Bi FWB only no longer into guys.

[nolist86]

Long story short I've been sleeping with this guy on and off for over nine months. Just this week he text me and said that he no longer was into guys and only wanted to sleep with women now. I honestly don't believe him and I can't seem to understand why he would no longer want to continue sleeping with me being that I always please him and I am super tight to the point sometimes it keeps him from being able to stick it in. I have a feeling that at some point he will text me and want to hook up but I cant sit around waiting for that day to come.
I told him that I understood if he felt that it was something that he must do...those were my last words to him but I really wish we still were fuck buddies. It's just really strange to me...last time when we were together he couldn't stop smile and his eyes had stars in them every time he looked at me. What do you all think is the case and what should I do?

[elian]

For a long time I didn't WANT to be gay - I was letting society judge me based on stereotypes and because of it I had a lot of self-loathing. Wanted to be close to men and do things with men, but I always felt bad about it afterward. I wasn't mature enough and did not have enough experience in relationships to really know what I wanted and really know that I could be attracted to both.

if the "psychobabble" above doesn't seem to make sense then it could be simpler than that .. if your FWB is also seeing someone else, like his wife - then it may have just been too risky to continue seeing other people.

[Long Duck Dong]

two words, fluid sexuality.... he may have shifted more towards females than males

there are many other possibles....like he may have found a female partner that he wants to build a relationship with, but only he can say for sure......

FwB situations are not set in stone, and thats part of the issue that some people can have when they get too involved with the other person.... when it comes to a parting of the ways, its hard..... and often we do not realise that we have become so emotionally connected with the other person....

my simple advice is to breath a heavy sigh and accept that things are not always what we want them to be.... and spend some time making sure that you are stable enuf to move on with your life...

[dafydd]

rejection through text can be both terrible and a blessing when you've only been out on a few dates)
but after 9 months? and with an embarrassingly lame reason like his.?
Don't think you want that sort of guy hanging around anyway.
In any case he doesn't want you and so it's a waste of time wondering why.
that sounds a bit harsh but isn't meant to be.

[keefer201]

For a long time I didn't WANT to be gay - I was letting society judge me based on stereotypes and because of it I had a lot of self-loathing. Wanted to be close to men and do things with men, but I always felt bad about it afterward. I wasn't mature enough and did not have enough experience in relationships to really know what I wanted and really know that I could be attracted to both.

if the "psychobabble" above doesn't seem to make sense then it could be simpler than that .. if your FWB is also seeing someone else, like his wife - then it may have just been too risky to continue seeing other people.

If I am reading you right, Elian, then this was probably the most on point response I've read in any forum here. What's amazing is the fact you said what you did in two short paragraphs. Some questions posted here concerning this subject, and I am speaking only from my point of view, are more a matter of "acceptance" than any other variable.

[Rhevan]

I am sorry but I feel I have to point out the obvious.... OP how do you know the text was actually from HIM? There have been many occasions when friends or partners will send messages to someone to cause issues or it could have been his phone was stolen and messages were read and something was sent to just cause issues. If you have any way to contact him to verify without seeming stalkerish, I'd do that. It seems as though from your last statement about how he had stars in his eyes that there might be more to the story than you have been told.

In either case, I do wish you luck. It's hard to lose someone you make a connection with no matter how flippant others may see it just as a fuck buddy but to you he was more, he was someone you were close to and it appears more than just sex.


Rhevan

[want2havefun]

It would seem to me that you may have forgotten that 'fwb' does not mean you have a commitment. Fwb situations generally are by nature no strings attached interactions. Its best not to fool one's self when engaged in one that it is more than that. Such relations invariably end, not because there is anything wrong with either of you, but for any or no reason. Also as stated by another poster human sexual nature is fluid and apt to change.

[newporter4u]

I think you should move on with you life as he is doing with his. Sure he could be going through a stage in his life where he wants women over men but you have to consider that maybe you were the stage of his life where he wanted guys over gals.