Is anyone here intrested in a relationship with someone of the same sex

[Ebonybifemme7]

It seems that people on here are only interested in having threesomes and group sex with members of the same sex but not really interested in really getting to know them (not that there is anything wrong with threesomes and group sex cause I know that straight people and gay folks do that too). I'm a bisexual woman but I'm more interested in women, having something one on one with a woman, but there's a lot of cock in here (LOL). A lot of men on here message me wanting to have threesomes with me and their wife, or a threesome with another man. What is the deal? Are people on here only interested in the same sex on a limited sexual basis? Nothing long term or emotional? Is this why gay and straight people stereotype bi people?

[Ebonybifemme7]

Not true, look harder. I'm in a same gender relationship and there are others here who are in same gender relationships, or who are looking for a same gender partner. Bisexuals get stereotyped by gays and straights because some gays and straights are highly biphobic, practice bisexual erasure, and are bigots.


Yeah I've been looking for a long time and it hasn't been very easy for me. I usually get people who message me on here that are just interested in sex. Not that sex is a bad thing but it would nice if someone would message me on here who was really interested me in, know what I mean.

[dick_pumper]

In my situation I am a Bi married male, whose wife has no interest in sex other then our Anniversary, while I would rather it 3 times a week. I love her but we are roommates at this point and financially we can not divorce. Add to this mix, is that fact that I am Bisexual and have such a strong desire to be with another male, but I want more then just a F@*k, with all the shit out there I want to find a nice guy who I can connect with and become true friends, that actually sleep together. I figured here I would find that special someone.

[The Bisexual Virgin]

In my situation I am a Bi married male, whose wife has no interest in sex other then our Anniversary, while I would rather it 3 times a week. I love her but we are roommates at this point and financially we can not divorce. Add to this mix, is that fact that I am Bisexual and have such a strong desire to be with another male, but I want more then just a F@*k, with all the shit out there I want to find a nice guy who I can connect with and become true friends, that actually sleep together. I figured here I would find that special someone.

Just tell your wife your true feelings,sweetheart. Then if you are lucky enough she might leave you without divorcing you. Or you could always separate, and tell her the reason why you are separating.

[DuckiesDarling]

Just tell your wife your true feelings,sweetheart. Then if you are lucky enough she might leave you without divorcing you. Or you could always separate, and tell her the reason why you are separating.

amazing. those not in relationships keep telling others to leave a long time relationship... really just amazing.

Pumper, you do need to try talking to your wife but I would not suggest you just up and leave especially since you said you and she are not in a position to divorce. Is there a chance you can try counseling, does the wife have any medical issues that might have changed her patterns or was this ongoing through the marriage? Are you able to try different things to spice it up?

[Gearbox]

Well I hope I can continue with the romantic tone of the thread ....:rolleyes:......:tongue:..... when I say that I'd love to have a male partner. For more than my record 6 weeks hopefully. YES! I'm amazed too that no man can stick me for longer than that. Maybe women have lower standards? Or I'd take more crap off a woman?:confused:
Well anyway, I think I can be more honest with a man, and that's probably where I'm going wrong. But at least I give it a go.lol

[ExSailor]

I'm not interested in a same gender relationship since I already have a male lover. My female partner and I do enjoy having 3 ways and orgies though. This is a sex site blackgirl so don't be too surprised when you encounter most people just wanting to hook up.

[DuckiesDarling]

Well I hope I can continue with the romantic tone of the thread ....:rolleyes:......:tongue:..... when I say that I'd love to have a male partner. For more than my record 6 weeks hopefully. YES! I'm amazed too that no man can stick me for longer than that. Maybe women have lower standards? Or I'd take more crap off a woman?:confused:
Well anyway, I think I can be more honest with a man, and that's probably where I'm going wrong. But at least I give it a go.lol

LOL Gear, to me it should always be the person not the gender that is the telling difference in how long a relationship lasts. I have a dear friend on here who's last two partners are female but she is bisexual, not a lesbian,a bisexual and if something happens with her current partner... it's a partner she'd look for not someone of the either the same or opposite gender just a partner. Keep looking, hon, I'm sure someone is right there waiting to be noticed.

[The Bisexual Virgin]

amazing. those not in relationships keep telling others to leave a long time relationship... really just amazing.

Pumper, you do need to try talking to your wife but I would not suggest you just up and leave especially since you said you and she are not in a position to divorce. Is there a chance you can try counseling, does the wife have any medical issues that might have changed her patterns or was this ongoing through the marriage? Are you able to try different things to spice it up?

What!?! Me being in a relationship or not being in one has nothing to do with this man.There are ways he can leave his wife without divorcing her. I gave him a helpful suggestion, and pretty sound advice.

[DuckiesDarling]

What!?! Me being in a relationship or not being in one has nothing to do with this man.There are ways he can leave his wife without divorcing her. I gave him a helpful suggestion, and pretty sound advice.

not really, you didn't help at all, you said maybe she will divorce you if you are lucky...

