Confirmed

[shyjim99]

Hi everyone, I have been hiding in the background for quite some time reading and taking in your many thoughts and opinions. I just want to share with you my first Bi experience. I posted this in another site for their perusal and I want your opinions, advice, or warnings as well. Thanks for the time.

Today was the first day of my new life.

I have been corresponding on line with a very nice guy who shares a lot of similar interests with me for the past month. We finally agreed to meet today at a diner to see if we were comfortable enough to expand our relationship. Thank goodness for the great and patient waitress who continually filled our coffee cups over a period of 3 hours. We got along so well we couldn't stop talking. We became instant friends. He has a house very close to the diner and invited me to go home with him to continue our talk. Needless to say, I said yes and proceeded to follow him home.

He was in a gay partnership for the past ten years that broke up recently, so we were alone. He was well aware of the fact that I was bi-curious and had no previous experience so I figured and hoped something might happen between us. Let me tell you, it did! The moment he put his arms around me and pulled me close to him I knew this was exactly what I needed and wanted for so long. The feelings and emotions that were released in me confirmed that this was everything I have been dreaming of. I cannot describe how right it felt. It didn't feel wrong or dirty, it just felt right and natural.

I am a kisser and a hugger and believe that there is no such thing as intimacy without doing so. He is as well.We kissed and hugged and caressed each other for what seemed for hours.I cannot describe how much that turned me on. Sexually he was amazing and very skillful and was very patient with me as I struggled to touch him in response to his affection towards me. After taking him in my mouth for my very first time I knew this is what I have been waiting for and missing for my entire life. It was just wonderful. The softness, the hardness. the throbbing, the taste was something I could never have imagined. You have to experience it to understand how good it is. We made love for over 4 hours.

I hated to get up and leave but I needed to get home. I cannot wait until Friday to be with him again.

Today was the first day of my new life. I am a confirmed bisexual and love everything about it.

[HappyHedonic]

Congratulations! Your experience was similar to mine...back when I was "bi-curious", I wondered if my lust for men was just misplaced horniness brought on by Internet porn corruption, but when I was finally with a guy that I kissed and sucked, it was an epiphany for me that this was right, this was good, and and that I was truly a bisexual.

Welcome to the club.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Clapping.* Very nice Darlin. Glad you had a fantastic time..:} Play often, but play safe.;)
Cat

[Solar]

Makes me think back to my first time totally engulfed. I was the DJ at a party at a nudist club and totally sober all night. My wife was just a party girl that night. After closing down for the night I decided the party group needed some "adult" supervision. I grabbed the one lady, who was a total stranger to me, and put her over my shoulder and carried her to our place. We sat there just looking at each other. Finally, we got rid of our "chaperone" and the sexual energy just exploded. I began by sucking on the girl's boob. It soon escalated into her boyfriend fucking my wife. This is when I opened up and put my mouth all over his dick supplying lubrication for his dick pummeling my wife. I eventually ended up giving him a blowjob and I loved every minute of it except I decided I didn't like pubic hair in my mouth. Total strangers that became friends for life. The best part for me was exploring my bisexuality and finding out it was real, it truly is what I am and enjoy it and not ashamed to admit it. The one thing I learned from this was, as much as I didn't like body hair in the way, I pay to have mine waxed off. Feeling my feminine side, I leave a little landing strip just because. I am remarried now to a woman that wants me to be a woman so who knows where we might go?

[ErosUrge]

Glad to hear you enjoyed it so much and that you're at peace about it all. It's a very meaningful experience when you realize and more accept your sexuality for what it is. I wish you the very best.

[shyjim99]

"The best part for me was exploring my bisexuality and finding out it was real, it truly is what I am and enjoy and I am not ashamed to admit it."

"it was an epiphany for me that this was right, this was good, and that I was truly a bisexual.

That just about sums it up. Thanks Solar and HappyHedonic

I enjoyed my second liaison today and all I can say is it was as good or better than the first. My new found buddy is simply amazing in his ability and patience to guide me through this discovery process. I can kick myself for waiting so long to drop my inhibitions and fears.

Thank you everyone for your kind comments.

[12voltman59]

Well big time congrats are in order. What you found what seems to be a relationship, after leaving the "starter gates" in exploring your bisexuality--that is really something great and kind of rare----I have to say that even though I have met some "nice guys" and have had good relations with them beyond only the sexual----I have not found anything like you have beyond mostly the sex part.

You are most fortunate--I do wish you all the best in this new relationship. It sure sounds that things are going quite well. If only we could all find such a relationship whether the person is male or female or something "other" since we do have the factor of our trans "brothers/sisters" as well.

[Bisexual Explorer]

Shyjim, Great story. You should send your post to all those who write about how worried they are about having their first bi-sexual experience. I bet that you were more than a willing pupil. That's a very big part of the experience. My first male partner was more than happy to "teach" me, a naive, but willing pupil. I've been able to pass it forward twice and would be happy to do it again.
Bisexual Explorer

[shyjim99]

I was much more naive than you can imagine. I was just plain clueless about what to do and how to react. I was frightened to death that I would feel ashamed and degraded and would never be able erase the "bad" memories from my mind.I was very fearful of giving up my macho manhood. I was trembling with fear and anxiety. Needless to say, the moment he placed his arms around me and held me, something went click in my mind and body. That very instant, I felt a warm rush throughout my whole body and became immediately relaxed and open to his touch. He took control and eased my fears. There just was not anything dirty or wrong about it. Like I said in my original post, "it just felt natural and right" He is a wonderful and patient man and very skilled teacher. I didn't go into this with a blind, lustful,sex thrilling,get my rocks off attitude but instead I was hopeful I would find a steady, honest, friendly relationship withe the proverbial "Friends with Benefits." I believe I have been successful.

