Does Size matter?

[simplexity]

I'm sure this is a thread that's been started many many times before. But, I feel in this forum maybe I might get a bit more honesty. This question is for both men and women to respond to. I do not want politically correct answers, I want truthful answers. Now this question is more about sex/fantasies than it is about say a relationship. As we all know if you are in a relationship and you care deeply about a person you will accept their shortcomings and enjoy being with them no matter what. So this is a question about what turns you on visually. Not necessarily what you will accept in your mate. I am bisexual so I have my own opinions on both male/female bodies. I find sometimes women will tell you what you want to hear because they do not wish to bruise your ego. So that's why I'm starting this thread. I do wish to hear opinions from both men and women though, and if you wish you can also say if bra size matters (and yes this is also for both women and men to respond to, as I am guessing that we are all here because we can admire both). So hopefully we'll get some interesting and informed feedback. Remember this is more about preference and desire, not necessarily about the size of those you've been with or what you will accept if you have to.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Well Darlin, let me tell you that bigger Isnt necessarily better. Size wise, give me a cock thats like 6 to 7 inches, and I'm a happy Minx. To me that size is Perfect for swallowing, as I am an oralist, and have an oral fixation. Body wise, I love men of all sizes, but I love them a little on the more average size, not too skinny tho, but just in the middle. And I Adore big men as well. They are so yummie for cuddling, then molesting later.;)
But for rompage, I prefer my men a bit taller than me, and sturdy enough to where I'm not guna break him...lol( Cat gets a little rough with her toys and Boi's now and then) lol
Just my humble 2 cents..:}
Yer Cat

[innaminka]

way back when .......... i had a very naughty weekend with an absolute whopper*!!!!!!:yikes2: It was attached to a very ordinary Norwegian "bush" pilot.
Suffice to say the toes curled, the eyes watered and the insides ached for a day or two after.
Being married to him would have been a nightmare, ....... but .... every gal should have at least one "whopper*" in her lifetime.
As an aside, at a clinical level, I discovered it is amazing how much a human body's orifices can "take"

*By whopper, I'm not talking a puny 8" :bowdown:

[FinkDoodle]

Yes . . size matters. But it obviously depends on each person's perspective as to what size they prefer.

[DuckiesDarling]

Pretty much the old cliche "size doesn't matter it's how it's used" is true for most people. There are guys out there with shorter than average cocks who are much better lovers because of it, there are guys out there that are just too big not even for a one night stand and have major issues all their sexual lives because of the size. Breasts are another matter, maybe guys love the huge ones but for women the pain of bigger breasts is enormous and it affects the entire body. Isn't it time we focused more on the person and not the parts?? Even for a fantasy I'd want an intelligent person I would like to be around whether it was one night or a lifetime.

[elian]

Hehe - since we're not being politically correct I just LOL when I read the words "whopper" and "bush pilot" together in the same sentence.

Yes, size does matter - the first "gay" date I was on, with a guy who I'll call Mr. Horse had a rather thick appendage and all I could think is, "You want to put that Where?!" I'm still friends with the guy but to this day we haven't done anal because of it.

I would be most happy with an average size but if you're talking about in a relationship we make it work, different positions, toys - and if you care about having a lasting relationship with the person what about the other 80% of the time when you're NOT in bed?

I have to remember the story that one of you said about a guy who thought he was well endowed with a divine gift to women but apparently had very boring technique.


way back when .......... i had a very naughty weekend with an absolute whopper*!!!!!!:yikes2: It was attached to a very ordinary Norwegian "bush" pilot.

[Bisexual Explorer]

I must say that when I look at pics, am at a nude beach, or at a gay bath (years ago), I love to ogle large cocks. With male partners, size is irrelevant. The man attached to the cock is what matters. My male and female partners, thank goodness, seem to feel the same way.
Bisexual Explorer

[Gearbox]

BIG cocks and tits are very lovely to look at and play with. But that's more fantasy than practical, and the novelty can wear off fast if you have trouble doing certain things you enjoy with them.
Small cocks and tits are not fantasy material, but can push you to make better use of them.
I like average.:)

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

I have to agree with Minka. A person should Try big a few times in their lives, if noting else than for the experiance of it..:}
I've Had big, and it wasnt all it was cracked up to be, until I found a lover who knew How to use his big cock, then I was hooked...on His..lol But I still loved and prefered my main "Primary play partner's" cock over all other's. :}
Cat

