Puzzled and venting

[nudistharry]

I got to thinking the other day about my search for a bi guy for friendship. It dawned on me that while I have no male friends who are bi, I have several female friends who are bi. And to add to my frustration level, many of these ladies like to tell me about their sexual escapades with their boyfriend/husband, even when they knew my sex life was (still is) lacking.

Does anyone else here have a similar problem of finding many friends of the opposite sex who are bi but finding few (or no) friends of the same sex who are bi?

[12voltman59]

I am having no problem finding other bisexual guys--or those who say they are--but I am sure having a problem actually meeting any ladies local to me that identify as such---I had a few past g/fs who were, at the time we dated, were going through their "experimentation" phase with bisexuality too and it was through them that I actually began to consider doing my own explorations, based in part on their encouragement that if I felt comfortable with it "to go for it."

Those relationships eventually ended and I lost touch with them. At the time I was actually with them, I was only interested in what I had going on with them and not doing stuff with guys---and it was not till at least a few years later that I started to think they were right and did begin the long process to do this.

I sure would now like to find a lady who is more than "curiously bisexual' in that she knows she likes to be with other ladies and has no problem that I have been with other guys and like to do that--and then we can find a way that works for us both in what we do with other people either together or separately.

[tenni]

I had the same realization about no in real time bi guy friends without benefits a few months back. I was wrong and I had just forgotten somehow. It was quite a surprise to think this. I do have both gay, straight friends and my real time bi friend who I don't see that often. I don't really talk to them about my sexuality though (too much). I've made a friend on the internet that I can open up with and it has been very good for me. I also began to attend a bi guy group monthly meeting and it was quite invigorating to be physically chatting with other bi guys in person with no sex aspects. Unlike drugstore, I don't think that it is easy to meet bi guys as platonic friends where I live. In the real world, in my art world, we just don't bother with our sexuality. It is not important in those circles.

Merde
Now, you've made me realize that I don't know any bi women(without benefit) ;)