[Gearbox]

LOL Gear, to me it should always be the person not the gender that is the telling difference in how long a relationship lasts. I have a dear friend on here who's last two partners are female but she is bisexual, not a lesbian,a bisexual and if something happens with her current partner... it's a partner she'd look for not someone of the either the same or opposite gender just a partner. Keep looking, hon, I'm sure someone is right there waiting to be noticed.
I've avoided some women who I think I'd be happy with, and it's because of the bi stuff I'd be subjecting them too. But I expect men, even gay ones to just take it.LOL.
So I know I AM at fault there. Your friend has got it right!:)

[The Bisexual Virgin]

not really, you didn't help at all, you said maybe she will divorce you if you are lucky...

I said leave him without divorcing him. Read it again,sweetie. She could just easily get up and walk away.

[12voltman59]

Blackgirl---there is one type of bisexual male that is pretty common----the guy whose only goal to come to a site such this one so he can hopefully arrange to have a Female-Male-Female, 3-way sexual tryst and that is all---he has no desire to do anything at all with another guy--and the only sort of bisexuality he wants any part of is "for two chicks" to be getting it on in his presence since, "that is so hot."

For me---I really am not interested in having a MFM--since for me--my bisexuality is working out that I want to either have sex with another guy or sex with a lady--but to not do do that at the same time.

As far as having a deeper relationship with another guy beyond "a friendship with benefits"---I am surely open to that. I am more open to that now than I might have been a few years ago.

[Volley]

Yes I do.

[Paddarick69]

during my separation from my wife (two years through a year ago) I was lucky enough to enjoy the infamous MMF threesome (can we say INCREDIBLE?) but alas they were merely on vacation here and after that they were gone away... I was very open at that point to dating a guy for the first time and seeing where that might go... IN FACT I was wanting to hook up with this T-Girl whom I've seen in the neighborhood for years! hah! the sparks between her/him/whatever (lol) and me over that time when we'd run into each other were palpable! (it's so weird but she reminded me of my wife!)... anyway, before I could make any move in that direction life brought me into contact with a MUCH younger woman and things started happening (like a moth to the flame so is Paddy to the ladies!)... and then life swiftly changed things up again before that ran any real course (besides some pretty nice, uh, physical ministrations ;) ) when the absolute love of her teenage years unexpectedly came back into her life just as my wife came back into mine... we more or less shook hands and wished each other the best... I guess that was an overly-long way of saying not all bisexual men are just out for sex with another man!

now that wife and I are back together, however, all I'd want from another guy is, ummmmmm, sex! haha! of course, wife would have to be involved... and, I dunno, I wouldn't mind someone who would become a good friend, too... I'm just wary of anything deeper for a LONG TIME to come - wife and I need some good years under our belt again before I'd be comfortable with anything deep with a third person

[bityme]

It seems that people on here are only interested in having threesomes and group sex with members of the same sex but not really interested in really getting to know them (not that there is anything wrong with threesomes and group sex cause I know that straight people and gay folks do that too). I'm a bisexual woman but I'm more interested in women, having something one on one with a woman, but there's a lot of cock in here (LOL). A lot of men on here message me wanting to have threesomes with me and their wife, or a threesome with another man. What is the deal? Are people on here only interested in the same sex on a limited sexual basis? Nothing long term or emotional? Is this why gay and straight people stereotype bi people?

The issue that your question highlights is how, or if, we understand the wide range of feelings and desires reported by those who have taken the designation of "bisexual" as their own. Just referring to the Kinsey scale, of the 7 possible descriptors, 5 of them indicate some level of bisexuality. You can be classified as primarily heterosexual with either incidental (1) or more than incidental (2) attraction to the same sex, equally attracted to both (3), or homosexual with either incidental (4) or more than incidental (5) attraction to the opposite sex. Unfortunately, the common conception appears to be that any rating applies equally to both physical and emotional interests. That is seldom the case.

In a June 1, 2006, thread: A Tribute To Our Friend, Dr. Fritz Klein, (found at http://www.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?1224-A-Tribute-To-Our-Friend-Dr-Fritz-Klein) Jon Pressick writes, in part,

"Because most people had been (and arguably still are) first exposed to sexuality with the binary of heterosexual or homosexual, Kinsey set his scale of sexual orientation with seven intervals, beginning at 0 with ‘Exclusively Heterosexual’ and concluding at 6 with ‘Exclusively Homosexual’. As you travel the scale, you could be determined to be ‘Predominantly heterosexual, more than incidentally homosexual’ at interval 2, ‘Predominantly homosexual, only incidentally heterosexual’ at interval 5 and anywhere in between. At the centre, Interval 3 is Equally Heterosexual and Homosexual. Klein refined the scale and somewhat simplified it. It remains with 7 intervals, but instead they are:

Other sex only
Other sex mostly
Other sex somewhat more
Both sexes equally
Same sex somewhat more
Same sex mostly
Same sex only

What limits the Kinsey Scale is that it focuses on the person’s sexual experiences and fantasies up to that time. So to develop and hope for a better understanding of an individual’s sexuality throughout their lives, the Klein scale investigates sexual experience and fantasies in three times: the present (the most recent 12 months), the past (up to 12 months ago) and the ideal (which is as close as one can get to intention and prediction of future behaviour). Basically, Klein allowed the concept that people’s sexuality can change through their lives.

