sparander
Jan 14, 2012, 1:09 PM
As a kid I remember being physically attracted to guys more than girls but, being more emotionally attached to girls. If that makes sense. If I was going to masturbate it was going to be looking at guys. Yet throughout high school I had more crushes on girls than guys. (I had a crush on one of my guy friends but that was it. I wasn't attracted to any other guys.) I defiantly did appreciate the beauty of girls (long hair, smooth legs, and a cute smile never hurt) but in a less sexual way (though big boobs...I had to stare. No control over my eyes). I fantasized being married to a woman and thought of pretty girls (with clothes on usually lol).
The first time I had sexual relations with was when I was 18. She was my current girlfriend then. Previously I had gay feelings but when I was dating her they all seemed to go away. I never told her about my bisexuality because I knew her views toward it. She thought black and white, straight and gay, and I knew she would see me as emasculated or something. Yet, I would get turned on by the just the smell of her and we'd have sex sometimes twice a day. (My poor roomate lol). Fun times. We broke up after dating for a year because our parents found out (She is Muslim). After which I started feeling the lust for guys coming back (though I now lusted after girls sexually as well unlike in high school). I experimented trading blowjobs with a 22 year old guy when I was 19. I remember that I wasn't able to cum (I think I wasn't comfortable with him. I was really nervous lol, it was my first gay experience).
When I was 20 I met this guy, he was 22, and we started dating discreetly. I surprisingly did connect to him on an emotional level but I still desired women and he knew it. Whenever I talked about girls he seemed to dislike it. I was always the top, (though before he claimed to be versatile but that was such a lie.). I wanted to get fucked but he was very unwilling to try, he even suggested opening up our relationship so I could find a guy to top me (ironically he was unwilling to open the relationship for a girl {though even if he did I'd never do it because I am weird and like monogamy, I was just testing him to see if he would he a hypocrite.}). I never did it because I can't do NSA kind of things and I told him that. Which kind of led to us breaking up (the main reason was that he felt that I didn't love him like my previous girlfriend. But if you saw me after and knew about our relationship you'd think otherwise.)
Now being 21, I don't know what I want. I feel like I had better sex with my ex girlfriend than my ex boyfriend but maybe it will be different with another guy?
It is so much easier to find girls because I like dating and monogamous relationships and thats what most girls want. But I feel like a lot of straight girls judge bi guys harshly. Nevertheless I connect more easily to girls but my previous boyfriend proved to me I do connect to guys as well. The thing with guys is that to find a guy who wants monogamy, around my age, and we are both discreet about it is beyond impossible. I wanted to rebound this year back into the dating world but, alas I am having no luck with girls or guys these days * sigh *
I someitmes do wish I could date a guy and a girl at the same time but at the same time but I want a monogamous relationship like other straight/gay couples. Monogamous is MUCH stronger preferance for me. Damn you society lol.
I really don't know why I wrote this. I just needed to tell someone.
The first time I had sexual relations with was when I was 18. She was my current girlfriend then. Previously I had gay feelings but when I was dating her they all seemed to go away. I never told her about my bisexuality because I knew her views toward it. She thought black and white, straight and gay, and I knew she would see me as emasculated or something. Yet, I would get turned on by the just the smell of her and we'd have sex sometimes twice a day. (My poor roomate lol). Fun times. We broke up after dating for a year because our parents found out (She is Muslim). After which I started feeling the lust for guys coming back (though I now lusted after girls sexually as well unlike in high school). I experimented trading blowjobs with a 22 year old guy when I was 19. I remember that I wasn't able to cum (I think I wasn't comfortable with him. I was really nervous lol, it was my first gay experience).
When I was 20 I met this guy, he was 22, and we started dating discreetly. I surprisingly did connect to him on an emotional level but I still desired women and he knew it. Whenever I talked about girls he seemed to dislike it. I was always the top, (though before he claimed to be versatile but that was such a lie.). I wanted to get fucked but he was very unwilling to try, he even suggested opening up our relationship so I could find a guy to top me (ironically he was unwilling to open the relationship for a girl {though even if he did I'd never do it because I am weird and like monogamy, I was just testing him to see if he would he a hypocrite.}). I never did it because I can't do NSA kind of things and I told him that. Which kind of led to us breaking up (the main reason was that he felt that I didn't love him like my previous girlfriend. But if you saw me after and knew about our relationship you'd think otherwise.)
Now being 21, I don't know what I want. I feel like I had better sex with my ex girlfriend than my ex boyfriend but maybe it will be different with another guy?
It is so much easier to find girls because I like dating and monogamous relationships and thats what most girls want. But I feel like a lot of straight girls judge bi guys harshly. Nevertheless I connect more easily to girls but my previous boyfriend proved to me I do connect to guys as well. The thing with guys is that to find a guy who wants monogamy, around my age, and we are both discreet about it is beyond impossible. I wanted to rebound this year back into the dating world but, alas I am having no luck with girls or guys these days * sigh *
I someitmes do wish I could date a guy and a girl at the same time but at the same time but I want a monogamous relationship like other straight/gay couples. Monogamous is MUCH stronger preferance for me. Damn you society lol.
I really don't know why I wrote this. I just needed to tell someone.