[tommyswing]

I have to agree with Minka. A person should Try big a few times in their lives, if noting else than for the experiance of it..:}
I've Had big, and it wasnt all it was cracked up to be, until I found a lover who knew How to use his big cock, then I was hooked...on His..lol But I still loved and prefered my main "Primary play partner's" cock over all other's. :}
Cat
I think that sums it up nicely how you use it. I've known women that would prefer a larger cock than I have, but they liked my rhythm and technique,even though a larger cock would give them a nicer feeling. For myself I used to see I guy who's cock was sort of small, but he would fuck me in the spooning position and it was heaven. And like Mountain cat I used to see a guy that was very large and he knew what to do with it. OMG the way he mouth fucked me and booty fucked me was so sensual to this day I get hard when I think of him.

[NjbiGuy01]

Pretty much the old cliche "size doesn't matter it's how it's used" is true for most people.

My feelings exactly.....as a bi male, enjoying a man in my ass requires the proper size and shape. One local massage guy I see is a solid 8 + inches, but he's thin....I enjoy him and can handle him up to his balls...a 5" cock but really thick, well, that might be a problem....I'm not huge, but I think I know how to use it.....

[IllinoisGuy]

I prefer the women to have larger breasts(not to say that I don't enjoy a woman with a smaller bra/cup size-I do), and the guys to be average size. The average size is easier to get into my mouth for oral. :)

[i_shoot_blanks]

I have only half of the erection controlling nerves and thus can achieve, with the help of the magic blue pill, half of an erection. Some times it is hard enough for penetration. For a complete erection I use a vaccuum pump and cock ring. According the resident expert, the half erection is good and she can have an orgasm, but the complete "pumped up" erection is much better and generates several orgasms.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

But Blanks likes my naughty stories too...*Wink* lol
Silly Cat

[jem_is_bi]

I like it big. Big is what my partner has for me.
Available is always better than any size.

[bifemme]

I will have to say, it totally depends on how loose or tight I am at the time. :-p. When I was younger I used to masturbate with huge phallic shape objects and now after not having penetration in 2 years, I can't even handle more than two fingers.

[simplexity]

as for women's breasts, I would say a C cup is the perfect size. Sometimes bigger is attractive, other times if they are too big, I tend to feel bad for them. Partly because I worry of the health related drawbacks of having them that big. I do not see why women would artificially make their breasts that way. And, well if I feel bad or like if I feel that the woman is in pain it's hard for me to be turned on. It's hard for me to enjoy the sexual side of a situation if my mind is elsewhere. And I would be too worried to enjoy them. A C cup or lower usually is best though. But it all depends on the woman and how proportionate she is. Big breasts do not look as attractive on really skinny girls...just as bigger girls (full figured and above) do not look as attractive if they are too small either. But, in general with women it starts with the eyes. and I'm not trying to be cliche or anything, though I am a poet at heart. I have always been a type that I can't fall for a woman unless she is attractive but I can't fall for a woman who is JUST attractive. She has to have her own personality, brains and a sense of humor. At least that way if she doesn't laugh at my jokes, I'll know it's because the jokes are not funny and not that she just didn't get them...and if I were to tell a bad joke, at least if she didn't laugh she could come back with a great one liner of her own

[i_shoot_blanks]

But Blanks likes my naughty stories too...*Wink* lol
Silly Cat

Miss Kitty, please continue with the stories (I was going to say "Keep it up"). First, I'm working on not needing the magic blue pill, then next ...................

[robin ta laye]