As far as the Gay vs Bi vs Straight thing is concerned, I have to place myself in the Bisexual category label. I love everything about women but I now find I can love men equally as well. Men and women all have their different characteristics, emotions, and nuances but the bottom line is we are all air breathing, blood pumping through the veins creatures who desire and need each others nurturing and loving. Sex is great, but without the emotional ties, I don't think you can ever be really fulfilled. You can call me a romantic, but a warm body to hug is a wonderful thing, be it a man or a women.

[ErosUrge]

not to rain on your parade...but I do want to introduce another side to this. First of all, I congratulate you on your discovery and how well it worked out for you and wish you many years of success and pleasure in your intimate moments with men and women for that matter.


But I do want to speak up for men such as myself who are not interested in being emotional and sexual with men. I do want to say that I don't think you're trying to say that being with men emotionally and sexually is the best way to be though it works for you this way.

The men I am sexual with I enjoy purely for the sexual experience. I do have friendships with these males but we aren't really close as in going out and hanging out together. I wouldn't be opposed to something like that with certain men, but overall, it isn't part of my experience; yet. Still, even if I did get closer to a male that I was sexual with, I don't have it in me to want any more than just the sexual friendship. My closest male friendships don't involve sex. It's just the way I am and have always been. And it just so happens the men I am sexual with feel the same way. And though I adore women and would want a significant relationship with one, I still would not be able to give up my hunger for male sex.

By telling you these things, I again want to say that I am not trying to discourage you in any way and think it's wonderful that it's all worked out so well for you. I guess I just wanted to add that there is another side to the tapestry of bisexuality which I feel you're aware of. Though it might not appeal to you and isn't for you, I think it's necessary to clarify. And though we might not have the depth of experience you're having, we are content with this kind of arrangement.

[shyjim99]

Don't worry, I didn't get wet. No rain on my parade.

I don't believe I said anything argumentative,combative,disagreeable or condescending or in any way try to convey that bisexual sex for the purpose of sex only is wrong. If you enjoy non committal, non emotional sex play, that's great. Good for you, you have my heartfelt blessings. I merely expressed my feelings and outlook concerning my present situation. If you need to speak up for men such as yourself that's o.k. and good for you for doing so .I just don't see what it has to do with my narrative.

In all of my "straight" life, I have never pursued women for the mere purpose of using them for personal sexual satisfaction. Although I never did, but I can see that if one feels so horned up and in need of sex, one could always find the favors of a hooker or a "ship in the night" so to speak.

When ever I was interested in a woman I would always court her, establish a friendship, and if we were amicable, form a mutual trusting and loving relationship first before there was any intimacy.Sex is so much better and rewarding with the emotional aspect in it. That's who and what I am. Why would I or should I change my convictions in regards to my bisexuality.

When I discovered and accepted my bisexual needs, I pursued confirmation the same way as I did with woman when I reached the age of discovery. I met and spoke to many men I met either through internet dating sites or through friends and did not just jump into bed with them just for the sake of satisfying my sexual urges. I wanted much more than that. I was patient and discerning and waited close to two years before I met my present friend.

Guess what, I have many long term both male and female great very close friendships that don't involve sex. It is not necessary to show me the other side of the tapestry of bisexuality, I am quite aware of it. Whether or not it appeals to me makes no difference, I think you just missed the point of my post.

If you feel you have to stand on a soap box and shout out your thoughts concerning what bisexual sex is, feel free to do so. Start a new thread and speak your peace.

My post was about my experience and my experience only and I was just sharing it with other like minded people. It's intention was never meant to, nor do I believe it did, cast a negative disparagement towards bisexual relations.

[ErosUrge]

wow!....well, you certainly didn't say anything "argumentative, combative, disagreeable or condescending", and my comments never implied that you did. I apologize that I offended you as it certainly wasn't my objective. And agreed, my comments have nothing to do directly with your narrative. I wasn't trying to convince you to change your perspective or your approach in the least. And I think that it's very special that you do approach relations in the manner you do. I too have had such moments in my life with women.

I too have many long term friendships with men and women that don't involve sex at all. What I did say was that "there is another side to the tapestry of bisexuality which I feel you're aware of." I am not standing on a soap box 'shouting' out my thoughts concerning what bisexuality is. I was merely describing what my own experience is. It was not intended to suggest it was superior to your experience or anyone else's. I'm just one of the many who happens to be bi and we each have our own way of living this way however that might be; no better, no worse. And we each do the best we can to find our way to express it too.

No, you did not "cast a negative disparagement towards bisexual relations"; not at all. I just had some thoughts to express about my own life. This is after all a forum. I absolutely meant no offense and am sorry if I indeed did offend you...

[shyjim99]

touche

I guess my emotions are overflowing. I sir, embrace you.