jumptheshark
Aug 22, 2012, 8:44 AM
Hey guys. Forgot I had this account, and now seems like a good time to come back with an over-complicated self-pitying post, so here goes :eek2:
I've recently broken up with my boyfriend, 4 days ago. We've said we'll stop talking for a week, then see if we can remain friends. I was a virgin with both men/women until I was with him, and although we did have sex in our 8 month relationship per say, it was only a few times and I never finished. We also didn't do oral, or anything like that. It was mostly making out without the extra fun stuff that it should lead to. I understood to a point, because we had nowhere to go, to be alone. But we did go on holiday for a week. Alone in a room, I thought here we go then. We tried, it hurt him, we stopped. Then nothing else apart from a few hand jobs. He reckons I was too big for him and we can never have sex because it hurts too much. He also has hang-ups about being physical due to his ex. I was a bit disheartened, I was a virgin before him and wanted to experience everything with this guy that I really care for. I asked about oral as an alternative, but he paused for far too long that I had to say yeah, it isn't working. He kind of understood, he knew I wanted to experience more like he already has with his past boyfriends. So that was that.
I still love him, but know it was the right thing if we were hardly going to have any sort of sex life. I've already missed out on so much (don't even get me started on never being with a woman :() and didn't want to waste any more time. My question is; am I in the right here?
I'm also meeting up with a guy that I met online for, want of a better word, a shag. I'm meeting him in person first, then we've talked about getting a hotel room next week and, well, you know. I'm treating it as fun, and it feels exciting, something my ex never was. He was never spontaneous, then talking to this new guy he's complimenting me, saying I'm cute, and we're both horny as hell. Have I left enough time between breaking up with ex and doing this? I know we're not together any more, but I feel a little bad.
Just trying to make sense of the new situation I've found myself in I guess. It took my so long to find my boyfriend and feel comfortable with him. Sigh.
I've recently broken up with my boyfriend, 4 days ago. We've said we'll stop talking for a week, then see if we can remain friends. I was a virgin with both men/women until I was with him, and although we did have sex in our 8 month relationship per say, it was only a few times and I never finished. We also didn't do oral, or anything like that. It was mostly making out without the extra fun stuff that it should lead to. I understood to a point, because we had nowhere to go, to be alone. But we did go on holiday for a week. Alone in a room, I thought here we go then. We tried, it hurt him, we stopped. Then nothing else apart from a few hand jobs. He reckons I was too big for him and we can never have sex because it hurts too much. He also has hang-ups about being physical due to his ex. I was a bit disheartened, I was a virgin before him and wanted to experience everything with this guy that I really care for. I asked about oral as an alternative, but he paused for far too long that I had to say yeah, it isn't working. He kind of understood, he knew I wanted to experience more like he already has with his past boyfriends. So that was that.
I still love him, but know it was the right thing if we were hardly going to have any sort of sex life. I've already missed out on so much (don't even get me started on never being with a woman :() and didn't want to waste any more time. My question is; am I in the right here?
I'm also meeting up with a guy that I met online for, want of a better word, a shag. I'm meeting him in person first, then we've talked about getting a hotel room next week and, well, you know. I'm treating it as fun, and it feels exciting, something my ex never was. He was never spontaneous, then talking to this new guy he's complimenting me, saying I'm cute, and we're both horny as hell. Have I left enough time between breaking up with ex and doing this? I know we're not together any more, but I feel a little bad.
Just trying to make sense of the new situation I've found myself in I guess. It took my so long to find my boyfriend and feel comfortable with him. Sigh.