Need your help guys

[brasilcouple]

Hi!

First of all, I´m from Brasil, so sorry for any mistakes in my english.

I read this forum about 2 years, and have found so much information about bisexuality, it really opens my mind.

Me and my wife are both bi, we meet online about 8 years ago, knowing that we´re both bi, it´s what in a first moment make our approach. We starting to explore this together going to gls clubs, she using strap on and our life could not be better. As we get knowing each other, we discover that the amazing sex it´s just a part of it, we really fall in love and that´s is a beautiful felling that lasts until today. We are very connected, have the same goals, he make me a much better person, and so do I, we prospered through our professions, and have a very very happy life.

The only problem is sex. We married and in the beginning was a very active sexual life, as far the time goes on, she just started to forgot about our bi life, no more strap on, no more thoughts of another person with us and the worst part, no more seduction of her part. I love to live with her, but I guess that a couple have to maintain some privacy about minimal things like use bathroom with door closed.

I´m a very sexual person, but right now I just can´t think about it. I talk a lot with her, we´re just 32, no kids, with money and freedom to do anything almost we want, we´re not rich, but we do all right. And appears she just forgot about it. I know that right now I´m not in the best form, but at least I´m trying.

There is no doubt that she loves me, we´re great together, like the same things, musics, movies, but perhaps we´re just great friends now? I wanna try everything to get back my sexual life with her.

Any thoughts guys?

Sry for my english :)

[MtnMan]

Sounds like you are at one of those spots in all relationships and it's time to re-open the door to each other. Tell her what you just wrote here, or let her read it here--even better! If she loves you deeply (and she probably does), she'll want to work on the relationship just as hard as you do. Don't pout--just talk it out!

[Long Duck Dong]

ok, for a start, stop thinking about you and sex and focus on why your partner has changed..... what is going on in her life and her body and her mind that may have caused the change.....

bisexual people change and it sounds like your partner has, and you need to talk with her about what has changed within and for her... forget the sex and lack of it for a time and focus on your partner as a person, there may be things there like a interest in being a mother and having a family, or it may be health issues, it could be a change in interest in having sex, it could be stress and pressure with work.... it could be anything......

the important thing for you is to be concerned about your partner, your wife and not the lack of sex......as the amazing sex is a aspect of both of your relationship, and something has changed... that is what you need to focus on.....

if you feel that you can not handle the loss of sex, find a alternative to satisfy you, but do not neglect your partners needs cos it sounds like she really needs you to talk with her and to her as your partner, not a person that makes sex good for you

[MidMichCouple]

I don't know, I guess were it me I wouldn't over-think it too much. It seems that every couple's sex life will have an ebb and flow to it, moreso and often more extreme with bi couples form what I've seen. While I agree with others that communication is key to every aspect of any relationship I would try other things first. If you tell her that you're not happy about the lack of sex it's going to send the wrong message. Try doing the things that were special to her in the past, flowers, massages, try the seductive approach. To be seductive doesn't mean that the goal every night is sex, if you can reestablish the closeness that was there before the sex will follow. Let her know without telling her that she's still beautiful and that you're still as attracted to her as ever, that in itself may help get things back on the road you were on before. It doesn't seem like the lack of sex is the problem at all but a symptom of the problem. Try getting the closeness back that you once shared, recreate that bond that made the sex so good and the sex should follow.

[vidanzki]

I wanna give you advice but I don't really know if that could help you, first and for most you knew each other as bisexual, and then you decided to marry each other because you have same status in life you most of your deeds are alike and now you are trying to ask for help what is the best thing to do. In any kind of relationship there are times that there were ups and downs but you have to hold on to each other to keep your relationship, and in your case you don't have to worry about because that is part of relationship, in some ways try to please each other and try to make some kind of surprises for her. I hope that I help you in my little ways, any way in my part do you know commercial refrigeration repair (http://www.linkrefrigeration.com)? hope you can help me...

[welickit]

Your post says everything "she" forgot. We suspect that "she" would tell everything "you" forgot or just lost interest in. Look i the mirror before you find fault with her. You might find the answer there.

[void()]

The best lovers are often the best friends as well. I concur with talking. Be honest and mature with one another. From what little is presented here, indications suggest talking things over will be beneficial.