Not Here For Sex

[tom_mayfair]

http://i12.photobucket.com/albums/a215/tom_mayfair/Web/64px-Stop_hand.pngI'm not lookin' for anybody. I'm happily married to the woman of my dreams. We have a handsome son together. I just thought it would be nice to talk to people of my sexual orientation. In not shape or form will I ever cheat on my wife. Most people are into this for sex well I'm not one of them. I just happen to know that people of our nature tend to not discriminate as much as other stereotypes. In other words I like talking to honest people. I hate drama. Again, I am not here to find sex or anythin' relating to sex. Sex is one's own business. :flag2:-tom

[Michael623]

Just say no, usually works. Welcome to the site, Tom.

Michael

[tom_mayfair]

awesome

[glantern954]

Hi Tom,

Nice to meet you. I can appreciate not identifying with a steroetype as much as the next guy. Just a thought though, you might want to avoid making broad statements like the one below about a new group of friends.

You will find there are plenty of people here on the same page as you are.


http://i12.photobucket.com/albums/a215/tom_mayfair/Web/64px-Stop_hand.png Most people are into this for sex :flag2:-tom

[tom_mayfair]

noted & editted

[twodelta]

Howdy Tom - Cat and I are here primarily to be a member of the community, to learn from others and hopefully to contribute something that others can learn from. Nice to have You aboard - Dave

[canuckotter]

I'm in the same boat. I'm just here to chat with people without having to constantly watch my tongue (or fingers, I suppose) on certain issues. I haven't had any problems so far. :)

[biecnal]

Tom,

Nice to have you with us ;)

Every member here frequents this awesome site for different reasons. Some for friends, some for friends with benefits and others are just curious.

Thats what make any on-line community like this great!

Speaking personally, My sexy bisexual wife and I are here to make new friends AND for some open sexual experiences.

Again, welcome aboard!

Lance :bipride:

[arana]

Welcome to the site Tom!!! I hope you'll enjoy it here and although we do have the few persistent pushy people, for the most part if you tell someone you're not interested they will take it gracefully. For the other's, you also have an "ignore" button feature that is available.
Take care and Enjoy! :tong:

[JrzGuy3]

Chill a bit- a lotof people here aren't here for sex either. And the hooking up portion of this site is pretty well segregated from the rest.

[JohnnyV]

Welcome aboard....

Just to echo politely what others have said, one disclaimer is enough if you aren't here to hook up. The stop sign and bold lettering, etc., comes off a little strong. I haven't had a single problem with pushy people on here. Usually I just tell them right off if/whether I am available for something more than chatting. If anything, you may be disappointed to find out how much non-sexual discussion takes place on here. We're not exactly a porno site.

J

[chook]

Hey.....Whatever floats your boat Tom...............But give the site a go first and you might just be pleasantly surprised.


Cheers Chook :bigrin:

[jedinudist]

I state pretty openly in my "personal ad" that I am not looking to "hook-up" and I have had very, very little trouble. The polite "not interested" really goes a long way. I've only had to tell about 5 guys that, and only had to tell one of them 2x

Arana is right, God bles Drew for the ignore feature :D

Welcome to the group!!!

[jenniferhell@hotmail]

wellcome to the family tom hope you will enjoy us im glad you found this site agian welcome :bipride: :three:

[gina42]

Welcome to the site Tom!!! I hope you'll enjoy it here and although we do have the few persistent pushy people, for the most part if you tell someone you're not interested they will take it gracefully. For the other's, you also have an "ignore" button feature that is available.
Take care and Enjoy! :tong:
well put arana!



hey tom,
what works for me is saying NO and that is accepted...
take care gina :)

[NWMtnHawk]

Hey Tom welcome. I hope you find this site as refreshing as I have. One of the predominate factors, for me, to this site IS that it's not just all about the sex here. That aspect exists but, (unlike almost every single one of the other bi sites that I've visited/frequented before), while a part of the overall aspect of this place, sex is NOT the #1 aspect of it. Hang out here, experience the atmosphere and personality of this site for awhile and I think you'll learn what a great place it really is.

[Lorcan]

Hey Tom welcome. I hope you find this site as refreshing as I have. One of the predominate factors, for me, to this site IS that it's not just all about the sex here. That aspect exists but, (unlike almost every single one of the other bi sites that I've visited/frequented before), while a part of the overall aspect of this place, sex is NOT the #1 aspect of it. Hang out here, experience the atmosphere and personality of this site for awhile and I think you'll learn what a great place it really is.

