hotfun26
Jan 4, 2012, 12:55 PM
My fiance told me when we had been dating for about 5 months that he was bi-sexual. He also says he is only attracted to the cock and not the man. I was shocked and very confused about my feelings at first. When he first told me if felt like I had been hit in the pit of my stomach. However, I am also bi-sexual and have been with several women so I felt like a hypocrite. I didn't know why it freaked me out so much!
After he initially told me we really didn't talk about it too much more but I told him I supported him and I would be open to discussing things further. I love my fiance and I would want to be able to provide anything for him to fulfill him completely. However I know he would never want to do anything that would hurt me and he never would!
Since then I decided to watch bi porn and try to see if it turned me on. I actually ended up getting turned on if the guys weren't too gay or feminine. Because I am bisexual and open I found it only fair that I tried to understand his desires.
There are certain things that now I find would turn me on. I would love to watch another guy suck his cock. I think it would be hot to watch him stroke another man's cock and get him hard. I think because it's my fiance and he is such a strong, masculine man, it's hard for me to imagine anything beyond that. I know he primarily wants things done to him rather him doing things to men and I also know he never wants to do anything unless I'm involved. He calls it balance. I also know he is sincerely committed to me and our relationship as am I, so we both agree we could never be with someone else without the other person being involved as well.
He has recently become more confused because he struggles with his own sexuality and is not sure what is safe anymore, by what he says. This is because we recently had a threesome with another guy who was straight. He has been telling me for 6 months now how one of his biggest fantasies is to see me get fucked by another guy. He kept persisting that there is no way I wouldn't like it or fantasize about it. I actually never did before but he did not believe me no matter what I said. He felt like I was just telling him that because I was scared to tell him the truth. I kept telling him that I'm sure if would feel good and could be fun, but before he brought it up I had never thought about it before. Again, he kept pleading me to tell him fantasies of me being fucked by 2 guys or another guy. Finally one night he kept urging and I guess I was being timid about it and he got frustrated and said forget about it. That only made me upset because I feel like he isn't being fair in believing me or understanding me. Yes, I am very sexual and open, but I truly had never fantasized about being with 2 men before he brought it up. So, the next day I wrote him a long, hot and detailed email about being with 2 guys. He was so excited about it and told me to go find a guy. So I posted an ad on CL and found a guy within 2 hours. Now, my fiance had always said that he wanted the guy to be bisexual and this guy wasn't. I told him about the guy and cc'd him on the emails. He knew he was straight and told me fuck it let's do it! So we did and he hated it! He said he did not like that guy fucking me at all! He said he thought everything would be so different if the guy was bisexual. He was mad that I found a straight guy but I thought he was so excited and just wanted to see me get fucked by another guy! I felt bad and guilty for finding a straight guy but also felt it was unfair for him to be so persistent and told me to go for it! So from there, he is now confused about whether or not he would still really want to see me fuck a bisexual guy. He fantasizes about it often, but now is confused and a bit afraid to tread those waters again.
He now says he is confused about what is safe to fantasize and to actually act out. I'm down with bringing another girl or guy home and I feel like I am really open but there are some things I am not sure how I feel about. For example, I do not know how I would feel watching him fuck another guy. I don't know why but that freaks me out. I think it's just because it's him. If it were someone i didn't know it would probably turn me on. Is this weird? Because I have what he calls "Stipulations", he says makes him feel uncomfortable and afraid to do anything to upset me. He says if we brought home a bisexual guy, he would be so terrified to upset me or do something I didn't like that he thinks he would have a hard time getting into it and enjoying it.
He also feels the same way about women. He really wants to bring home girls as well but because I don't want him to fuck any of them he feels there is no balance. I could care less if I never get fucked by another man other than my fiance, and he says he doesn't want to fuck another woman. It's the fact that I'm ok with being fucked, but not ok with him fucking another woman. I told him it's because he is so into me getting fucked that it turns me on. Again, he doesn't believe me! We had a threesome with a girl and I told her to sit on his face and told her to suck his cock. But because I'm not ok with him fucking her he says it is unbalanced. DOES ANYONE UNDERSTAND THIS WHOLE BALANCE THING?
I feel frustrated because I feel like I am really willing to indulge him and get into what he likes, but it's still not good enough! :(
He also is afraid to do anything with a bisexual guy in front of me because he is terrified I will look at him differently. He says he loves the way I view and look at him and it would kill him if he ever did anything to change that.
I think the fact that we love each other so much and we would both do anything to make the other happy, we have found ourselves in a dilemna.
I do have a small fear that his urges to be with men will only grow and grow as he gets older. On the other hand, there were things he said that he used to think were super hot when he was younger and when he tried them he didn't really like them at all.
I don't know. Help Please!
After he initially told me we really didn't talk about it too much more but I told him I supported him and I would be open to discussing things further. I love my fiance and I would want to be able to provide anything for him to fulfill him completely. However I know he would never want to do anything that would hurt me and he never would!
Since then I decided to watch bi porn and try to see if it turned me on. I actually ended up getting turned on if the guys weren't too gay or feminine. Because I am bisexual and open I found it only fair that I tried to understand his desires.
There are certain things that now I find would turn me on. I would love to watch another guy suck his cock. I think it would be hot to watch him stroke another man's cock and get him hard. I think because it's my fiance and he is such a strong, masculine man, it's hard for me to imagine anything beyond that. I know he primarily wants things done to him rather him doing things to men and I also know he never wants to do anything unless I'm involved. He calls it balance. I also know he is sincerely committed to me and our relationship as am I, so we both agree we could never be with someone else without the other person being involved as well.
He has recently become more confused because he struggles with his own sexuality and is not sure what is safe anymore, by what he says. This is because we recently had a threesome with another guy who was straight. He has been telling me for 6 months now how one of his biggest fantasies is to see me get fucked by another guy. He kept persisting that there is no way I wouldn't like it or fantasize about it. I actually never did before but he did not believe me no matter what I said. He felt like I was just telling him that because I was scared to tell him the truth. I kept telling him that I'm sure if would feel good and could be fun, but before he brought it up I had never thought about it before. Again, he kept pleading me to tell him fantasies of me being fucked by 2 guys or another guy. Finally one night he kept urging and I guess I was being timid about it and he got frustrated and said forget about it. That only made me upset because I feel like he isn't being fair in believing me or understanding me. Yes, I am very sexual and open, but I truly had never fantasized about being with 2 men before he brought it up. So, the next day I wrote him a long, hot and detailed email about being with 2 guys. He was so excited about it and told me to go find a guy. So I posted an ad on CL and found a guy within 2 hours. Now, my fiance had always said that he wanted the guy to be bisexual and this guy wasn't. I told him about the guy and cc'd him on the emails. He knew he was straight and told me fuck it let's do it! So we did and he hated it! He said he did not like that guy fucking me at all! He said he thought everything would be so different if the guy was bisexual. He was mad that I found a straight guy but I thought he was so excited and just wanted to see me get fucked by another guy! I felt bad and guilty for finding a straight guy but also felt it was unfair for him to be so persistent and told me to go for it! So from there, he is now confused about whether or not he would still really want to see me fuck a bisexual guy. He fantasizes about it often, but now is confused and a bit afraid to tread those waters again.
He now says he is confused about what is safe to fantasize and to actually act out. I'm down with bringing another girl or guy home and I feel like I am really open but there are some things I am not sure how I feel about. For example, I do not know how I would feel watching him fuck another guy. I don't know why but that freaks me out. I think it's just because it's him. If it were someone i didn't know it would probably turn me on. Is this weird? Because I have what he calls "Stipulations", he says makes him feel uncomfortable and afraid to do anything to upset me. He says if we brought home a bisexual guy, he would be so terrified to upset me or do something I didn't like that he thinks he would have a hard time getting into it and enjoying it.
He also feels the same way about women. He really wants to bring home girls as well but because I don't want him to fuck any of them he feels there is no balance. I could care less if I never get fucked by another man other than my fiance, and he says he doesn't want to fuck another woman. It's the fact that I'm ok with being fucked, but not ok with him fucking another woman. I told him it's because he is so into me getting fucked that it turns me on. Again, he doesn't believe me! We had a threesome with a girl and I told her to sit on his face and told her to suck his cock. But because I'm not ok with him fucking her he says it is unbalanced. DOES ANYONE UNDERSTAND THIS WHOLE BALANCE THING?
I feel frustrated because I feel like I am really willing to indulge him and get into what he likes, but it's still not good enough! :(
He also is afraid to do anything with a bisexual guy in front of me because he is terrified I will look at him differently. He says he loves the way I view and look at him and it would kill him if he ever did anything to change that.
I think the fact that we love each other so much and we would both do anything to make the other happy, we have found ourselves in a dilemna.
I do have a small fear that his urges to be with men will only grow and grow as he gets older. On the other hand, there were things he said that he used to think were super hot when he was younger and when he tried them he didn't really like them at all.
I don't know. Help Please!