But these aren’t the only innovations Klein made. Even more important than considering that sexuality is fluid was Klein’s introduction of many different factors that can influence identity. These are:
Sexual Attraction: To whom are you sexually attracted?
Sexual Behaviour: With whom have you actually had sex?
Sexual Fantasies: Whom are your sexual fantasies about? (They may occur during masturbation, daydreaming, as part of real life, or purely in your imagination.)
Emotional Preference: Emotions influence, if not define, the actual physical act of love. Do you love and like only members of the same sex, only members of the other sex, or members of both sexes?
Social Preference: Social Preference is closely allied with, but often different from emotional preference. With members of which sex do you socialize?

By considering all of these other life factors, Klein’s categorical scale offers much more in terms of understanding that sexual activities do not necessarily denote sexual orientation, and just because two people have the same sexual identity does not mean that they have the same sexual practices."

If you consider all of the possible combinations which might be found in the bisexual community, it becomes easier to understand the difficulties which might be encountered by an individual attempting to find a compatible partner. Additionally, those who fall closer to the center indicating equal attraction, there appears to be a greater need of finding one person of each sex to form a relationship with.

It might be interesting to have a portion of our profiles devoted to showing our ratings for each category on the Klein Scale. I wonder if it would amplify or contradict the other information provided.

For the most part, it is just easier to arrange an encounter based on physical attraction and the desire for sex. Even in the hetero adult community that seems to be true. Relationships tend to develop over time, not something that springs up during contacts over the internet,

Pappy

[tenni]

Hi
I looked at what you have written in your profile. If I may so bold I'd like to make a few suggestions.

1/ Begin your profile stating what you are looking for. Your profile states "friends for now" but this thread suggests that you may be changing your mind. It is also mentioned further on in your profile.

2/ You list a lovely explanation as to a bit about you and your interests socially at the beginning. That might be better being second.

3/ You might want to state what a few other women post. At the bottom or maybe higher up state that you are not interested in x (3somes? or ?) Generally though, being positive rather than I don't want is probably better.

Good luck

As far as myself, yes I am open to developing a form of a relationship that wouldn't match monosexual monogomous coupledom. I would be open to an intimate friendship that probably would stop before the idea of setting up house together with another guy. Travel, socialize, sleep overs but more open should one of us want to be with a woman. Or even another guy depending how it was decided. If the other guy was married to a woman, I'd be ok with that depending upon how it worked out. The three of us spending time socially and sexually would be kewl too. In that respect, I may seem to be the threesome type of guy that you are not looking for..more than a casual threesome and not even needed as a threesome in my view.

[Lisa (va)]

I suppose one could argue that the majority of bi people tend to favor one sex or the other, But indeed there are women, as well as men, that can form bonding relationships with either sex. One can't expect to magically long onto the site and find exactly what they are looking for with out looking: the easiest way to form a relationship is to just talk to folks. And not everyone is into threesomes, but everyone is also an individual, if you don't put forth the effort to know folks you will never know.

Lisa

hugs n kisses

[meteast chick]

I haven't been on here for what seems like forever and so much has changed. Well, all, I'm re-married. That is, I met the love of my life last year and 'married' her in February. The quotations are since true marriage doesn't exist in my state, we technically should have had 'Just Civilly United' in white shoe polish on the back of our SUV! Guess it's a bit easier for me since I'm not bi. Thought I was for a period of time...like many I am not but I truly found this site and it's members to be so much friendlier than those on the gay and lesbian sites, so I stayed and still think this is one of the friendliest sites out there.

luv and kisses,
meteast

[Bi_Druid]

In reply to the thread question, I'm already in two simultaneous relationships with two other guys. So, yes, I am interested.

[darkeyes]

So why project this onto most or all bisexuals on this site and claim that all or most of us are not into same gender relationships? You could have just written at first, "I'm looking for a girlfriend on this site and I can't seem to find one." instead. Have you tried other sites besides this one, or actually going out and meeting LGBT people? This site is good for posting on a message board about bisexuality since this is a bisexual site but as far as relationships, dating, and even just sex or hooking up go nobody here seems to be serious about doing any of these. Since you're supposedly bisexual why not date men too?Prob babes cos since she has a puss... guys r ten a penny and easy to get... all she needs to do is walk out 'er front door and smile... don't know her part of the world but women in many places not so easy to find when ur a woman.. bi or les..... many bisexual women don't want a guy involved at all.....sometimes ever... just like many bi guys dont want a woman involved wile they suck Chuck down the street up a close... doesn't mean she doesn't like or fancy or date or fuck guys.. she hasn't said she doesn't...maybe just she doesn't like or fancy guys when she is having it away with a girl every time... maybe she is a bit less shallow and likes to get to know peeps cos she is interested and likes peeps 2 b interested in her... don't make it sound so sinister.. cos it really isn't... sex isn't compulsory...