Polygamous relationship with two bi men and a woman, will it work?

[Itsjustsex]

Let's start from the beginning. I have been with the same guy since we were both kids. A couple years back I found out he liked men. I reacted horribly, but I have since embraced it. It honestly turns me on, I love seeing him that comfortable and happy. As of the last year we have seriously considered turning out relationship into a polygamous one, with two men and me. I don't think I would ever want anything to do with the guy, sexually that is, but he said he wouldn't mind. It doesn't bother me if he is emotionally or sexually invested in another man. I am very secure with our relationship, we are very open sexually and we discuss all our fantasies and both do everything in our power to make sure the other person fulfills their fantasy. I have had my bi-curious moments, but I am not sure if I would ever be more than sexually attracted to women, so I don't think we would every add a woman, but he is open to that as well. (sorry I am kind of all over the place with this)
What I am getting at is, do you think that a polygamous relationship will work with two bisexual men and a woman? Has anyone ever had experience with this? I don't want to make any decisions that would ruin our relationship. We have had threesomes with other men, and he has had his time alone with men. We both are not jealous people.

I have never posted before. I apologize if i didn't put this in the right place or anything along those lines.

[Realist]

Welcome IJS!

You are more apt to get a viable answer here, than anywhere else I can think of.

I have a little experience with a married couple, in my younger years. For 13 months, when I was 20, or 21, I was a live-in lover of an older married couple. (they were 30 and 40) Actually, it was very romantic and I loved them both. Transfers separated us, which I felt happened all too soon!

Your comment about not being jealous is probably the best trait to have in a relationship, like this; I think that is a sign of great self confidence. Honesty, openness, courtesy, respect, are important aspects to consider, too.

No matter how others have conducted a relationship like this, you probably should incorporate your own thoughts regarding what you would all enjoy most.

Each situation like have some similar aspects, but also different for each group..

I attempted another relationship, like the previous one, later, but Jealousy soon ruined that one. It didn't take long to raise it's ugly head!

I think there are members here, who are in similar situations now and they may be able to reveal more of the intricacies, than I have.

When a poly relationship, as you propose works, it can be a magnificent thing!

Good luck in the future.

[welickit]

We have known couples that have tried it. None are together any longer except one lesbian couple that lives with another woman. The two where there were two men and one woman didn't work out and all three went different ways. None of them stayed together. We would say give it a test drive before you decide.

[nimby]

Hiya there.

I am married to a wonderful woman and in a poly relationship. She lets me have a guy friend. We've all been together for 3 years now and all is ok so far. We've gotten over the jealousy stage and it's working out great. My wife feels that she has two husbands and she loves that.

[Trinity-Fl]

I lived with a couple for almost 4 years as an MFM bi male triad. We slept in the same bed almost every night and 3sum sex was our normal.

It ended when he decided that he wanted the gay lifestyle more than us. The woman and I are now a couple and have been together for about 9 years. I'm still bi and we still have an occasional 3sum with another man with whom we are compatible.

The sex is fantastic. :) But my fem partner enjoyed the threesome relationship more. We bought a home together. We two guys had a business together for a while. It was oneof the best periods of my life although it came later in life.

Try visiting some poly groups near where you live. We were charter members of Central Florida Poly and members of Tampa Poly. We had some great times with those folks. We had some great "retreats" in 2004-05 and 06 I think. Weekends together talking about polyamory and relationships of all kinds. Dining together, bonfires. We enjoyed it. We covered topics like telling family and friends that you're a triad, handling jealousy and sharing responsibilities in the home and - money. For younger people always a problem.

We had a big ol' farm house and we hosted several poly get togethers in those years. Pool full of nude people, making sleeping arrangements for threesomes and foursomes... All fun.

We had a "honeymoon" in the Bahamas. Had a great time after we got through explaining to the hotel manager that we needed a king size bed not two queen sized.

Contact us directly if you like. Always happy to answer questions.

As our nickname implies - Trinity-Fl. "A 3sum in Florida."

CC & SC

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

I have a very dear friend who has been in a poly "marriage" for many years now, and she loves her husbands greatly. I dont know if the guys are Bi..I've never really asked, but I know her 2nd hubby is very out going and loving towards her, and her kids have grown up having two Fathers. Its a beautiful thing to see.
I'm sure it could work if all parties are compatible and want the situation to work out.
All I can tell you is give it a shot a little at a time and see where it leads. And as for having two lovers? Oh Girlfriend, GO Fo it! lol
Hugs
Cat

[*pan*]

it always depends on the individuals, with that said. bringing another into ones marrige always has it's risks. if all are honest and know what they want there is no reason it can't last, i have found honesty to be the most important factor in a relationship.

[unicorn_factory]

Sounds great to me! I hope it works for ya. :) I want in! ;)

[zigzig]

If both partners are enough opened to polygamy - that's great! Even though a person can be in love or a relationship - it will always feel some kind of attraction towards other individuals.

[tommyplay]

In the process of looking for one now. I'll let you know how it is when I find one!:tongue:

[uounkhkl]

it always depends on the individuals, with that said. bringing another into ones marrige always has it's risks. if all are honest and know what they want there is no reason it can't last, i have found honesty to be the most important factor in a relationship.

There a couple/marrige who live with young men. He could learnt something and go away. After him they could find another.