NWMtnHawk has it right, Tom. That is exactly why I stay here! I have never stayed at another site for anything. I'm am not looking for sexual experiences. Don't worry. Noone will pressure you. :bibounce:

I can see how you could think that from other sites.

[JohnnyV]

NWMtnHawk has it right, Tom. That is exactly why I stay here! I have never stayed at another site for anything. I'm am not looking for sexual experiences. Don't worry. Noone will pressure you. :bibounce:

I can see how you could think that from other sites.

Lol, Lorcan, now you have me thinking.... What ARE these smutty, slutty sex sites you guys are all reacting to? On the off chance I wanted to find totally salacious, shameless gratification with other bisexuals, and I'm sick of gay.com (when am I ever NOT sick of gay.com?) where would I go?

JohnnyV wants to know!

Love,
J

[glantern954]

I was over gay.com over two years ago.


Lol, Lorcan, now you have me thinking.... What ARE these smutty, slutty sex sites you guys are all reacting to? On the off chance I wanted to find totally salacious, shameless gratification with other bisexuals, and I'm sick of gay.com (when am I ever NOT sick of gay.com?) where would I go?

JohnnyV wants to know!

Love,
J

[Driver 8]

My final straw with gay.com was the day after the 2004 election - you know, the one where Bush won, and all those anti-same-sex-marriage referendums passed?

gay.com's cover story was "OMG! Rufus Wainwright!" Glad to know someone's got their priorities in order.

[JohnnyV]

My final straw with gay.com was the day after the 2004 election - you know, the one where Bush won, and all those anti-same-sex-marriage referendums passed?

gay.com's cover story was "OMG! Rufus Wainwright!" Glad to know someone's got their priorities in order.


Driver 8,

If that's the area of your discontent with gay.com, I'd really urge you to take a look at the new site format. It has changed. Now there are a lot of good political articles. Most of the time I spend on gay.com is actually reading through their news; they've become very international and they focus on a wide range of things.

I'm mostly bothered by the onslaught of unrealistic body image messages on the site. They ran a series all about working out, that really made it seem as though, to be gay, you have to be constantly pursuing some physical ideal. I love working out, but I hate messages that make me feel like my workout has to be aesthetic. Also, my problem with gay.com is the general attitude of people's profiles. Below are some common things people put on their profiles:

NO PIC=NO PVT
be under 30 or be IGNORED
Hot young man looking for same, others don't even bother

There's this Darwinian, dog-eat-dog cult of youth and beauty on the whole site that's truly demoralizing.

Then again, two words sum up my continued patronage (yes, I even pay for a premium membership there): phone sex. Sometimes I need to get off, and gay.com has an ample supply of men at any time, who can act out any fantasy you like!

J

[JohnnyV]

I was over gay.com over two years ago.

Thanks GLantern -- but where is the good smut? LOL

J

[jennessex]

Well put Tom,
I am only here for the female persuasion myself. You do get those that do go gracefully like arana said, but to those who don't, knock it off, if were not interested, were not interested!

jenn :rolleyes:

[glantern954]

I heard it was on your hard drive.


Thanks GLantern -- but where is the good smut? LOL

J

[JohnnyV]

I heard it was on your hard drive.

Funny, I heard your drive was a little soft lately. Just goes to show, one should never pay attention to rumors.

J

[wanderingrichard]

it's ok tom, there are many here who arent here for sex either, but are here for support, fun, and a sense of community....which, you'll find is pretty tight knit and welcoming, if somewhat a bit verbose at times..mmmmmmmmmm mebbe that should be loquacious, but, hey you get the point.
Rich

[KatieBi]

Hej Tom. Welcome! I can say, as a member of bi-com who came here to meet some new like-minded friends and not "lah-lah-lah-lovers"(!), that I've had nothing but positive experiences here. So, sit back and enjoy the site. Take care.

[glantern954]

Scary!


My final straw with gay.com was the day after the 2004 election - you know, the one where Bush won, and all those anti-same-sex-marriage referendums passed?

gay.com's cover story was "OMG! Rufus Wainwright!" Glad to know someone's got their priorities in order.