curious and hesitant

[liberia]

Hey.. I'm 25 male, curious and not at all out about it.

I often find myself fantasizing about having sex with one or multiple men, but I can't find the courage to try it. Part of the hesitation comes from how I feel after masturbating to gay things; I feel like I've somehow done something wrong and let myself down. I don't feel this way when I think about/watch straight acts/porn etc. I have the impression that it would be something I would regret forever, not because of the experience in itself, but because of what I am 'committing.' Feels like degradation etc, but tends to lessen when I am aroused.

Has anyone else experienced this? Did you go forward with it? How do you feel if you did? How to get by this emotional block?

Any advice or help would be appreciated!

[falcondfw]

I know I felt the same way. I was raised Evangelic Baptist, so it was definitely a taboo.
How I got around it was, I let the pressure to do it build and build. Finally, I met 2 guys in a chatroom and invited them over on the spot. Not the smartest thing to do. But I didn't give myself time or opportunity to back out (again).

[Long Duck Dong]

spend some time just sitting and thinking about why you feel you have done something wrong...... its not uncommon for people to feel they have done something wrong but the majority of people actually have no idea what they feel so bad about.....

for some its the taboo aspect, for others its the way they were brought up and then there are things like religion teachings, fear that they may be gay or even things like anxiety disorders......

if you can work out what it is that *blocks * you, it can make it a lot easier for people to help guide you on a path where you can break thru the block without creating other issues.... and by that, I am referring to some people I know that had guilty feelings about their interests and the counsellor they saw, was a fuckin head case....now the people have gone from feeling guilty about what they did, to seeing people as control freaks and manipulative people for making them feel quilty....something that nearly destroyed one guys marriage, thankfully him and his partner are seeing a different and better counsellor and enjoying a more open and honest lifetyle and marriage

[fredtyg]

The vast majority of bi and homo guys I've run into have had the same feelings early in life, myself included. I repressed my sexual attraction to guys in my late teens and early twenties. It would usually take a few beers to get loose enough to go after guys. The next morning I'd always feel guilty, feeling I wasn't supposed to be doing guys and hoping none of my friends or acquaintances found out what I'd done.

Similar to you, I'd also feel guilty when I'd be sober and jack off thinking about guys. Once I'd cum, I'd feel ashamed and tell myself I wasn't supposed to be jacking off thinking about men.

I'm not sure what changed me, but it was after an encounter with a guy in a motel in my mid- 30s that I realized I enjoyed sex with men and didn't feel guilty about it anymore. Perhaps it was just part of being more mature, having more confidence in, and actually liking myself for what I was.

It wasn't until about ten years after that I fully embraced my sexual attraction to men. I think that had a lot to do with getting my first computer and finding like minded guys on the internet. Then I realized I wasn't alone in my desires. They were normal for others, just as they were for me.

Probably the best thing you can do is seek out and stay in contact with other guys who are sexually attracted to men. Venues for bi and homo chat abound online. Hopefully, that will give you an alternate "peer pressure" to let you feel comfortable with your sexual desires. That worked well for me.

[cornholejoe]

have some bi sex and then check your feelings on wheather you liked it or not