Where to go if you aren't into the bar scene?

[braids]

I live in Phoenix and see many men from here posting. But before I would go with anyone I would like to meet them in a safe environment and get to know them. About all I have found here in the way of meeting men are bars. I quit drinking and just am not into that. Anyone know of something like coffee houses or that sort of thing here?

[slipnslide]

So we can answer. . .what do you mean by "go with anyone".

[braids]

I would like to meet someone and learn about them and be friends not just go to have sex

[slipnslide]

If you have a smartphone get Grindr. It's an app for finding and chatting with bi and gay guys around you. Some are just looking for hookups, but others are looking for chat and to meet for a coffee.