It can be hard to have sex

[IanGray]

I have had sex with three guys in four years. I long to meet more men but not being able to accommodate prevents me from achieving this aim. I've tried suggesting that sex outdoors would be okay. This doesn't seem to work either. It has been a disappointment. It's not that I don't get any interested me. No, the opposite is true. however, all my attempts have come to nothing.

So folks have you any ideas about solving this problem?

[Long Duck Dong]

ian, your post and your profile both speak of a intelligent person, ..... so i will suggest you find a friend with benefits that can accommodate.... a person that shares your interests in and out of the bedroom..... and somebody that sees the person, not the parkinsons.....

is there any chance of socialising with LGBT support groups or social groups in your area and meeting people that way ? I have the feeling that there are a few people in this site that are interested in you from the way they have posted in your past threads ( yes I read the forums and pay attention... maybe too much ) and if they could accommodate and meet up, they would but distance is the issue...... I know its harder to find people in your area if they are discreet about their interest in other men, as it limits your options of making contact with them and for some reason I get the feeling that there is not much in the way of LGBT support / social groups in your area or that its not a option to go to them.......

have you tried other sites that cater towards longer term interest or Friends with benefits ? some times having a advert in 3-4 sites may help.... even when you get the time wasters and people that can not read, there is often a gem amongst the rubble

[IanGray]

ian, your post and your profile both speak of a intelligent person, ..... so i will suggest you find a friend with benefits that can accommodate.... a person that shares your interests in and out of the bedroom..... and somebody that sees the person, not the parkinsons.....

is there any chance of socialising with LGBT support groups or social groups in your area and meeting people that way ? I have the feeling that there are a few people in this site that are interested in you from the way they have posted in your past threads ( yes I read the forums and pay attention... maybe too much ) and if they could accommodate and meet up, they would but distance is the issue...... I know its harder to find people in your area if they are discreet about their interest in other men, as it limits your options of making contact with them and for some reason I get the feeling that there is not much in the way of LGBT support / social groups in your area or that its not a option to go to them.......

have you tried other sites that cater towards longer term interest or Friends with benefits ? some times having a advert in 3-4 sites may help.... even when you get the time wasters and people that can not read, there is often a gem amongst the rubble

I have tried other sites and have had plenty of interest, but have not met them. I suppose I could start a gay life drawing class and offer myself as a model. Photo and video shoots is another possibility.

As I am not out yet LGBT isn't an option. Anyway thank's for your response

[Long Duck Dong]

lol ian, for a person that is not out, you are more photogenic and visible to people than a fair number of people that are out lol......

I like your approach to things.... the gay life drawing is a unique approach and definitely is worth a try.... and thinking of the people I know that do that type of thing in NZ, they are few and far between, so you may definitely be on to something there

I love the fact that you have plenty of interested people, it may be that they see what I can.... a very open and intelligent person... and people like you, can make for some of the best on going friends / partners / friends with benefits.... and I hope that you do get to meet up soon,... I remember one of your other threads where you mentioned a hook up and how it was a bloody enjoyable experience for you so heres to hoping that its not too long before you enjoy it again and hopefully more regularly

[IanGray]

A guy I know on a social site left a message asking me to meet him for sex. we drove to somewhere quiet and had quite an enjoyable time although it was a bit uncomfortable. He had a fair size cock which was nice to suck. I should be seeing him again and he promised he would take me to bed next time. which is what I prefer. It was worth the wait. Af the four guys I have had each one was different and the memories of sex with them different again. So, things are looking up.

[Long Duck Dong]

thanks for updating things, ian.... good to hear that you are getting some, lol

[DuckiesDarling]

Glad things are looking up, Ian. Didn't post before as my partner was saying things that both of us were talking about with regards to you. So know that we both wish you the best.

[tenni]

Hey Ian
It can be a crap shoot. You and I have some similar interests but different continents.

What is your main issue? Is it finding a place? You might consider renting a room in a motel /hotel and split the cost if neither you nor the other guy can entertain. Guys who want sex outdoors or in cars often have that as part of their thing rather than what you seem to want..a comfortable bed with a roof over your head :)

Have younger guys been hitting on you on the other sites? That can be fulfilling or not depending upon what you are looking for. I have a lot of young guys in their 20's approaching me but they are not what I want. Guys back out for a variety of reasons.

Have you considered a bit of manscaping and updating your appearance? There are a lot of various manscaping trimmers on the market these days. It seems to be more important these days for some guys. Are guys interested in your hairy back or turned off? Some like it. Some don't. You might update your appearance by trimming your back and shaving your head. There are body trimmers and you can reach your own back with them and a mirror. I've not read it but try http://menshair.about.com/od/bodyhair/a/Manscaping.htm Trim your eyebrows back by using a comb under the eyebrow and cutting them at that thickness uniformly. Maybe explore a moustache and goatee. Go wild and try a chin strap facial hair. You just might turn into an irresistible sexy bugger ;) Your dance card may be filled for months with private dancers at their place(all of a sudden). just a thought.

[nutme]

Maybe the assumption is, and I've heard it a thousand times, that being a bisexual man makes your chances of sex go up a hundred percent. What a bunch of hogwash and simplistic thinking on the part of men. You're only going to find that sex is totaly at the hands of a man with discretion. I am one of a mind, that the most vocal voices here on being bisexual, are actually the ones who have the least, and in some cases, no experience with the same sex. I shudder to think, as a man, that I would so debase myself as to jump in the sack with a male slut. Yikes.

[slipnslide]

If you don't have one get a smartphone and install Grindr. I've declined more offers of sex on there than I can count. . .and I can count to like a hundred on a good day.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Ian-hon, good luck to you and have tremendous fun..:}
Cat

[sammie19]

In the North East, Newcastle is the best place for meeting people who are gay or bisexual with the gay village centered around the Life Centre near the main railway station. There are plenty of places to meet gay, lesbian and bi people who live around the town. I am a Northumbrian girl so know the city well. Living north of the border now I am down there less than I used to be, but have always used it for fun and sexy weekends.

Ian, you may not be be able to accommodate but friends and I, including men friends, have always found plenty who live locally who can and have hooked up with both men and women who have their own place. A few times I have had hotel accommodation booked especially if away with a group on a naughty weekend although I do realise hotel or guests houses are an expense many can't afford, but are an option. It is even better if we meet someone who has booked somewhere and a few times have ended up in hotel rooms because Newcastle is a very popular centre for a weekend clubbing and shopping.

I know we should always consider our safety but in some ways it is safer knowing where another lives than letting them have our own home address on a first encounter.

[IanGray]

Music and art are the most important things in my life and of course sex. Within these is a lot of diversity. To find someone who matches my taste, attitude and character, I have found to be totally impossible. Am I better by myself?

[switchitter2]

Hey Ian, just saw your cute rear end profile pic...nice boy, wish I was there, I`m near your age son and I find the local "Y" to be a great place to see lots of naked cocks and balls dangling for your approval, "butt" not sure if the "Y" is there in my ancestral homeland in the UK, hope so..remember "The Village People" singing "YMCA"? well they were`nt kidding..Also sorry to hear of your health problems, got a tonne of them myself, butt that doesn`t stop me from having fun with the boys..Good luck Ian, don`t give up and suck and fuck all you can, makes you feel 20 years younger..:tongue: