istriachilles1
Jan 10, 2012, 1:01 AM
I'd just like to share my story, in case it helps anyone out there.
I am a bi girl (although I've only ever been with guys) dating a bi guy. Although both of us are 25, I am my boyfriend's first girlfriend. Growing up in an Eastern European country, he thought his attraction to guys meant that he was gay (no one talked about bisexuality), and since homosexuality is so forbidden in his country, he never tried to be with anyone. He felt that it was forbidden to be with guys, and was worried that he wouldn't be able to respond to girls in the way they expected. He hadn't even kissed anyone before.
When he moved to the US last spring and we met, we immediately felt a connection. I assumed he was straight, since he was flirting with me so much, but several of my friends told me they thought he was gay (I thought he was at least bi when it took us 1.5 hours and 5 stores for him to find gloves he liked). In any case, towards the end of September 2011 I told him I had feelings for him. He said he felt the same way, but then proceeded to tell me everything (that he thought he was gay, and that he hadn't even kissed anyone). I'm apparently the first person he's ever told that to.
We started going to counseling together, since he was very confused about his sexuality, and very nervous about being intimate with anyone. I told him that he could take as long as he needed to let me know whether he'd feel comfortable being in a relationship with me. At the end of October, he said he'd like to give it a try. The first time we kissed, it was very awkward, but we kept at it.
We've now been together for about 2.5 months, and it's absolutely wonderful. He's positive that he's bi (he jokes that I brought out the straightness in him :)), and I absolutely love him. He's sensitive, romantic, a great kisser (despite his lack of previous experience), and just so kind.
In any case, I wanted to share my story just in case anyone is in the same situation. If you're bi (or if you're just unsure) and you've been afraid to be with anyone, don't be scared! It can work out and be wonderful.
I am a bi girl (although I've only ever been with guys) dating a bi guy. Although both of us are 25, I am my boyfriend's first girlfriend. Growing up in an Eastern European country, he thought his attraction to guys meant that he was gay (no one talked about bisexuality), and since homosexuality is so forbidden in his country, he never tried to be with anyone. He felt that it was forbidden to be with guys, and was worried that he wouldn't be able to respond to girls in the way they expected. He hadn't even kissed anyone before.
When he moved to the US last spring and we met, we immediately felt a connection. I assumed he was straight, since he was flirting with me so much, but several of my friends told me they thought he was gay (I thought he was at least bi when it took us 1.5 hours and 5 stores for him to find gloves he liked). In any case, towards the end of September 2011 I told him I had feelings for him. He said he felt the same way, but then proceeded to tell me everything (that he thought he was gay, and that he hadn't even kissed anyone). I'm apparently the first person he's ever told that to.
We started going to counseling together, since he was very confused about his sexuality, and very nervous about being intimate with anyone. I told him that he could take as long as he needed to let me know whether he'd feel comfortable being in a relationship with me. At the end of October, he said he'd like to give it a try. The first time we kissed, it was very awkward, but we kept at it.
We've now been together for about 2.5 months, and it's absolutely wonderful. He's positive that he's bi (he jokes that I brought out the straightness in him :)), and I absolutely love him. He's sensitive, romantic, a great kisser (despite his lack of previous experience), and just so kind.
In any case, I wanted to share my story just in case anyone is in the same situation. If you're bi (or if you're just unsure) and you've been afraid to be with anyone, don't be scared! It can work out and be wonderful.