBs soon became mine as well.

Before we met I had had the occasional hook up but nobody that I cared to spend any time with in a non sexual context. She changed that and it was only geography that interrupted the polyamorous lifestyle that we developed with these good friends.

So don't give up hope....the right woman IS out there somewhere...and probably wondering if there is a man who can accept her as SHE is.

[void()]

if *I* won a lottery Ben, I'd make sure you 3 got your chance at the brass ring - I love happy endings... or beginnings... or middles for that matter ! :)

Oh wow. I'll hope for you to win then as my wife, practical sort she is never plays any more than the scratch tickets once in a blue moon. I do not fault her logic in this exactly but it does make me wonder if we'd not have already had the windfall if she chose otherwise.

[void()]

Glad you guys are doing well!

I reckon Void has treated me about as good as any man CAN treat someone - he is kind, generous, considerate - I know if we could be together physically he would be very affectionate as well - I do love him a lot. The circumstances/long distance make it difficult but he is truly a good guy - sometimes I wish he would give himself a little more credit because he has come a long way and I am a better person for having him in my life. He has helped me grow in very important ways...

Life is a lot easier when you know you have someone cheering for you. (big HUGS)

The best I am is reflected in you both, honey. I love you both dearly. I fuss at myself sometimes because finding good ways to express that is difficult. I think if I were a better person it would be easier. And I love you for your flaws as well as your better attributes. In fact, despite your flaws you've treated me quite well and honestly shouldn't be chiding me for discrediting myself, you silly mirror. :) (HUGS & Cuddles)

[wifekinky4husband]

I would not have married a bi guy back in those days because I felt like in a new marriage we needed to focus on each other without any distractions, besides I wanted all his sex he wouldn’t have had time for anyone else. Now that I am older and have an established routine so to speak or more importantly, I have found what rocks me world sexually, I would have no problem marrying not only a bi male but a very active bi male. I have been getting turned on more and more by mmfs where the ladies help the males have at it. I love to watch ladies help their man get F ed or suck c***. It is AMAZing and I’d love to take part in it again. So if my husband ever went that route, I’d be up for it.

On a side note, even early in our marriage if there was ever anything I was not giving my husband sexually or unable to give him that he wanted I would never have a problem with letting someone help me out. A prime example of that would be cumming down his throat or cuming in his a**, both things I cannot do but would let other lend a helping ….

[dick_pumper]

I've posted on a few forums about issues I am having with my current wife. She was fine with fingering my anus but one night I suggested maybe a dildo and she flipped out and said that only a gay guy wants a dick in his ass and asked me if I was gay because she couldn't take that. So I told her no, I was just kidding. Well I recently met a woman online and we have been talking about everything under the sun and I said, " I want to be up front and tell you I like having my ass played with>" So she asked if I meant spanked? And I said no, like fingered or fucked (I had used dildos with an ex gf before the wife). So she asked if I liked dildos and vibrators, and I told her yes but I also want to have a guy fucking me. She was quite for a minute and I figured well that's it for her. And she says to me. Her biggest fantasy is to be with a bf/husband while he gets fucked and she watches. So we have talked about what I would do and I told her I was Bi and would like to suck dick as much as eat pussy. So she said she is ok with that as long as she knows who I am with (Not restroom hookups type thing) and that it's not another woman unless she is there as well.
It doesn't look good for the wife at this point. But this woman lives on the other side of the country so until we can meet I am not going to divorce the wife yet. But I am looking for men while stuck here.

[indybimale2012]

Holy Hell!!! Paragraphs are your friend!!!!!:tongue:

[ErosUrge]

well, I didn't read every single post for this topic but read a good many of them...

I will only add that there is no doubt it's difficult for a bi male to be honest with a woman right from the start and have her still remain interested. I know there are women who accept bi men and others who are willing to be involved with a bi man and allowing him to fulfill his appetites with the same sex as well as participate with him too...and I know of many that are this way but they're already involved with a man. Some of these are couples that I get together and play with at times...yet again, they're already involved with someone.

I have been up front right from the start for many years now but I have yet to meet a single woman who was willing to accept this part of me and make a go at having an involved and significant relationship. After all these years, it is somewhat discouraging as I was convinced years ago that I would connect with such a woman. I still trust that I will but there are days that I do wonder. Still, I would rather remain up front and honest about it than to hide the fact that I'm bi. I've already been through that and it's a miserable existence; at least it was for me. How some guys can live with themselves year after year without revealing it to the women they love is beyond me....

Anyhow...that's about it...still wanting a woman who can relate this way...

[VZR1800]

My wife of 18 years sounds much like the OPs girlfriends. Good old fashioned missionary, man on top get it over with quick. Always made me wear a condom, which I hate. Wearing a condom, I typically cannot ejaculate. Grows boring fast, and the sex becomes infrequent. Like him I have had a lifelong fascination with sticking things up the back door and enjoying it immensely. I would never tell her about it either. We separated seven months ago, and until last night had not had a sexual encounter with anyone. Met up with a 20 year old college guy last night. Drove to a secluded place, and when he unzipped I did not hesitate one moment. Put my head down there and engulfed him. In five minutes, he went from flaccid to grabbing my head and shoving it down to the pubes, released a really nice load down my throat. I came in my pants, hands free. LOL, got to love it. Being 20, I asked and he said he was clean. Damn the torpedoes, full speed ahead. It was awesome. Will I do it again? Yes. Will I be with a woman again? Yes. It is what it is, I enjoyed last night like I've not enjoyed one in a long time. It was intoxicating, the smell, the feel of his cock growing hard in my mouth, the taste of his cum. Hot stuff. I will never again settle for a woman who is fixed in her ways. If that means no more woman, so be it.

[mature_cpl_arkansas]

my wife and i met knowing from the start that i was a cock sucker.