My story

[wyldkitty]

My boyfriend had given me permission to explore my bicuriousity. I had some contact with a few on here but they all were demanding pictures and things I wasn’t comfortable with as I live in a small town. So I just kinda blew those off and put my dreams about finding a woman to be with to the side and kept living. My boyfriend is currently away on active duty and I was lonely so I went across the county line and went to a Tavern.

Ran into one of the other military wives I know from seeing around the base and she was lonely and more than halfway on her way to being drunk, I joined her for a few drinks and we pretty much got wasted. I won’t go into details except to say we ended up in a hotel room and I found out that my fantasy didn’t match my reality. I didn’t like the sex part, but the kissing, stroking and intimacy were fine. What was missing for me was my boyfriend; I realized I truly don’t want to have anything without him sharing.

So yes I am no longer bicurious, I am bisexual but not equally attracted to men and women. I am going to talk to my boyfriend about doing possible threesomes in the future but for now all I need is his voice and a good vibrator on the nights he can call.
I want to thank a few of you for reaching out to me in PM and talking to me about issues. You really did help.
I look forward to continuing my journey but I am just not that into the actual sex at this point, I don’t know if that makes any sense, but it’s just how I feel right now. But things change and in a few years after a few threesomes I might be ready for one on one again.


Thanks,
Wyldkitty, curious no more.

[Long Duck Dong]

lol hell of a way to learn more about your sexuality and to define it lol.....

now to keep some members happy, I will roll out the big cheating and norty norty speech, so here goes..... :eek::mad::devil::2cents: ... BTW thats the short hand version.....

right, lets get on to the good stuff..... its nice to be able to be more sure about how our sexuality works and what role it plays in our lives... and there is nothing wrong with the fact that you are more of a emotional person than a sexual person in regards to females.... cos your post reflects a deep love and longing for your partner... and the sex may well be different in a threesome with your partner there and actively involved........

being lonely can be hard on people and mixing alcohol with being lonely can make for some interesting experiences lol....something I know first hand.... lol but yeah the desire for affection and to be held is something that is more common with people that seek the company of others, than most people think..... lol...so you are not the first and will not be the last to do it... and find that somethings, just being held is better than sex lol....

hugs....

[wyldkitty]

Thank you for the reply and yes that's how I feel in a way. I'm not sure if the alcohol had anything to do with not really being into some aspects or if it was more just really missing the presence of someone who is normally in the bedroom with me. I will have to see how it goes but at least my man gave me the freedom to explore my fantasies. I just wish the fantasy had been closer to the reality but maybe in time the reality will match my fantasy. Hugs back.

[Long Duck Dong]

grins and gets personal and norty.......

ok, think back to your fantasies and the reality..... what aspects of them were different to you ?

when we fantasize, we capture the best qualities of what we want, including emotions, feelings, sensations, desires and yeah even orgasms..... its why a lot of the reality can often not match the fantasy as there is differing levels of feelings, wants and desires that may detract from or enhance the experience for a person.......

if you spend a lil time thinking about your fantasies and tweaking them to include ya partner, you may find that a 3some may work better......

laying on ya back with a lady pressing her lips tenderly against your moist flesh as her tongues snake to lightly circle you, touching with briefest brushes of light silk against your clit, the feel of her hot breath melting your body into her mouth......... it may seem great in fantasy... but then add something more and closer to your heart...... the feel of a strong arm cradling you close as chest hair tickles erect nipples.... hubby looks into your eyes, deeply, intently... and whispers " kiss me, baby.... show me with your mouth what you are feeling that lady do to you with hers......


watches the screen melt...... and wonders how many readers are drool madly

[axlton]

The fact that you were drunk could have been a huge factor in how much you liked it as well. Always remember, decisions made after 2:00 a.m. are never the right one. I'd give it one more shot sober before saying that I didn't care for it.

[DuckiesDarling]

Wyld, listen to my partner. We discussed your post and a lot of what he covered were things we talked about. I pretty much know the Tavern you went to and I can understand things weren't quite what you expected in your fantasy. Fantasy often is much better than reality for a lot of things in life. What makes reality so great is that is where we gain life experiences. Sounds to me like you needed the connection of your partner to fully enjoy, it's probably what you fantasized about. So when he gets back, and I do hope he has a very safe deployment, think about doing the threesome thing. If at that point you don't like certain aspects, only do what you do like. Many times, as was stated, we just need to not feel alone and the intimacy doesn't always have to be full on sex. Thanks for posting.

[falcondfw]

Thank you for the reply and yes that's how I feel in a way. I'm not sure if the alcohol had anything to do with not really being into some aspects or if it was more just really missing the presence of someone who is normally in the bedroom with me. I will have to see how it goes but at least my man gave me the freedom to explore my fantasies. I just wish the fantasy had been closer to the reality but maybe in time the reality will match my fantasy. Hugs back.
Kitty,
Just take it slow. There's no rush. Being separated from the one you love can be incredibly hard, especially when you have no choice in the matter. Only do what you really want to try and feel comfortable with. Don't do anything just to please someone else.
If you are curious about the 3some thing and bf wants to try (I don't know of a straight guy who would not want to try a 3some with 2 beautiful ladies), go for it. You may come to a point later on where you want to try one on one with a woman again. Seems, from what you say, that if you do try it again, it should be with someone you really care about. A close female friend. Or, you may feel your curiosity is satisfied.
I am sorry you had a blah to bad experience. My rule I always go by is if I don't like something, try it again, just to make sure I really don't like it (I could have just had a fluke bad experience). If I don't like it a second time, I never do it again.
Do you have any female friends you can trust about your feelings and curiosity? Maybe discussing it with someone will help.

[Gearbox]

I agree with Axlton. Drunken sex is not usually the best kind. Especially if it's a first experience. Best to have your wits about you to appreciate it.