Yeah size matters in all sorts of ways, and big isn't necessarily better, exceptin some ways, oooh boy im contradicting myself already, so lets see if i can qualify this ....when it comes to sucking cock i like big ones, thick big ones, big long thick big ones, cocks that push at the walls of my throat cut off my airway, make me gag and choke and go for more and deeper and present a challenge to get down all the way down on, you know like i have to work on it for a long time before im relaxed and loose in the tight spot of the throat and close my eyes and whooop next thing i realize i've got that fucking baseball bat all the way,,,whatta' know i think to myself, feels like i swallowed a telephone pole, god damn im so turned on, and thats about when i gag and choke and come up for more air than i could draw thru my nose, i dont want to turn funny colors and pass out on the guy, but when i come off there's always a whole bunch of salivia to lather him up good with and as i gasp im so turned on im usually cussing and headed right back at it...now as for cum...no question big cummers bring it on home baby i want that, god what a complete turn on when a guy just squirts and squirts and squirts jeeezuz those guys can get me to do just about anything they want and im there, no matter how crazy or taboo as long as he does that soak me hose me down routine he gets my vote.....so far its all been big, dont want you lesser guys feeling left out, so i tell ya what when we talk anal penetration i've met some 5-6" guys whos dick didn't weigh in as much but landed square on my sweet spot and these guys had me screaming and begging them to fuck the shit out of me and moaning at the top of my lungs inbetween and during begs and demands and made me cum like a gattling gun...,whew,,,hope you feel better boys, what'll it take 10-15 minutes and you can do that to me again ok, and like four times in a row can ya....gosh your swell...................Now as for breasts, i like little ones best, they're so sensitive and i can get all of em' in my mouth (one at a time c'mon) and love to tease those perky nipples and come from behind and cup them in my hands and just love the way they fit OMFG! thats hot, and there nice to look at, never give the girl or me a black eye, and no matter how old the gal gets they still are sexy lil'things that deal with gravity well...booty? big or small i've never met a girls booty i didn't like...

[Jakentn]

For anal I prefer 6 to 7 inches, as for oral, the bigger the better, I love to be forcefed and gagged so big is good!

[ComSamVimes]

For me..it's about shape not size...and I've thought a lot about this. There are all sorts of sizes that can be sexy (visually anyways) so long as the shape is appealing. That's why to me someone with smaller features might be just as sexy as someone with larger versions of those same features. Shape...not size.

Function wise? I think I'm with everyone else when I say..it depends. haha. so vague.

[dick_pumper]

My personal take on the size of a cock is that it doesn't matter. Well, lets say it's only 2 " hard then yes that will be a bother. But give me 5-7" and I am very happy, I don't need to be choked, and I don't need the thing to reach my stomach through my ass. I am 5 1/2 - 6" (depending on arrousal), and I've never had a complaint about it. And if ya didn't like it, then you wouldn't need to see it again.
I did have a girl tell me once that she wouldn't accept anything less then 9" So I told her I could give her 12, just that I would have to do it twice.

[indenver_indenver]

So this is a question about what turns you on visually.I find sometimes women will tell you what you want to hear because they do not wish to bruise your ego. .

In my and my wife's case, we both prefer larger cocks. Say 7 to 8". We play with a 7" dildo and a 5 incher. My wife always reaches for the bigger one and can take all but the last half inch. As for me, I love to deep throat a guy and so he must have 7 or so inches. I got this way when I was a teen and was "trained" to suck cock by a buddy who had a big cock. I have barely 6" and my wife is always telling me she loves my "big" cock. I smile inwardly knowing she is stroking my ego but I am realistic and even I love to see her take in the bigger dildo.

[æonpax]

From my own female perspective, a resounding YES...but not always.

[Realist]

On the initial, superficial level, I am very attracted to less than skinny women; admitting that I gravitate to full-figured ladies. I like chubby-smooth guys, too. But, if I like a person, the attractions will follow.

Being a relationship-oriented person, mutual interests, character, and personality, are most important to me.

[Jobelorocks]

Honestly, size does matter some, but it isn't all that matters. I prefer a man to be 5-8 inches, preferably thick (thickness makes a bigger difference for me than length). Any longer than 8 inches, I feel like I am being punched in the stomach from the inside, any shorter than 5, I really don't feel they go deep enough for my liking.

Style is a big deal. One guy I slept with was 8 inches, but one of the worst and boring in bed. He thought since he had a big penis, he would automatically be good. He thought one positions the whole time, with no manual or oral stimulation would satisfy me, but I didn't even come close to orgasm. For me, angles are big, manual and oral stimulation are big, (stimulation of my g-spot and clitoris) and using multiple positions is also big. I prefer guys to be thin and wiry guys, not built. I hate big muscles, they creep me out. Also I prefer them to not be overweight.

As for women, I have a preference for small breasts, but any size is fine. I prefer perky ones. I prefer women to be smaller in size. I like pear shaped women with small breast and ample asses. I prefer women with short hair, but then again I don't like long hair on anyone, but it isn't a deal breaker. When romance comes into the picture all these preferences matter way less, but since I have already found my husband, the romance thing isn't something I am considering with new people.