bityme
Dec 4, 2011, 3:48 PM
We have been following the interesting discussions on the two threads referred to above.
Seems like everything boils down to the promises you made to your S/O because you got together on a 24/7 basis, paid a license fee, or otherwise became a permanent relationship.
As a couple, we met in the lifestyle which we both enjoy. We both are bisexual and enjoy watching and participating in the activities of each other with either gender and transgendered individuals. To complicate things we also fell in love and are getting married this month.
While two "M" words, matrimony and marriage, are in our vocabulary, one "M" word, monogamy is not. The "F" word, fidelity, is also foreign to us.
While we do believe in discretion, we are open and honest with each other, so cheating is not an issue.
With all this in mind, we wrote our own wedding ceremony. Here are just a few excerpts from it. You might note that words like "obey" and "faithful" are not present. We have, however, included in our commitment the promise to join with each other in seeking the best of life's experiences.
Perhaps, those thinking of entering into a relationship should consider what they want from it and reject the use of some standard ceremony, the words of which might come back to haunt you in later years. We did, and the time taken to write our own ceremony really helped us define our own relationship.
Pappy & Ms Tiff
What do you think of the following?
A Few Excerpts from the Officiant:
To make this relationship work, therefore, takes more than love. It takes trust, to know in your hearts that you want only the best for each other. It takes dedication, to stay open to one another, to learn and grow, even when it is difficult to do so. And it takes faith, to go forward together without knowing what the future holds for you both. While love is our natural state of being, these other qualities are not as easy to come by. They are not a destination, but a journey.
The true art of married life is in this an inner spiritual journey. It is a mutual enrichment, a give and take between two personalities, a mingling of two endowments that diminishes neither, but enhances both.
Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life. Happiness is fuller; memories are fresher; commitment is stronger; even anger is felt more strongly, and passes away more quickly. Marriage understands and forgives the mistakes life is unable to avoid. It encourages and nurtures new life, new experiences, and new ways of expressing love through the seasons of life. When two people pledge to love and care for each other in marriage they create a spirit unique to themselves, which binds them closer than any spoken or written words. Marriage is a promise, a potential, made in the hearts of two people who love, which takes a lifetime to fulfill.
The Vows:
[Recited by both]
Will you take this woman/man, whose hands you hold, choosing her/him alone to be your wedded wife/husband? Will you live with her/him in the state of true matrimony? Will you love her/him, comfort her/him, through good times and bad, in sickness and in health, honor her/him at all times, and cherish her/him? Will you support her/him and be her/his helpmate as a part of her/his family?
The Commitment:
[Recited by both]
We entered into each others’ lives
and experienced love and happiness.
I find joy in the fact that we compliment each other
and that we are complete individuals in and of ourselves.
Today I am confirming my promise
for all of my life to love and respect you,
to cherish you and be honest with you,
to give you encouragement, strength and trust,
to join with you in seeking the best of life’s experiences
and to enjoy with you all that life offers,
to stand together in our times of joy and of sorrow.
I pray that our home will be one
of love and understanding and patience ...
not to remain the same,
but to grow better and stronger with the passing of time,
through the love we have for one another.
I am promising from this day forward that I will be your husband/wife,
to walk with you throughout all your tomorrows.
I love you.
Seems like everything boils down to the promises you made to your S/O because you got together on a 24/7 basis, paid a license fee, or otherwise became a permanent relationship.
As a couple, we met in the lifestyle which we both enjoy. We both are bisexual and enjoy watching and participating in the activities of each other with either gender and transgendered individuals. To complicate things we also fell in love and are getting married this month.
While two "M" words, matrimony and marriage, are in our vocabulary, one "M" word, monogamy is not. The "F" word, fidelity, is also foreign to us.
While we do believe in discretion, we are open and honest with each other, so cheating is not an issue.
With all this in mind, we wrote our own wedding ceremony. Here are just a few excerpts from it. You might note that words like "obey" and "faithful" are not present. We have, however, included in our commitment the promise to join with each other in seeking the best of life's experiences.
Perhaps, those thinking of entering into a relationship should consider what they want from it and reject the use of some standard ceremony, the words of which might come back to haunt you in later years. We did, and the time taken to write our own ceremony really helped us define our own relationship.
Pappy & Ms Tiff
What do you think of the following?
A Few Excerpts from the Officiant:
To make this relationship work, therefore, takes more than love. It takes trust, to know in your hearts that you want only the best for each other. It takes dedication, to stay open to one another, to learn and grow, even when it is difficult to do so. And it takes faith, to go forward together without knowing what the future holds for you both. While love is our natural state of being, these other qualities are not as easy to come by. They are not a destination, but a journey.
The true art of married life is in this an inner spiritual journey. It is a mutual enrichment, a give and take between two personalities, a mingling of two endowments that diminishes neither, but enhances both.
Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life. Happiness is fuller; memories are fresher; commitment is stronger; even anger is felt more strongly, and passes away more quickly. Marriage understands and forgives the mistakes life is unable to avoid. It encourages and nurtures new life, new experiences, and new ways of expressing love through the seasons of life. When two people pledge to love and care for each other in marriage they create a spirit unique to themselves, which binds them closer than any spoken or written words. Marriage is a promise, a potential, made in the hearts of two people who love, which takes a lifetime to fulfill.
The Vows:
[Recited by both]
Will you take this woman/man, whose hands you hold, choosing her/him alone to be your wedded wife/husband? Will you live with her/him in the state of true matrimony? Will you love her/him, comfort her/him, through good times and bad, in sickness and in health, honor her/him at all times, and cherish her/him? Will you support her/him and be her/his helpmate as a part of her/his family?
The Commitment:
[Recited by both]
We entered into each others’ lives
and experienced love and happiness.
I find joy in the fact that we compliment each other
and that we are complete individuals in and of ourselves.
Today I am confirming my promise
for all of my life to love and respect you,
to cherish you and be honest with you,
to give you encouragement, strength and trust,
to join with you in seeking the best of life’s experiences
and to enjoy with you all that life offers,
to stand together in our times of joy and of sorrow.
I pray that our home will be one
of love and understanding and patience ...
not to remain the same,
but to grow better and stronger with the passing of time,
through the love we have for one another.
I am promising from this day forward that I will be your husband/wife,
to walk with you throughout all your tomorrows.
I love you.